I need to make a quick decision.

I have a gf whom I've been with for sometime now. She has all the wifey qualities a man can think of but I wouldn't say I love her much.
Now many suitors are coming for her hand in marriage and she wants me to have the final say.
Do I keep her or do I let her go? keeping in mind that finding a perfect wife material these days is not easy… (tear_rubber & all)

I need sincere contributions please

first of all, define love

chidekings:
first of all, define love

willing to lay everything for someone.

You've answer it already. You don't love her, so why are you still hanging on to her?
Are you an enemy of progress?

Wen u knew u didnt luv ar,y did u kip ar 4 xo long.

Vikkyk10:
Wen u knew u didnt luv ar much,y did u kip ar 4 xo long.

Please post what people can actually understand

pasqal09:


Please post what people can actually understand

hmm

It depends on u...
The feeling may start to develop after u guys get married..u may get tired of the marriage too quick if the feeling eventually refuse to spark up..

But if u tink she 'll make a good house wife, it will do u a lot of good.. '"he who find a wife..as found a good tin".. Not just any lady oo. But a wife.. A wifely wife

ERCROSS:
It depends on u...
The feeling may start to develop after u guys get married..but u may get tired of the marriage too quick if the feeling refuse to eventually spark up
But if u tink she 'll make a good house wife, it will do u a lot of good

seconded,luv after marriage is rare.U av 2 luv ur patner

Dpress:
I need to make a quick decision.

I have a gf whom I've been with for sometime now. She has all the wifey qualities a man can think of but I wouldn't say I love her much.
Now many suitors are coming for her hand in marriage and she wants me to have the final say.
Do I keep her or do I let her go? keeping in mind that finding a perfect wife material these days is not easy… (tear_rubber & all)

I need sincere contributions please

Let her go. You don't deserve her

farano:
Let her go. You don't deserve her

abi o

Vikkyk10:
abi o

Yes na...People do not value what they have until they lose it.

OP, after a few years of marriage, you will find that Love alone is not enough. These qualities you find in her, if genuine are the bastions that would hold true when the rocky times start and bet me, they will.

You can learn to love her with time; the question is whether the basic foundation is there.

Some questions for you -
How is the sex? Mind blowing, great or just there? Sex is great and it will wane for a while but if really great would help to bring you back home after you gone out once or twice (in your case, you will most likely cheat).

How does she take critical decisions? Does she run them by you and end up doing what she wanted in the first place against your advice OR she just rolls over to do whatever you say? Must ideal scenario is your having a wife you can trust to make decisions together whether good or bad

Level of trust? Do you trust her and does she trust you? If there's no trust from either of you, then you're on some rocky road.

Anyways, the decision is yours to take, whether you stay with or let her go, you are the one that gets to leave with it for the rest of your life.

farano:
Yes na...People do not value what they have until they lose it.

I'm trying to avoid this from happening.
Maybe I could get to love her more. I hope.

kokosheen:
OP, after a few years of marriage, you will find that Love alone is not enough. These qualities you find in her, if genuine are the bastions that would hold true when the rocky times start and bet me, they will.

You can learn to love her with time; the question is whether the basic foundation is there.

Some questions for you -
How is the sex? Mind blowing, great or just there? Sex is great and it will wane for a while but if really great would help to bring you back home after you gone out once or twice (in your case, you will most likely cheat).

How does she take critical decisions? Does she run them by you and end up doing what she wanted in the first place against your advice OR she just rolls over to do whatever you say? Must ideal scenario is your having a wife you can trust to make decisions together whether good or bad

Level of trust? Do you trust her and does she trust you? If there's no trust from either of you, then you're on some rocky road.

Anyways, the decision is yours to take, whether you stay with or let her go, you are the one that gets to leave with it for the rest of your life.

Nice comment.. i can trust her with my life. She's still tear_rubber(untouched ). I didn't want to take away her pride when I wasn't so sure of my feelings for her.

What's the use of keeping her when you know you don't love her? You've been with her for sometime now and yet don't love her, you think you will when marry her? Please just let someone that appreciates and loves her marry her. Hope the one you get to love is a good wifey material.

you cant eat your cake and have it bro. you got to choose one. Is either you let her go or Marry her.
no time to check time.

MzPreshie:
What's the use of keeping her when you know you don't love her? You've been with her for sometime now and yet don't love her, you think you will when marry her? Please just let someone that appreciates and loves her marry her. Hope the one you get to love is a good wifey material.

Thanks

2goodbobo:
you cant eat your cake and have it bro. you got to choose one. Is either you let her go or Marry her.
no time to check time.

I know. That's why I need to decide asap

Dpress:
I need to make a quick decision.

I have a gf whom I've been with for sometime now. She has all the wifey qualities a man can think of but I wouldn't say I love her much.
Now many suitors are coming for her hand in marriage and she wants me to have the final say.
Do I keep her or do I let her go? keeping in mind that finding a perfect wife material these days is not easy… (tear_rubber & all)

I need sincere contributions please

With all her qualities u are thinking to let her go Right
U don't love her
Go play

okkkk...so dis OP is one of those people who won't #bringbackourgirls.gat my eyyyyez on u.

farano:
Yes na...People do not value what they have until they lose it.

abì o