It is really important to spend time with
your partner before you decide to marry
them. I mean really spend time with them,
i.e. co-habitiate. To clarify what I mean by
co-habitation, I mean frequent and
periodic “sleepovers”.
I was speaking to a friend about this over
the weekend. She was surprised by the idea,
and I reminded her that this concept is not
new. Couples these days spend time at each
other’s houses, especially if they both live
abroad. In Nigeria however, things might be
a little more complicated. If the girl still
lives with her parents, it might be much
harder for her to justify her absence from
home. To her parents, there are probably no
circumstances that would allow her new
friend to spend the night at hers or vice
versa. However, should this ban on sleepovers
change?
A lot of the time women speak excitedly
about getting married and what they would
do in their marital home. They get pressured
to find a man, however what happens once
they get married? Women everywhere talk
about how there is no guidance for them
once married; they are just expected to
wing it. One way to find out how things might
be when you are married to the love of your
life is by sleeping over periodically. You will
find out his daily routine, his habits and
what he expects from you on a daily basis.
Call me naïve but things aren’t supposed to
change too drastically in terms of how you
both relate with one another once married.
Working on that premise, then co-habitation
is a perfect way to figure out what will
happen before the wedding day. As I am
writing this, I can already see Mama
Funke’s disapproving eyes.
You may then argue, but these are things she
will eventually have to get used to once she
is married, so what’s the point? Yes that
may be so, but there might be certain traits
she dislikes and can either choose to get
used to earlier, work with her partner to
change, or it might be a deal breaker and
she can promptly exit the building before it
is too late. Co-habitation eases the
transition for both people once married and
allows them to make more informed choices.
Why make the early years of marriage more
difficult than it need be? Co-habitate!
What do you think?
source: http://www.bellanaija.com/2014/11/07/georgette-monnou-co-habitation-necessary-or-pointless/

Its necessary...u get to bond more nd knw deeper things abt ur prospective spouse..... Buh be careful tho, lest u subject urself to unwanted pregnancies....

To me its nt necessary.

To me its nt necessary. U can live wit someone for dozen years and still nt kbow him/her wholly