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She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by dearie(m): 5:19pm On Jul 26, 2006
I have a female friend whom i admire so much as a friend but she wants a relationship and i dont think I fancy her enough or can ever nurse any romantic feelings for her, but the problem now is, she introduces this friend of hers to me, whom i think i want for a relationship, the more i see this friend of hers, the more convinced i get about my feelings for her. We are actually close and she's begining to notice my green light, and fears her friend would feel betrayed if she dances to my tune.

I'm lost, what do i do?
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by Busta(f): 5:39pm On Jul 26, 2006
u're in a big one guy!
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by Badman888(m): 5:41pm On Jul 26, 2006
the best thing for u to go for is her friend, because if its not mutual feeling it wont last, you can displease yourself to please anyone else, try explain to her if she dosent agree its her headache she would get over it,
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by ayoeze11(m): 5:44pm On Jul 26, 2006
Sit her down, talk to her then go for her friend she should understand if she is matured
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by Nosu(m): 6:08pm On Jul 26, 2006
yea, this is a study l am on, right now. those that want to be with us are not, those will want to be with.brother, if u had nothing with her b4 now except the friendship u said, explain things to her and go for the lady u love. and if u had that is pure betrayer.
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by ayoeze11(m): 6:11pm On Jul 26, 2006
Nosu:

yea, this is a study l am on, right now. those that want to be with us are not, those will want to be with.brother, if u had nothing with her before now except the friendship u said, explain things to her and go for the lady u love. and if u had that is pure betrayer.
Good talk Nosu support
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by Rhodalyn(f): 6:15pm On Jul 26, 2006
do not go in for any Of them Cuz if U do, then it'S bound to tear their friendship apart, as much as Ur happiness IS involved it'S better U Sacrifice for their friendship
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by iice(f): 7:41pm On Jul 26, 2006
Holy crap! U talk 2 ur friend, tell her it aint gonna work out 4 u coz u dont have romantic feelings towards her but u got the hots 4 her friend lol, if she's matured or worldly enuff, she'l understand. If she likes her friend enuf, she'l get over it and set her cap on some1 else.
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by mubowa(f): 7:54pm On Jul 26, 2006
child, you need to face the reality and go for what you want, since you no is not gonna hurt you . she gonna hate you and her friend though, but do you care ?
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by mubowa(f): 7:56pm On Jul 26, 2006
and what if you go for the friend and she turn you down don't you think you loss in both ways? think about it baby
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by iice(f): 8:00pm On Jul 26, 2006
Ok seriously, U need to decide which is more important to you, the friendship or the "possible" relationship. And once u're clear on that , U have 2 talk 2 your friend and be clear about your friendship and then as i said in my last post, she either accepts it or she doesnt. Either way its always best 2 play things straight down the line smiley Goodluck
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by eveseh(f): 10:29pm On Jul 26, 2006
too bad
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by beyunce(f): 9:27am On Jul 27, 2006
But u met her friend through her abi? and she made it clear too u that she wanted u.

The best thing is too just tell her that u dont want her.

And she would leave with her friend.

Which means stay away from da friend.
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by dearie(m): 12:47am On Jul 29, 2006
@ beyunce
I wish it was that easy!
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by DaHitler(m): 1:56am On Jul 29, 2006
What kind of sissy man are you? Talk to the girl that likes you. Have your way with her. Work on the relationship a little bit. And then pull away. A few days later, tell her if she really loves you, she would let you have her friend. As a gift. Demand it!
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by Damest09(f): 2:02am On Jul 29, 2006
Friends usually disappoint one way or the other no matter how long, the only thing that can survive is true love. Talk to your friend and go with your gut instinct but make sure you search yourself well and know well that you really love the girl before you approach her. Also, their is a risk of losing both girls.
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by Cleofel(f): 4:24pm On Jul 31, 2006
all u have to do is to talk to ur friend in a nice way n make her understand how u feel about her n i think she will understand and hook u up with her friend,it's simple.
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by opeemi1(m): 7:37pm On Jul 31, 2006
dearie:
I have a female friend whom i admire so much as a friend but she wants a relationship and i don't think I fancy her enough or can ever nurse any romantic feelings for her

Since you already told her that, then why are u scared to tell her that you are already interested in her friend, she might take it bad first but she will later understand ur feelings for her friend, or can she hurt you both or does she have some mystique powers to ruin u both

dearie:
We are actually close and she's begining to notice my green light, and fears her friend would feel betrayed if she dances to my tune.

