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kandiikane:
I think it is lazy people that use condition/situation as an excuse to stop themselves from working that hard to get such luxuries in life.
If one was ambitious, where you live shouldn't stop you from living such a lifestyle, It shouldn't even cross your mind.

There is a difference between laziness and determination.

And so you think that lifestyle will just happen gbam like that abi?
Every success story has humble beginnings. Roots, and dues that need to be paid.
Do you think Tyler Perry was born rich? Do you think he did not cut his coat according to his size at the time?
During those beginnings, how will you survive?

Yes personal chefs are a nice thing,
But because a soldier says he wants peace, does that mean he will decide not to learn how to use a gun? What will he now do when the demands of reality call him to the battlefield?

Again, lazy people will continually introduce irrationality as logic to continue in their decided path.
Every one has a perfectly viable reason (to themselves) to support every bad habit they have, even murderers.

2buff:
And so you think that lifestyle will just happen like that abi?
Every success story has humble beginnings. Roots, and dues that need to be paid.
Do you think Tyler Perry was born rich?
During those beginnings, how will you survive?

Again, lazy people will continually try introduce irrationality as a means to continue in their decided path.
Every one has a perfectly viable reason (to themselves) to support every bad habit they have, even murderers.

You just want to argue for the sake of it, isn't it? Re-read what I wrote before jumping to type. Where did I write that one just sits and the luxuries just drop on their feet like that. Did you not see where I wrote about working hard.

I think the lazy person in question here is you. Work hard and you can have a professional chef so you would stop disturbing your wife. I won't go any further with this discussion because it's stup!d and I respect you.

kandiikane:
You just want to argue for the sake of it, isn't it? Re-read what I wrote before jumping to type. Where did I write that one just sits and the luxuries just drop on their feet like that. Did you not see where I wrote about working hard.

I think the lazy person in question here is you. Work hard and you can have a professional chef so you would stop disturbing your wife. I won't go further with this discussion because it's stup!d and I respect you.

Lol at "disturbing your wife" to be able to do what I can easily do for her without thinking it a big deal.
It is well. To each their own.

2buff:
Out keh? Oya make we go chop inside

This "invitation" get as e be
I'll pass jare

Zeemoor:
This "invitation" get as e be
I'll pass jare

"To the pure, all things are pure"
Why your mind dey carry reach gutter on top this kain innocent invitation?

2buff:
Lol at "disturbing your wife" to be able to do what I can easily do for her without thinking it a big deal.
It is well. To each their own.

It's not a big deal so why you disagreeing with me?

Oga, the thing is when we are living hand to mouth, it seems impossible for some of us to see the future as I have described. Open your mind and set your future wide. Living on average salary is not on my list of achievements so I can understand why some will find it hard to get their heads round what I wrote.

kandiikane:
It's not a big deal so why you disagreeing with me?

Oga, the thing is when we are living hand to mouth, it seems impossible for some of us to see the future as I have described. Open your mind and set your future wide. Living on average salary is not on my list of achievements so I can understand why some will find it hard to get their heads round what I wrote.

Regardless of what you might think from this our disagreement, I am thankfully well off, I will not boast on a forum. That said, I am also a realist.

Men and women seek security in different ways. She wants comfort security. He wants the security of knowing that IF there is ever a trial in life where that comfort won't be as forth-coming for that little while, she won't turn into a useless entity.

Also, yes you can see something in the future, but does that mean you won't learn the necessary skills to maintain yourself till you get there?
If your answer to that is "No", then I guess you've decided your path.

2buff:
"To the pure, all things are pure"
Why your mind dey carry reach gutter on top this kain innocent invitation?

People can't be trusted these days

2buff:
Regardless of what you might think from this our disagreement, I am thankfully well off, I will not boast on a forum. That said, I am also a realist.

Yes you can see something in the future, but does that mean you won't learn the necessary skills to maintain yourself till you get there?
If your answer to that is "No", then I guess you've decided your path.

I never said you weren't well off. Never once crossed my mind, don't know what you earn so won't have assumed. I was speaking in general. I also i'm a realist, darling. As a realist I know that one must work hard to achieve things in life with obstacles and all but thats where determination sets in. We have both established the realities of success and that's working your azz off but what you also are is a pessimist and that is a bad mentality to have if you want to successful. As you have used Tyler Perry as an example, I will use him too. Do you think if he had thought his blackNess would stop him from achieving what he has achieved in hollywood, he would be where he is now?

