Finding out that a girlfriend is cheating on you can be a sickening shock. There is so much press about men cheating on women, but the truth is that women can be unfaithful as well. If you suspect that your girlfriend is cheating, look for a combination of tell tale signs and clues. However, keep in mind that there is no more definitive sign of cheating other than catching your girlfriend in the act.


1. She pays more attention to her phone than you.


If you inevitably spend every dinner glaring at her as she pivots between various social networks and replies to every text message that springs up, don’t be too quick to write her behavior off as a sign of the times.

Sure, we’re all guilty of being so overly engrossed in our digital lives that we neglect the present moment. But if she makes a continual habit of talking to her Twitter followers more than you during dinner dates, it may point to her lack of investment in the relationship, not just her fleeting attention span. We don’t want to say she might be spending your night together making plans with someone else, but stranger things have happened.

2. Increased Privacy


Is your wife or girlfriend less likely to let you look at her phone and does she keep it away from you? Perhaps, she is using the vibrate instead of the ring and even pressing the ignore option far more than she used to. Is she giggling about messages that she doesn’t share with you? Is she texting more than she ever did before? Is there an element of privacy she displays over her phone? There could even be a second phone if the other relationship is that significant. You can tell your woman is cheating on you if she insists on keeping her things private and doesn’t share as openly as she used to.


3. Avoiding the questions


If your wife or girlfriend starts avoiding simple questions that you ask her, there are high chances that she is hiding some truth. Avoiding questions is an obvious indication that she is looking for a lie. The woman may also act defensively if you persist with the questions.


4. She frequently talks about a new male friend


Sometimes a friend is just a friend, but if your girlfriend speaks of one new male friend more than any other, she may be having an affair with him.

5. Sexier Underwear


When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume (and that could go either way, stronger to cover the scent of his aftershave or lighter because he’s not fond of heavy fragrances). She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.


6. She Stops Caring


Women are wired to care about the smallest details about their men and relationships. She cares how many times you call and whether you make time for her. She gets angry with you when you forget those important dates in your relationship and will make a big fuss about it. So when your lady stops caring that you didn’t call and when she doesn’t throw a fit that you forgot all your special dates, then you have cause to worry.


7. Change In Appearance


When you were dating, your woman went to great lengths to look amazing for you and consistently made your heart stop. But after dating for a while or after marriage it seems that she doesn’t care so much like before, which is normal. Has your woman started again dressing a little more special out of the blue? Does she suddenly seem to pay extra attention to her appearance while leaving to meet up her girls, more than when going out with you? She may be out to impress and catch the attentions of another man.


8. No Interest Intimacy


In a relationship the couple builds on intimacy by having sex. If there is no more interest or urge to have sex with you, it is obvious there are chances of unfaithfulness. These are signs that she has already engaged in sex with her new found love.


9. She will start having secret schedules


The moment your woman becomes secretive in her schedules, it clearly shows that there is something she is hiding. She could hide here where abouts and start having a lot of business trips that care unexplained. If you find yourself knowing less about her itinerary, there is reason to worry.

10. Acting defensively


If your woman is cheating on you she is afraid of getting caught; she will get defensive and anything you ask or say to her will be taken as an accusation. You can know she is cheating if she is defensive about how she spends her time, who she spends it with and when she refuses to answer simple questions.


11. Sudden strange friends


If your woman begins to have mysterious friends that are taking most of her time, there are high chances that she is cheating on you. It does not matter whether it is a friend or a workmate but as long as she is not willing to disclose more information, it is a direct telltale sign that she is cheating. As usual, it does not take a psychologist’s mind or an expert to know if a woman is cheating.


12. She is now independent


Being independent with you is one of the early signs that should tell you something is not right. The woman will want to share less time and sensitive information with you so that you do not discover her new ways. In some cases, she may start using “You and I” instead of ”We” and this is a clear indication that you are no longer part of her future plans. These are actions that indicate the woman no longer needs you in her picture.


13. Carefully watch her eyes!


When you are in public, dining, at a bar any social function. Do you see her eyes darting about more than usual… is she scanning the room? If her attention to you seems less intense, it probably is. Even if her new partner is aware of you, she will always be “casing” the situation, always trying to be prepared for the unexpected encounter…

Another sign to look for: You are sitting across the table from her and the topic of your feelings for one another comes up. Is she looking you straight in the eyes hanging on your every word – or is she looking down or past you or maybe her gaze is glossy and unfocused. Her sincerity towards you is in her eyes, especially when she utters the phrase “I love you.” If she is not looking you straight in the eye when she says that, there could be a problem.

These signs are a clear indication that your woman is cheating on you, or intends to do so. If there is no cheating, the same signs may be a suggestion that the relationship is not where it should be, but don’t get paranoid unless there is a combination of the above signs that make you feel like something is wrong.


If the many signs above add up, consider asking her directly if she is seeing someone else