Tell her to tell her friend, if she is the understanding type, u got no problem, and if shes got a problem tell her that in the beginning u guys have settled to just be intimate friends.

dearie:
I'm lost, what do i do?

Just tell her u still her friend and will always be, just that it can't go beyond that. Sorry if I have damaged your heart in any form, simple. Just make sure u don't piss her off, instead calm her down and talk reasonable words.

I wish you goodluck cool
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by Cleofel(f): 9:47pm On Jul 31, 2006
@ope_emi
U need a very big clap cuz u said all.
GOOD LUCK
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by opeemi1(m): 9:24am On Aug 01, 2006
Cleofel:

@ope_emi
U need a very big clap because u said all.
GOOD LUCK

Thanks cleofel, all in the days jobs. cool
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by coolty(m): 12:02pm On Aug 02, 2006
Your case is very simple,if you love her friend and you are you afre sure about it
then go for because love is the basis of all relationship.As for your friend when the
opportunity make sure you break it to her that you just want to be her friend
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by meetmeanny(f): 3:36pm On Aug 02, 2006
Guy go for who you love,i've experienced this kin of thing b4.because my friend told him shewant him and insisted the guy not being man enough agreed to her you know what they are no longer together again.and he has to come for me but too late.
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by janetgurl: 5:36pm On Aug 02, 2006
just tell her that u want her friend
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by Nobody: 5:54pm On Aug 02, 2006
Tell her how you feel. I know its hard but you have to do it. And for her friend tell her you would like to start something with her.
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by duttybarb(f): 6:03pm On Aug 02, 2006
ask urself carefully if wat u want 2 do is worth messin up friends. u men cnt kp thnkin wit ur dicks. d gal too sef prob'ly knws wat her friend feels 4 u, 2 of u shld thnk carefully abt it and handle it maturely. its nt worth it, honestly!
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by duttybarb(f): 6:10pm On Aug 02, 2006
ask urself carefully if wat u want 2 do is worth messin up friends. u men cnt kp thnkin wit ur dicks. d gal too sef prob'ly knws wat her friend feels 4 u, 2 of u shld thnk carefully abt it and handle it maturely. its nt worth it, honestly!
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by hammers(m): 10:28am On Mar 10, 2008
U'd better tell ur friend first before attemptin to date her friend cos she'll do anything and everything possible to make sure it dosent work btw the 2 of u.Make her feel important , show her u hold so much u respect for her . Tell her to guide u in makin ur plans come true.Am sure she'll most likely me forced to show her support 4u.

Good luck!
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by easybaby2(f): 2:12pm On Mar 10, 2008
follow ur @rt dude
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by olulu(m): 2:32pm On Mar 10, 2008
the fact is, in as much as u have made no such commitments to the 1st chick,
or made pass at her either, or even given her reason to think that u are interetsed in her,
then follow ur heart boy, just use ur head.
sumtin close to that happened to me,
and it just happened that she never got to find out we were dating until 2/3 years after,
her friend didn't tell her, and i didn't too,
did i plan it that way? nope, i didn't. i just played it cool and quiet.
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by Nautillus(m): 6:06pm On Mar 10, 2008
janet.gurl:

just tell her that u want her friend

Exactly. GBAM
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by tommyex(m): 6:14pm On Mar 10, 2008
That was 2006 for crying out loud!!
Re: She Wants Me But I Want Her Friend by ADORAK: 7:19pm On Jul 04, 2009
you all not giving good advice you like the girl but remember with out your friend you wod had neva meet her but again you still love her just 4get about all of them and move on try to avoid coz if you ask this girl you love out i doubt she is going to say yes because of her freind . TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOD LIKE TO BE TREATED . how wod you feel if you liked this girl and she liked your friend . even if your friend says its ok you can date her friend . i know she wod be lieing

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