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Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by soledadd: 1:26am On Oct 23, 2014 |
As a woman i do not even need my hudband to tell me to quit my job for the sake of taking care of the children. For me taking good care of my children is my priority. Before i take up any job, i check out if it will afford me ample opportunity for my children if not i leave it. I have made a lot of sacrifice for their sake especially now they are still small. I have other big plans for future which i know i will achieve as soon as my children can take care of themselves when i am not around. The kind of job i wanted i could not get but the tight ones even though the pay is good kept coming but i could not take them. So i end up with business and its also going very well. Some times the money we chase passionately does not give us satisfaction so we have to strike a balance. My advice is that both the husband and wife should harmonise the issue. The man should not force the woman and at the same time there should be an arrangement for an alternative job for the woman that will allow her some time. Its not easy to get an income earner to stay at home and do nothing. 7 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by galantjoe(m): 3:14am On Oct 23, 2014 |
This issue is not for everyone to comment. It's for real men and women - married. Everyone has aspirations for his/her life, so mariage'ld not thwart them instead encourage it. Most career women make Happy home. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Nobody: 3:33am On Oct 23, 2014 |
The trick is to plan around your goals and ambitions. Take your greatest aspirations, and ensure that everything else falls in line around it 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by ireneidiva(f): 5:10am On Oct 23, 2014 |
pembisco:It is spelt 'career'. 2 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by olumidazz: 5:58am On Oct 23, 2014 |
@soledad very nice one , ur marriage may be very near 10 yrs or above. A lot of comments here are very senseless. We lawyers recently discovered that 90 percent of divorce these days as as a result of imaturity. Imagine the comments on this forum.... and I hear some people even come here for advice.... also 21 yaer old ladies too with no experience in marriag are commenting on this very sensitive issue. O ga oo 1 Like |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by coputa(m): 6:06am On Oct 23, 2014 |
Kimoni:yes,its possible that when a woman starts working,things will no longer go smootly in thf home,a wide vacuum has bee created,especially,if she is the lazy type..i dont know what the women ase purruing,.check most women that love their career more than their family,there is no single joy in the family,as the man and children always seek for solace outside. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by ireneidiva(f): 6:22am On Oct 23, 2014 |
GodofGrace:Any father who is so 'no nonsense' up to the extent his kids cannot confide in him has failed in his duty of being a father. 5 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Kimoni: 7:27am On Oct 23, 2014 |
coputa: It is also possible that when a woman starts working, things start getting better for the family and everybody becomes happier. It's left for the couple to decide which of the possibilities they want to accept. Their choice, not mine! 2 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by kaboninc(m): 8:26am On Oct 23, 2014 |
soledadd: This is an example of 'due to circumstances your career may be put on HOLD rather than TERMINATED' |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by sucezTP(f): 8:39am On Oct 23, 2014 |
Ofcourse, they can! Besides, a woman who is compelled to sacrifice her career for her marriage should think first of whichever gives her joy. Is it her career, or her family? When that is sorted out, let her proceed. I'm sure there won't be cause for alarm when she finally takes her decision. Btw, its good for a woman not to take up a career that will affect her marriage. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by bukatyne(f): 8:59am On Oct 23, 2014 |
skydeep: Ok then. What is your understanding of a 'career woman' |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by urheme: 11:29am On Oct 23, 2014 |
uniformed men and women cannot have a happy family at all times as far career is concern especially in the military, families have to sleep out of its comfort zone to embrace some change. a female friend of mine who is a soldier was transferred to Maiduguri leaving her children in Abuja, then her husband was on course in Lagos, it was not funny. I'm also married to a soldier who travels a lot with oga, and now got a good job in Lagos, I have je jelly relocated to Lagos, when it get good they will join me, children should be able to make sacrifice too. some couple are lucky to have the right jobs, some husband and wife closes before 5:pm some just have to strive hard 1 Like |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Nicemoc(f): 11:51am On Oct 23, 2014 |
Having a career as a woman is good but it shouldn't make one neglect her home. Family must always come first before any other thing. Many women have shoved their families aside all in the name of having a career, which is very wrong. Raising a good and healthy family is also a very important investment and should not be joked with. Remember, that career of yours will eventually pass away but family will always remain 1 Like |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by urheme: 11:58am On Oct 23, 2014 |
pembisco: that is your own scenario, imagine a policeman earning 60k monthly and a banker wife earning 400k monthly and having four children to care for, be honest with your self, who will you advice to quit? 3 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by urheme: 12:09pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
Lilimax: if your husband earns well then you can pick and chose jobs or be a full time house wife, most times women work because of financial constrain, so as to contribute financially to the home especially when the man is not well paid in his job, and the vase population of Nigerians fall into this category. market women go to bush market or travel market for days, some move with the trade fairs within and outside Nigeria. the struggle is all to train and feed the children. people are managing their marriage not that they have a happy home at all times. 2 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by zyzxx(m): 12:12pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
