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Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by mo2raur(f): 8:01am On Sep 27, 2014 |
1. Trying to make each other jealous via Instagram photos It usually starts like this, “I’m gonna take this photo ‘cause this guy I like is gonna see it and then he’s gonna fall in love with me. Or text me.” We’ve all done it. But THEN, there’s another level that’s the really, really bad kind and that’s when the intention turns into “I’m gonna do this ’cause the girl he’s dating isn’t as good as me and when he sees it he’ll know.” Don’t do that to your sister, you don’t know her. Or maybe you DO and maybe she does suck. Don’t manipulate how awesome YOU are by trying to make her look silly, just keep being awesome. It’ll speak for itself. 2. Private messaging other people’s boyfriends Unless this guy is your close friend and his girlfriend is not only comfortable with you, but knows you, a private Facebook message isn’t necessary. It isn’t an email that’s more formal, it isn’t a text that’s open and direct, a Facebook message is something that lingers. It opens doors. It’s late night chats when you’re feeling lonely and something his girlfriend will most likely never see. Don’t do that. Anything you can or want to say to him should be okay enough to say publicly, if it isn’t, you shouldn’t say it. Private conversations are a relationship privilege, you’re not in one with him. 3. Complimenting how skinny each other look Listen, we DO totally love it. No matter how cool and confident you are with your body, it feels good when someone says, “You look greatttttt, you look sooo skinny.” However, it also sends a teeny tiny message that when I was a mere seven pounds bigger I didn’t look that great. I want to eat dessert after every meal for two weeks straight if I want and not worry that you’ll think my beauty is conditional to seven pounds. 4. Withholding compliments When you see a fellow goddess and you know she looks like a goddess, she’s glowing and her outfit is great. She’s confident and you can tell, which is making her look even more beautiful. Don’t keep it to yourself. Tell her, “you look stunning.” Even if she’s a stranger. Having a man tell you you’re beautiful creates heart flutters, but having a girl tell you you’re beautiful transcends a whole lot more than just a flirtatious icebreaker. 5. Admiring women who have “Mean Girls Syndrome” This one is really troublesome. It’s troublesome because it reinforces the idea that in order for you to be powerful whether in social status, love or business you have to be willing to step over the bodies. It’s creating a culture of insecure and jealous women who invalidate kindness, when really, that’s what we need the most. In any situation. 6. Swooping in on someone’s dude If he is dating someone, even if they aren’t exclusive yet… don’t go in there and go rogue because you’re competitive and wanna “win.” Go on the Bachelor if that’s what’s appealing about sex and dating. Pining over someone that’s splitting their attention makes your fellow girls feel like we’re against each other as opposed to for each other. Leave your ego and your heart in different arenas. 7. Imitating the girl who gets “more guys than you do” Dating, mating and loving is not a race. It’s personal to each person and trying to be or act like someone who has more love, sex or names in her Little Black Book does nothing for your confidence. Building a relationship based on false advertisement is bound to fail. If you’re not super inspirational, but she posts an inspiring quote on Facebook, don’t go quoting Louise Hay tomorrow. Inauthenticity can be seen from a mile, a bar length or a “scroll” away. 8. Sending each other passive aggressive emoji texts If I did something to piss you off, I DARE YOU to send me a heart text as a response. Use your words. Playing to the Real Housewives side of ourselves instead of the high-minded and effectively communicative version is a waste of everyone’s time. And a lack of evolution. 9. Dating all the same guys in the friend circle First of all. I love you and I think you’re probably great in bed, a total vixen. But, I want to vomit the second I remember that you’ve had sex with the guy I’m dating. I know, you were drinking jalapeno-infused tequila and your friends left you at that bar I forget the name of and he was willing to share his Uber home and poof, it only happened four times. NBD. NO. big, big, deal. Here’s why: these guys think you can’t find something better and that’s why they’re still treating you like an asshole. They don’t respect you, or your friends. Move on, branch out. Find a dude who does. 10. Hating each other’s boyfriends Every now and then you have a girlfriend whose boyfriend is less than favorable. As her friend your job is to express concern if she’s unhappy, but if she stays with him you have to try to be kind. If he isn’t hurting her, you just simply don’t appreciate his personality flaws, a constant expression of that opinion to her will only ruin your friendship. It’s her lesson and relationship to learn, not yours. 