"Learn from the calamities of others the ills which you should avoid"

These are real life stories - and yes I acknowledge men could do these too but in my experience its more common with women.

a. woman calls off wedding and leaves you after engagement.
b. woman cancels plans multiple times with short notice.
c. A partner of 5+ years wakes up one morning and tells you she is not sure how she feels anymore.
d. The woman uses you for money.
e. The woman changes plans to suit her selfish needs - no consideration for anybody/ anything else!
f. She dates multiple guys behind your back

So my question is is it not better to make your own plans and let the woman live with it than to involve the woman in the decision making given she can bail out anytime?

And how can we insure ourselves from some of these behaviors.

You can go and date another man you will be able to make plans with, simple

...Two heads are better than one.....

From past Failed/Successful attempts, you can decide .