A lot of people shy away from long distance relationships because they feel it just won’t work out no matter how much effort they put in, but contrary to that belief, long distance relationships can actually be successful if the parties involved in it are aware of the pitfalls, and can strike an understanding to avoid them.

In my younger years, I had a few long distance affairs, and the reason they eventually crashed was because I wasn’t aware of the things I had to do or avoid at the time. Of course, after a couple of tries, I gave up on it too, but I also took out time to reflect on what could have gone wrong for me in those relationships, and here’s what I found…

 

INSUFFICIENT OR LACK OF COMMUNICATION

Long distance relationships like any other relationship require adequate communication to stay alive; when you don’t do this, it begins to die. It’s like planting a garden without watering it, what do you think will happen? Your partner needs to be constantly reassured that they mean something to you, and the only way to do that is by communicating with them as often as possible. Thank God, technology has made it possible for us to have different avenues of communication; social media and phone calls are all ways to stay in touch with one’s partner.

INSUFFICIENT OR NO VISITATIONS AT ALL

They say, “out of sight, out of mind”, so no matter how strongly you and your partner feel for each other, if you do not take out time to visit yourselves and share some together time, there’s every tendency for your relationship to crash. Calling and chatting are good, but seeing each other and being together adds something extra to your love. A lot of people do not get this, and that is why you see couples who see each other less than twice a year, and claim to be in a relationship; no sex, no kiss…nothing. That’s no relationship; I call it an acquaintance.

LACK OF TRUST

This has to be the biggest reason why all relationships fail…including long distance affairs. When you’re in a relationship with a person you do not trust, no matter what they do, you’ll have doubts, and these doubts are what cause the relationship to crash. My first real relationship was a long distance affair; we were deeply in love, but because we were both apart and saw only during semester breaks, trust issues began to creep in. She felt I wasn’t being true enough to her, and that I was cheating, and eventually, everything ended. So your love can be stronger than Romeo and Juliet’s, but if you do not build that trust, it will never work out.

MENTAL IMMATURITY

Mental immaturity makes people gullible; it is the reason a lot of people would rather follow their friends’ advice than their own hearts; this contributes to the failure of long distance relationships. Some people do not yet understand the way relationships work, they don’t realize how much sacrifices and efforts they’re required to put in to have a successful relationship; when these sort of people get involved with someone, they find it difficult to handle the relationship.

And those are the factors I consider responsible for the failure of most long distance relationships; if you feel I missed anything, please, feel free to mention it (them) in the comments’ area.

nice one op

@ keyke : thanks a lot!

@mods: pls front page material.

u re welcome OP, @mods do justice to dis thread. fp tins

Distance relationships are unreliable even among mature parties. Out of sight is out of mind.

There's is little joy in knowing that the object of your love is miles and miles away. Some individuals think to brave this and rush onto a plethora of heartbreaking obstacles which will chafe the determination they started with.

Risky business.

O.k

noted

No mata wat u preach ma broda
Long distance relationship can't work
It has been failing since God knws wen

Thanks for all the comments so far...

Noted BTW op

Ah beg

Long distance relationship been failing since 1900BC ** MODS pls do the justice by creating awareness to those ladies depending on one guy wey dey abroad wey dey use skype deceive them

Ama victim... front page for other victims to see.

Girls will say this relationship can't work because you're in lagos while I,m in ph.

But when the guy lives in US, she'll say love knows no distance

No matter the distance, and even if you don't observe all the aforementioned rules, in so far you love each other deep down ur souls, the relationship would still stand the test of distance n tym

I was in long distance relationship for three and half years, why it failed and how it worked for that long wasn't a small thing.
Since then (last year), love sounds like a "slang" to me .

Long distance is a No No for me...Been There Done That and I labeled That File "too much stress"

no1 carries a 79.99% weight

I really love long relationship and it do work out fine for me. I am into one right now all you have to do is trust each other

KillerBeauty:
Girls will say this relationship can't work because you're in lagos while I,m in ph.

But when the guy lives in US, she'll say love knows no distance

Lolzzz...

op yaf said t all







Stop dating urself

lol... i didnt say dont date...