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Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Godiloveu(f): 5:06pm On Nov 29, 2014
This Guy has been my friend, and our families are friends too.he is educated n funny, a good catholic christian loved by so many, both in parish n at home.
we re both from d same state n local govt. area. I am taller than him (height) .
I love 90% things about his family, but I 'm not romantically connected with him, we had sex once I felt nothing .


the thing is " he wants to marry me " wat shud I do?
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by iceberylin(m): 5:09pm On Nov 29, 2014
A nigga bleeped u and u felt Nothing shocked


How wide is it undecided

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by pasqal09: 5:17pm On Nov 29, 2014
Maybe you should marry his family then

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Godiloveu(f): 5:19pm On Nov 29, 2014
iceberylin:
A nigga bleeped u and u felt Nothing shocked


How wide is it undecided


if "wide " refers to weird, then, wat I am saying is dat d sexual intercourse sensational interest was not available at dat moment . rm my own part.
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by tpacalipse(m): 5:21pm On Nov 29, 2014
grin Sex outside marriage? Ain't that fornication?

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by eunisam: 5:24pm On Nov 29, 2014
Marry his family and let him be in the friend zone.
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Nobody: 5:28pm On Nov 29, 2014
Sex and our feelings are tools we can always tweak in whatever direction we want but in themselves, they are not good yardsticks to measure the love we have for another.

I believe firmly that one shouldn't go into marriage when there is no proper connection between the couples unless the basis of connection was not properly assessed at the beginning.

Your doubt for this guy scares me. It may turn out alright in the end...may be after 2 or 3 years of marriage.

There have been cases where two individuals who felt nothing at the beginning, learnt to love and appreciate each other later on but would you want to start a marriage on maybes? I know I wouldn't.

Marriage is a decision for which the couples are expected to make a firm commitment to abide by. If you believe you can be committed to this guy then go ahead and marry him, if not, please say NO!!!

At the very least, give yourself sometime to think about it. When married, the guys family will not be in the same bed with you.

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Godiloveu(f): 5:30pm On Nov 29, 2014
tpacalipse:
grin Sex outside marriage? Ain't that fornication?


I can't marry someone without ving sex with him ist.

wat if he is impotent
wat if he is someone dat take longer time to ejaculate
wat if he has mouth or body odour

these n many reasons. atleast once can tell alot . lets b objective n not hide behind our fones. tnx

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Godiloveu(f): 5:36pm On Nov 29, 2014
striktlymi:
Sex and our feelings are tools we can always tweak in whatever direction we want but in themselves, they are not good yardsticks to measure the love we have for another.

I believe firmly that one shouldn't go into marriage when there is no proper connection between the couples unless the basis of connection was not properly assessed at the beginning.

Your doubt for this guy scares me. It may turn out alright in the end...may be after 2 or 3 years of marriage.

There have been cases where two individuals who felt nothing at the beginning, learnt to love and appreciate each other later on but would you want to start a marriage on maybes? I know I wouldn't.

Marriage is a decision for which the couples are expected to make a firm commitment to abide by. If you believe you can be committed to this guy then go ahead and marry him, if not, please say NO!!!

At the very least, give yourself sometime to think about it. When married, the guys family will not be in the same bed with you.

tnx alot.
dats y I 'm here to know which way to follow. becos my mom have been so happy about it since, n I can let know my TRUE feeling yet.
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by farano(f): 5:41pm On Nov 29, 2014
lolz
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Orunto: 5:50pm On Nov 29, 2014
Height is irrelevant in love. He should be the reason for your loving his family. Such men as you describe him are expert in producing male children. Please love him 100% and get on with the marriage. May God bless your union IJN AMEN!!!

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by CoachDX: 5:54pm On Nov 29, 2014
Godiloveu:



I can't marry someone without ving sex with him ist.

wat if he is impotent
wat if he is someone dat take longer time to ejaculate
wat if he has mouth or body odour


these n many reasons. atleast once can tell alot . lets b objective n not hide behind our fones. tnx
The bolded got me wrongly...
Some ladies think this way?
If all I need to have sex with you is to promise you a ring, then. . .

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Godiloveu(f): 6:08pm On Nov 29, 2014
CoachDX:

The bolded got me wrongly...
Some ladies think this way?
If all I need to have sex with you is to promise you a ring, then. . .



Sir! don't get it wrongly. this only happens wen d relationship is getting deeper. meaning commitments are now involved. thanks for understanding

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Godiloveu(f): 6:09pm On Nov 29, 2014
Orunto:
Height is irrelevant in love. He should be the reason for your loving his family. Such men as you describe him are expert in producing male children. Please love him 100% and get on with the marriage. May God bless your union IJN AMEN!!!

Amen. I will keep dis in mind
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by tania28(f): 6:10pm On Nov 29, 2014
Godiloveu:


tnx alot.
dats y I 'm here to know which way to follow. becos my mom have been so happy about it since, n I can let know my TRUE feeling yet.
you have to let her know how n what u feel this is your life n future.