skydeep:u too correct. because most of those women do it for there kids. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by charming247(m): 12:39pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
Today women ve only succeeded in selling their pussies for money. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by charming247(m): 12:41pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
Today women ve only succeeded in selling their womanhood for money. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by pembisco(m): 1:13pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
ireneidiva: its not like you don't understand what I mean...so fucccck off my mentions |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by CAMNEWTON4PRES: 1:19pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
Depends of her field or profession, I doubt a successful ship captain can have an happy family While a it is easier for a successful teacher to have an happy familym Btw you should tell us what you mean by successful career, for example what is a successful soldier/officer ? In my opinion women should less demanding charges notice that I didnt say career, regardless their careers they should manage to have room for their families/husbands and children 1 Like |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Nobody: 2:19pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
notice that what has been described here as a career is actually a male dominated job. Women have always been teachers, nurses, doctors business women etc. But notice that these are not seen as career very much. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by ireneidiva(f): 2:52pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
pembisco:You are welcome. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Stillfire: 4:01pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
This topic again? Too whiny for me. Nobody can have it all. 1 Like |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by cococandy(f): 4:42pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
What if they poison the baby Emmalot121: 2 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by OlayemiKing(m): 4:49pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
There are slight differences between compromise, sacrifice and selflessness. Foundation in everything we do matters a lot, in fact it is the most important thing in our day-to-day endeavors. Before a man and a woman goes into marriage, they should understand and agree on each other's dreams and aspirations. Let's not forget here that everyone one has a purpose on earth and marriage should not in any way hinder the fulfillment of that purpose but then the two party (i.e. the couple) should understand and agree on that before tieing the knot. Because once the marriage is set up, the wife has to submit to the will of the husband - Biblically. Then anything that will affect the lives of the innocent children you brought into this world should be avoided - that is where sacrifice and selflessness comes in. Because your career will be nothing, the empire you struggled to build will be destroyed in a jiffy by the children you refuse to sacrifice your time to train and bring up in a Godly manner, you will be too old and helpless to defend your empire or money by the time. In summary a balance should be struck in everything we do. The best way is to ask God for wisdom because human wisdom will definitely fail in certain circumstances. |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by AfricanApple(f): 6:19pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
cococandy:if only they would understand it this way 2 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by sunnyt1(m): 8:39pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
I have come to realize that not everyone was destined to get married, some people have no business with marriage bt force themselves or were forced into it (by parents or the society). Anyone who ranks his/her career ahead of the marriage, anyone who fails to fulfil his/her primary responsibilities in marriage, anyone who has the mindset of depriving the partner of wateva by every definition should have stayed single and would be better off being single. Some people evidently refuse to draw the line between bf/gf relationship and marriage. I also think our parents (the mums) failed in their responsibility of passing on virtues and morals to this generation, and that is echoed in the way most mothers of this age and time reason and act. Compare the way they dress, the way they handle issues, the way they stand with men toe to toe with yester-generation. Its getting out of hand. 1 Like |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Adaeze003(f): 9:11pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
^^ uhm... guy above me, everyone has a mind so, mum's didn't fail! kids failed to listen... life revolves, roll along or fall out... lehehehe... @topic...To each.... His own... 4 Likes |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by HARDDON: 10:52pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
galantjoe: hoax/////// they hardly ever find the balance! as no one can serve two masters satisfactorily, so also, one aspect must always suffer 1 Like |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Nobody: 11:03pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
Yes sure....it all begins and ends with prayer |
Re: Can Today's Women Have Successful Careers And Happy Families? by Emmalot121(m): 12:24am On Oct 24, 2014 |
cococandy:Actually surprised to get a reply. I think you find great sense in the fact that these two things were what made our mothers industrous cos of the limitless freedom. All things have disadvantages, poisoning of food is everywhere, monogamy is not excluded.Not actually telling you to give your child to your rival, when the waiting hands of grandma is there(part of extended family) to nurture your child. Like I said, so many VIABLE options. |
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