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7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by tintingz(m): 5:01pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
People always ask me who am I dating and why am I not married yet. Usually these questions are accompanied with the connotation that something must be wrong with me since I am still single. The reality is my real reality isn’t posted all over social media. I’ve dated, been in a relationship, had my heartbroken and went through an ugly custody battle all without sharing any of it on social media. The most challenging part about it is being with someone who you truly love and care about that doesn’t understand why you don’t profess your love for them on social media. It seems like in 2014, people value what you do on social media more so than what you do in real life! In my experience posting about your relationship only causes a lot of issues, here are the first seven I could think of. Feel free to leave any I forgot to mention below. 1. It Gives Haters and Frenemies an opportunity to “prey” on your significant other – Once you upload an “usie” and you’ve tagged your “bae” your followers go follow and friend request your new boo. Now they are looking through photos of him/her making an assessment of who they are, trying to find something bad to say about them and finally some may go to the extent of flirting with them online to try and get them to engage! 2. It Makes Public What Is Meant To Be Private – In my opinion romance is one of those things that is meant to be private! Of course, to each their own, but it just seems that once you change your relationship status the force of Facebook is against you. 3. It promotes drama! Yes the drama, it gets deep and messy! – Even if you only have a few Facebook friends, You never know who is friends with your Facebook friends or who might take a screenshot of something you post and share it. I knew Facebook was a hot mess when I seen an old friend from my childhood posting photos with my friend from high school’s baby daddy. I didn’t pick up the phone to talk about it but later on in my timeline the two girls were going back and forth! Needless to say, if she would have kept her relationship off of Facebook they may have made it! #DoinTooMuch 4. It invites your ex’s into your new relationship – Once you put your new relationship online your ex’s are bound to catch wind. Yea, of course you may want to rub it in their face especially if you’re doing better. But do you really want your ex inboxing your new significant other? Do you really want to taint your new relationship with that type of negativity and chaos? 5. It Can Cause a Competitive Element In Your Relationship – A friend of mine got into an argument with his girlfriend because she claimed he didn’t post as many pictures of them together on his page as she did. Really? 6. It can harm your following – If the primary use of your page is to promote your career (like mine) your supporters may have mixed feelings about you posting “usies” with your new boyfriend or girlfriend. I have even seen up and coming artists and athletes lose followers over this. Let’s just be honest, especially for artists, a lot of your fans don’t care to see all of that mushy stuff! 7. It creates a major dilemma if you break up – Do you keep the pics up or do you take them down? Now you have a permanent online footprint that you were with this person. How do you explain them to the next person you are with (trust they will ask about them!) and finally, how tacky is it to showcase your new relationship every 6-12months? What? I’m just sayin’ Source 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by iamodenigbo1(m): 5:09pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
make I tom go Facebook go change my statues sharp sharp |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Nobody: 5:19pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Now Nairaland ladies won't comment cos they're all guilty. Well who cares? |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Nobody: 5:24pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Most people wont comment cos they are guilty. |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Afrok(m): 5:26pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Am not into any relationship so I have no reason to post a FALSE status on the social media, rather I post something like DATING BUT SERIOUSLY SEARCHING . |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by brownlord: 5:30pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
mizzkeji44: I just did. How do you handle #7? @post, will know when I start dating |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Nobody: 5:31pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
When you're in an awesome relationship, you just can't keep it to yourself... You'll wanna let the whole world know... I am kinda guilty of it tho... I did this when I was dating a nairalander... We met on nairaland so I felt the relationship was NL based But I realized it's wrong! I still give few insights of my current bf (non-NL relationship) on my diary tho... I never go deep... He's even labelled has T-boo... And btw, it's a diary... It's allowed But seriously, girls stop it! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by vivaciousvivi(f): 5:34pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
I have been known to be guilty of number 5. Talk about juvenile behavior . Thank goodness for small maturity o |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by brownlord: 5:34pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Afrok: I still don't understand why people post relationship status on social network, dating, in a relationship, in an open relationship, seriously dating, complicated relationship and all nonsense Who gives a Bleep if your relation is open or close or life is complicated? |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by tintingz(m): 5:46pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
vivaciousvivi: MarthaK:It is good you ladies now know better. |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Afrok(m): 5:56pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
brownlord:Yeah! I don't do it even when I was in a relationship. Funniest one was when a coursemate changed her status on Facebook to engaged, the next notification was ...... is engaged, before U know it nah so congratulatory messages starts flowing as comments. |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by jnrbayano(m): 6:11pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Too many fake lives are led on social media pages. Even the best detective can never dig my love life out from a public social network I belong in. I am guilty of none. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Monicasque(f): 6:11pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Life has enough drama on its own,so i dnt see the need to bring unnecessary attention to my private life. I m too private,and dnt even like sharing certain info with people who i call friends in rea life.so for me its a no no |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by jnrbayano(m): 6:20pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Monicasque: You made sense because those friends on your dp can NEVER be trusted. |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Nobody: 6:21pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
MarthaK:Ah! we know you are so guilty of it.the Abumikey and Martha era! BTW, we never got to know about the break up; one good thing the nairaland tsunami did! |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by will1am: 6:25pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
ifynairaland: |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by will1am: 6:25pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
ifynairaland: NFCS cares |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by tpia6: 6:27pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
I knew Facebook was a hot mess when I seen an old friend from my childhood posting photos with my friend from high school’s baby daddy baby daddy is now a title. |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Monicasque(f): 6:29pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by will1am: 6:30pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Life is funfilled when you are mysterious Keep the low profile, it pays when no one knows about you. 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Evina(f): 6:30pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Number 1 is sooo true |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Nobody: 6:48pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Preciousjoz: The break up isn't something to be ashamed of admitting... I stated it in my current diary... "Became single" It was fun while it lasted tho Not! |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by jashar(f): 7:05pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
I totally agree with the OP. I have never and will never post my relationship status on social media.What goes on in my life is solely mine and his business. Ehn, but when I marry sha, I will post pictures and change my name. Shey that one is allowed? |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Nobody: 7:13pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
MarthaK:So according to your diary you were "betrayed" hmm... 1 Like |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by tintingz(m): 7:18pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
jashar:@bold, ofcos yes... you guys are officially together. |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Nobody: 7:25pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Khalessi: I never used that word.... Don't have ideas Abeg rest issue |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by jashar(f): 7:29pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
tintingz: Ok ooo. |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Nobody: 7:45pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
I posted something about my relationship here on nairaland to reply someone and some crazy guy who had a bad day just popped up and started attacking me for absolutely no reason. Yeah it's an absolutely terrible mistake to post your private life on social media.....especially if u can't deal with crazy people. |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by tintingz(m): 7:47pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
jashar: |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by tpia6: 7:51pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
jnrbayano: are you sure? |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Nobody: 8:02pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
MarthaK:it's part of d growing up phase.have a wonderful evening! |
Re: 7 Reasons I Don’t Post My Relationship On Social Media (and You Shouldn’t Too) by Rilwayne001: 8:04pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
MarthaK: I told you yesterday, is'nt it? Dayummm prophet i am |
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