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by CoachDX: 6:31pm On Nov 29, 2014
Godiloveu:




Sir! don't get it wrongly. this only happens wen d relationship is getting deeper. meaning commitments are now involved. thanks for understanding
Kindly permit me to say you've misplaced your priorities. You mentioned height, then sex, then love. Whichever comes first for you, I think having sex shouldn't be a measure of the connection you seek. Again, I think, sometimes we grow to love some people, not out of pity or anything but because we saw more of our immediate criteria and that clouded our judgement. You probably have a list your kind of man must meet, and if he isn't at that level, it's a NO, NO.

Please, if those things you look out for are actually on the outside of the man, you maybe wrong. What keeps every man going is the content of his character. If he's a good man, I meant, yourself can say he's a good man, feeling of love does grow. Saying he's got a good family is one problem solved. Again, please don't pity him, if you don't appreciate his personality, let him go.

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by MisterLongman(m): 7:42pm On Nov 29, 2014
You can't eat your cake and have it, just let him go.
Being on good terms doesn't necessarily means being in a relationship with their son
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by tpia6: 7:45pm On Nov 29, 2014
Godiloveu:



I can't marry someone without ving sex with him ist.

ok o.



nothing new there anyway.
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by tpia6: 7:47pm On Nov 29, 2014
Godiloveu:




Sir! don't get it wrongly. this only happens wen d relationship is getting deeper. meaning commitments are now involved. thanks for understanding

alright, but as a christian, you should not be emphasizing the wrong things.


it will backfire.
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by tpia6: 7:48pm On Nov 29, 2014
@ topic

are you in love with someone else?
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Nobody: 8:48pm On Nov 29, 2014
Godiloveu:



I can't marry someone without ving sex with him ist.

wat if he is impotent
wat if he is someone dat take longer time to ejaculate
wat if he has mouth or body odour

these n many reasons. atleast once can tell alot . lets b objective n not hide behind our fones. tnx
do you truly love God?
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by balaclava: 9:55pm On Nov 29, 2014
Hummn....
Jst b straight 4ward;
I don't love him bt I love his RICH family.
Simple

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Sophyrocks: 10:08pm On Nov 29, 2014
I dnt know what a lady is doing with a man she doesnt love or isnt attracted to. What are you still doing with him? You dnt know what you want. Honestly. Did your parents arrange him for you?
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by DarePeters(m): 10:23pm On Nov 29, 2014
Godiloveu:
This Guy has been my friend, and our families are friends too.he is educated n funny, a good catholic christian loved by so many, both in parish n at home.
we re both from d same state n local govt. area. I am taller than him (height) .
I love 90% things about his family, but I 'm not romantically connected with him, we had sex once I felt nothing .


the thing is " he wants to marry me " wat shud I do?
I think wat's tying you down is the sex you had wif him bt I'll advise u not to marry a man u don't love cos dat's wot u need most in a marriage
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Afrok(m): 10:29pm On Nov 29, 2014
Sorry op I have nothing to say coz I don't even love any girl not to talk of loving her family embarassed.
Well in your own case, I think am speechless undecided. It's like over familiarity with him and his family is the problem, U now see him as ur brother. Damn... That guy is in sh*t, coz the kain zone wey him dey no get name.

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Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by 100Cents: 10:42pm On Nov 29, 2014
Godiloveu:



I can't marry someone without ving sex with him ist.

wat if he is impotent
wat if he is someone dat take longer time to ejaculate
wat if he has mouth or body odour

these n many reasons. atleast once can tell alot . lets b objective n not hide behind our fones. tnx

Ladies are so vain..

Pls dump him. I still single..
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by simdam500(m): 11:30pm On Nov 29, 2014
eunisam: Marry his family and let him be in the friend zone.

that service before payment.......



@op if u don't feel anything for him visit the nigga u feel a thing for simple
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by walearoy(m): 8:27am On Nov 30, 2014
Godiloveu:

I love 90% things about his family, but I 'm not romantically connected with him, we had sex once I felt nothing

Have s.ex with him once more and if you still don't feel anything, come look for me! grin
Godiloveu:

I love 90% things about his family, but I 'm not romantically connected with him, we had sex once I felt nothing

Have s.ex with him once more and if you still don't feel anything, come look for me!
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Nobody: 8:32am On Nov 30, 2014
Carry on. You will grow to love him.
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Nobody: 8:47am On Nov 30, 2014
chidyhels:
Carry on. You will grow to love him.
wrong advice detected.
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Nobody: 8:50am On Nov 30, 2014
Jenams:
wrong advice detected.
Detective go to church.
Re: Advice Me Pls : I Don't Love Him, But I Love His Family. by Nobody: 8:57am On Nov 30, 2014
chidyhels:

Detective go to church.
I'm actually in church, just waitin for my Rev. Sis to come n kick start d mass, I was told she's nairalandin @ home.

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