11. Only bringing your boyfriend drama to the brunch conversation Sisterhood is 100% about support, listening and nurturing. BUT, that doesn’t mean you get to continuously bring the same issue, the same upset, the same irritation to every brunch or dinner party. Come prepared with things that excite, inspire, interest and invigorate you. Don’t come to bacon only to bitch. Also, don’t anticipate that your girlfriends have nothing better to talk about than men. They’ve got plenty. They’re taking on a new leadership position at work, they’re passionate about a new cause, they’re hurting because their father is losing his job and they can’t help. Talk about other areas of the heart. There are more than one. 12. Knocking each other down for being successful SHE GOT A PROMOTION! SHE’S GOING ON TOUR! HER HUSBAND IS BASICALLY RYAN GOSLING NOTEBOOK VERSION! I hate her. Women, (especially the ones in your circle) finding joy and happiness is not a threat to you if you recognize that success isn’t limited. Happiness doesn’t go out of stock. If the ones around you are living their dream lives, you’re in good company. Your time will come. Covet nothing, congratulate everything. 13. Calling each other ugly When are we going to understand that beauty is relative? IT’S RELATIVE. If you think someone is ugly, keep it classy and keep it to yourself. Deciding to bring it up to a friend-group how unattractive someone is shows where you place your value and if you think external beauty is the most important virtue, who’s the ugly one? 14. Praising Beyoncé before praising your Mother ….or your best friend. Or your teacher. Or the single mom on your block who’s raising two rambunctious boys and working two jobs. The more we put people on a pedestal who have a literal team of people hoisting them up there, the less we make the women who are doing the best they can feel validated and appreciated. Don’t forget that yes, you have as many hours in a day as Beyoncé, but you don’t have: two personal assistants, a driver, a manager, a hairstylist, a trainer, a makeup artist, a nanny, a stylist, a publicist, a creative team, a… you get the picture. You have YOU, you deserve to be praised and so do the chicks around you holding it together with bubblegum, enthusiasm and some affordable face cream. 15. Not admit that they’ve done all of the above Raise your hand if you’re guilty. Raise your hand if you’re lying. There we go. Let’s stop these shenanigans. We learn, we grow and then we do better next time. Taking responsibility for your mistakes is brave and bravery is an underrated female attribute. BY: Chelsea Latimer 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Justeenaleo(f): 8:15am On Sep 27, 2014 |
I love the write up |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by marieolae(f): 8:18am On Sep 27, 2014 |
I can totally relate to dis. Some girls can be really bitchy sometimes. I prefer to keep male friends. My bestie is actually a male! |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by jairusben(m): 8:23am On Sep 27, 2014 |
ladys eehn...all d same na because of guys.oooo...guys we rock abeg 1 Like |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Tymax(m): 8:37am On Sep 27, 2014 |
jairusben: ladys eehn...all d same na because of guys.oooo...guys we rock abegGbam! Chop knuckle |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Nobody: 8:47am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Justeenaleo: I love the write up..Are you guilty?? |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by vizkiz: 9:04am On Sep 27, 2014 |
marieolae: I can totally relate to dis. Some girls can be really bitchy sometimes. I prefer to keep male friends. My bestie is actually a male! So you'v been keeping lotta guys in the friendzone |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by ucheokpara100(m): 9:24am On Sep 27, 2014 |
first and foremost thank u op 4 dis wide comprehensive analisis, we need 2 learn and accept d areas we 're weak and make changes, i still beliv gradualy d world 'll be d best place 2 cos, cos dis nt hw it ws and dis nt hw it's goin 2 remain, d will of god 'll com 2 stay. |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Nobody: 9:31am On Sep 27, 2014 |
GIrLS, UnA deY heaR aBi?? |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by marieolae(f): 9:35am On Sep 27, 2014 |
