I'm an introvert so I really am not into stopping a girl and vomiting rubbish about how I would love to have her number or would like to date her or all those shid. So I really have to get close to any girl I feel something for and then slowly work from there but like seriously, its not working out.

Under one week, two potential girlfriends are now out of the equation. One of them came around on Thursday, she saw me and gave me this big hug with this big grin plastered on her face then she dropped the bombshell!!! A guy she's being eyeing has asked her out and she can't just wait to go on a first date with him. I wan give am better slap(I was ready to fight undertaker for this girl, I always helped her out, both financially et all) Why should she do this to me?

And just this evening (Monday evening), the other gal was like, "I have to start going. I have to see my boyfriend". Jesus!!!!
"Amaka you get boyfriend? Since when kwanu?" She said the guy isn't officially his boyfriend but she's counting down to his proposal... I WAS CRUSHED!!! (Gal wey I fight my village Oracle for in a dream)

Abeg, Nairalanders, what am I doing wrong that seems to land me in this bad predicament?

u r leing too much to yourself.

alabiyemmy:
u r leing too much to yourself.

I don't understand you. mind elucidating?

As you spend quality time getting close to them and trying to "slowly work from there", you're equally renting a mansion in their" friend zone" estate. That's simply your problem.

Lol, OP is the first guy on NL to friendzone himself to ladies.
U had two close ladies and couldn't ask any for a date and watch em go?
Man-up bro, it won't do you harm to speak ur mind to a lady.

Heheheh.... D guy friendzoned himself... Eleyi gidi gan

valdes00:
Heheheh.... D guy friendzoned himself... Eleyi gidi gan

I think you need to let societal or peer pressure off you. Don't succumb to it. It's not a must that everyone must have a girlfriend at a particular time. Enjoy your life. Have fun with your friends. Trust me single life is a bliss. Develop yourself emotionally and otherwise. Then finally when you're ready to settle down, you won't find it difficult to get a nice lady.
Am introvert too.

@op Actually u need to express urself clearly to any lady u intend having a relationship with! odawise friendzoning go be ur permanent seat

suyamasta:
@op Actually u need to express urself clearly to any lady u intend having a relationship with! odawise friendzoning go be ur permanent seat

Not exactly... It has worked a couple of times...but right now, its just not

major466:
I think you need to let societal or peer pressure off you. Don't succumb to it. It's not a must that everyone must have a girlfriend at a particular time. Enjoy your life. Have fun with your friends. Trust me single life is a bliss. Develop yourself emotionally and otherwise. Then finally when you're ready to settle down, you won't find it difficult to get a nice lady.
Am introvert too.

Lol. My mind exactly.

The biggest mistake you could ever make would be to ask them out now. They would turn you down with glee.

Next time don't waste time.