No one said one shouldn't learn skills in life but if it won't kill you and it is not part of your to do list, to each his/her own. Cooking is not a life skill that one must learn so if one doesn't want to learn it or doesn't think it's necessary to learn, I don't see the big deal, that's their business. If they don't know how to cook they will still eat, so wetin? There are others who are willing to learn and have a passion for it.

LaurelP:
Its a simple question. Can you marry a lady who only knows how to cook just indomie and boil water?

NO!!!

kandiikane:
I never said you were well off. Never once crossed my mind, don't know what you earn so won't have assumed. I was speaking in general. I also i'my a realist, darling. As a realist I know that one must work hard to achieve things in life with obstacles and all but thats where determination sets in. We have both established the realits of success and that's working your azz off but what you also are is a pessimist and that is a bad mentality to have if you want to successful. As you have used Tyler Perry as an example, I will use him too. Do you think, if he had thought his blackNess would stop him from achieving what he has achieved in hollywood, he would be where he is now?

No one said one shouldn't learn skills in life but if it won't kill you and it is not part of your to do list, to each his/her own. Cooking is not a life skill so if one doesn't want to learn it or doesn't think it's necessary to learn, I don't see the big deal, that's their business. If they don't know how to cook they will still eat, so wetin?

Totally unrelated question babe. These are the key questions:
- On his way to the top, do you think he had the luxury of having personal chefs?
- How did he sustain himself in a practical manner day-to-day when he was still building his legacy?

Until you can answer that, we'd only keep on circling.

As to the second bolded paragraph, I agree. We can leave it at that.

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2buff:
Totally unrelated question babe. These are the key questions:
- On his way to the top, do you think he had the luxury of having personal chefs?
- How did he sustain himself in a practical manner day-to-day when he was still building his legacy?

Until you answer that, we will keep on circling.

There is no answer to that because this is not related to what I wrote either. Being at the top was what I was talking about.
even if that was what I am talking about, where you are right now in america, who really cooks?

humn, if she doesnt know how to cook but she is bedmatic no problem she don pass

kandiikane:
There is no answer to that because this is not related to what I wrote either. Being at the top was what I was talking about.
even if that was what I am talking about, where you are right now in america, who really cooks?

And this is my point.
Maybe it's just black folk, but everyone likes to talk about "being at the top".
But when specific questions are asked about managing the process and day-to-day of "getting to the top", it usually turns into something else.

A wise definition of success is not the outcome, but the day-to-day steps to the outcome.
While those steps are happening, you still need to live.

Where I am in North America, I cook for myself and eat out on social occasions. And as I mentioned, I would gladly cook for my babe. But if she were so arrogant as to feel it's not something she should do (or learn to do) for me as well, then she will be instantly replaced.
When even white babes (wey no get bride-price/list for house ) dey try nowadays na naija girl wan dey fuckup? E no make sense.

for why na

2buff:
And this is my point.
Maybe it's just black folk, but everyone likes to talk about "being at the top".
But when specific questions are asked about managing the process and day-to-day of "getting to the top", it usually turns into something else.

A wise definition of success is not the outcome, but the day-to-day steps to the outcome.
While those steps are happening, you still need to live.

Where I am in North America, I cook for myself and eat out on social occasions. And as I mentioned, I would gladly cook for my babe. But if she were so arrogant as to feel it's not something she should do (or learn to do) for me as well, then she will be instantly replaced.
When even white babes (wey no get bride-price/list for house ) dey try nowadays na naija girl wan dey fuckup? E no make sense.

H
You are talking alot of unnecessary stuff. Specific questions like what? Like who feeds you? Totally irrelevant because ask any successful person you know and they will tell you who cooks or who must cook has little relevance to their achievements because they most likely didn't have time to worry about their stomach.

When you are chasing your dreams all these are trivial issues.
There was nothing wrong with bananabender's statement and it is no different to yours.That is what she wants.
Goodnight, this has turned to moonlight discussions, I have a nappy to change.

for wat na?

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Big deal.

The guy's been open enough to state what he wants / doesn't want from his future spouse. So what's the problem?

If she can't cook then she must have a high score in some other areas.

She can always learn how to cook...

Na only food you come chop?

When you meet ladies that are hot tempered or keep malice like a disease or don't listen to simple instruction then you will know not knowing how to cook is child's play.