vizkiz:haba which wun is friend zone again oh. We r friends nd nutin can go beyond dat lool |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Crocz(m): 9:39am On Sep 27, 2014 |
All I can deduce from this write up is the op sending a plea *pls don't snatch my bf"!... |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by OohMpa: 9:57am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Justeenaleo: I love the write up Justeen, it's your time of the week |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by mo2raur(f): 10:05am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Crocz: All I can deduce from this write up is the op sending a plea *pls don't snatch my bf"!... Hahahahahahahaha..... Anyway your thought is not true but if my bf is snatch by any of my friends then the guy is not the right person for me. |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by MisterLongman(m): 10:19am On Sep 27, 2014 |
marieolae: I can totally relate to dis. Some girls can be really bitchy sometimes. I prefer to keep male friends. My bestie is actually a male!This is one the things the Op is talking about....... Calling your fellow females bitchy 3 Likes |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Crocz(m): 10:20am On Sep 27, 2014 |
mo2raur: Yeah, you right...but sometimes you just have to protect your investment before the "hawks" come calling 1 Like |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by marieolae(f): 10:21am On Sep 27, 2014 |
MisterLongman: This is one the things the Op is talking about....... Calling your fellow females bitchythis is the truth my dear, as much as I hate to admit it. The main reason why I keep male friends. |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by THAINDIVIDUAL(m): 10:25am On Sep 27, 2014 |
marieolae: I can totally relate to dis. Some girls can be really bitchy sometimes. I prefer to keep male friends. My bestie is actually a male!Friendzoned Niggur |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by marieolae(f): 10:26am On Sep 27, 2014 |
THAINDIVIDUAL:hahaha! |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by THAINDIVIDUAL(m): 10:29am On Sep 27, 2014 |
marieolae: hahaha!give me his digit, he needs deliverance. |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by marieolae(f): 10:30am On Sep 27, 2014 |
THAINDIVIDUAL: give me his digit, he needs deliverance.dem sef, na only friendship dem want ohh |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by MisterLongman(m): 10:33am On Sep 27, 2014 |
marieolae: this is the truth my dear, as much as I hate to admit it. The main reason why I keep male friends.But you just admitted it...... Try to use better word next time, bitchy is offensive 2 Likes |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by marieolae(f): 10:33am On Sep 27, 2014 |
MisterLongman: But you just admitted it...... Try to use better word next time, bitchy is offensiveok saa! |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by THAINDIVIDUAL(m): 10:34am On Sep 27, 2014 |
marieolae: dem sef, na only friendship dem want ohh Ok, you're forgiven. Go and sin no more. New commandment for you: thou shalt not friendzone any niggur |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by marieolae(f): 10:37am On Sep 27, 2014 |
THAINDIVIDUAL:Amen!!! 1 Like |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by DaWorshiper(m): 10:38am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Good advice! |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Nobody: 10:40am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Not guilty |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Nobody: 10:47am On Sep 27, 2014 |
Elantracey: Not guilty I wish it was True. 1 Like |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Nobody: 1:19pm On Sep 27, 2014 |
God bless you. I swear girls just annoy me |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by KelvinGraphics(m): 1:22pm On Sep 27, 2014 |
Tymax:Oya o, chop knuckle here too |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by KelvinGraphics(m): 1:25pm On Sep 27, 2014 |
marieolae: hahaha!Wia ris Naijaboiy and Kiddablingzz eeeeh |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Nobody: 1:34pm On Sep 27, 2014 |
Ma bestie is still a guy and will forever be. It's hard to find a true friend in females. Yeaaaaaaa...guys rock. Not guilty ooo. |
Re: Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other. by Nobody: 1:41pm On Sep 27, 2014 |
FrankySnow: Ma bestie is still a guy and will forever be. It's hard to find a true friend in females.but come o, y ar ladies scared of their own female folks because I have found so many ladies say same thing. |
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