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She Can't Sleep With Lights On by zoe123: 11:18am On Dec 12, 2014 |
Super mods in case this is not where this is meant to be help me move it. Nairalanders i need your advice on a matter pertaining to a friend that i met during marriage class,Her wedding is coming up in a couple of weeks,but she is worried about sleeping arrangement.from the little she told me,she had a terrible experience while growing up and as a result she finds it very difficult sleeping without light on.According to her the few times she slept over at her fiancé's place she noticed that the guy cannot sleep with even a flicker of light on and that he likes soft music on while she detest any kind of noise.she actually asked that question during one of our classes and the marriage counsellor just told her that she needs to adjust that marriage is all about sacrifices and compromise,she really need help on what to do so i told her about NL and she agreed that i can post this get other people's opinion. NB:Please this will be her 1st experience of NL,please if you know you dnt have a serious suggestion try not to comment and all FTC,Nairaland and i school in where ever can we try to take this post serious you can be helping someone's future home.Also any medical advise will be welcomed |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by xtratagem(m): 11:23am On Dec 12, 2014 |
They should have separate bedrooms...sleeping together is not by force 3 Likes |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Abbey2sam(m): 11:27am On Dec 12, 2014 |
She can have her own room, that's if the husband wouldn't mind |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by xtervaganza(m): 11:28am On Dec 12, 2014 |
2nd to comment and I school in Brussel niw, to be serious, I don't encourage couples sleeping in different rooms ooo. and she should try and speak to the guy about it. I really don't know why people can't talk to their partners like they are in a relationship with a serial killer or terrorist |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by saaedlee: 11:30am On Dec 12, 2014 |
She should purchase a sleeping eye mask for her fiance/husband to be, so the lights can stay on while she sleeps. As fo the music, she either buys ear muffs for herself, who tell her say marraige easy? 2 Likes
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Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by emeraldoe(f): 11:33am On Dec 12, 2014 |
She needs to see a counsellor so as to forget d terrible experience she had |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 11:46am On Dec 12, 2014 |
The difference between the couple is huge but itz either she adapt to the situation or seek help. btw,she can always sleep in different room,marriage is not all about sleeping together in a room. |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 11:51am On Dec 12, 2014 |
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Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by SeverusSnape(m): 11:55am On Dec 12, 2014 |
The guy is just like me... BTW this heading is misleading "she can't sleep with lights on" |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by izaray(f): 11:58am On Dec 12, 2014 |
Her two excuses made no sense to me, was she not told, dat marriage is all about sacrifices? No matter how terrified her past experience could av been, sleeping on darkness, let her av a second taught and 4get abt it, she is now married for God sake, she might av trusted & know him better, b4 accepting him as her future hubby, so why all dis excuses? And sharing their separate bedroom is a no no tin for me, mostly at dis her early stage of marriage, d whole tin will just look boring for her hubby na! She shouldn't use her own hands to cause problem in her marriage o. My own opinion tho you can add urs! Mods dn"t 4get to move dis into d family section, d person in question really needs help pls |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 12:01pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
kristina1:u r right. plus lead by example. sleep in separate rooms when u marry. 1 Like |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 12:04pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
Prixus:Before nko? |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by remsonik(f): 12:15pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
Hmmm she has to learn how to let go of some things o. |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by zoe123: 12:47pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
SeverusSnape: Sorry dear i was working and typing this at the same time.i will let her log on to NL so she can view the comments |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Mprex(f): 12:57pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
Nawa oh! She should talk it out with her hubby na. They would be able to reach a decision between themselves |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 1:44pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
xtratagem:what rubbish, dont you know the intimacy between them can die down from this? shez not married yet, so after she says i do, a separate room will be awarded to her, when itz cold at night pillows will be their comfort, when itz time for bedmatics they come together and after the deal is done they go their separate rooms FOR HOW LONG? |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 1:52pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
How does she sleep when Power is cut by the respective Power authority and there is no fuel for the gen? 1 Like |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by xtratagem(m): 2:07pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
urhoboman: What's your suggestion? |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 2:19pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
xtratagem:itz left for her and her hubby-to-be to decide, we can't advice her alone while her husby stands on his own term. Its either her hubby adapts to lights ON, or she adapts to lights OFF. |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 2:23pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
striktlymi:lol, u deserve a bottle of beer for this question 1 Like |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Cholls(m): 3:11pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
saaedlee:my brother so for the rest of the brothers life he should put this on |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nugess(f): 4:10pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
D lady involved should HV a hrt to hrt discussion wiv the husband to be...Marriage is not a bed of roses |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by seangy4konji: 7:21pm On Dec 12, 2014 |
Se needs to deal with he problems and past. It's not even proper sleeping with lights on. Not good to sleep in separate rooms also so I guess she needs to work on her self. Marriage is past the time of boy you go andeet in university so when they get older let's say 45-50u will still expect the old man sleeping wit lights on?lol.let her fix her self soonest. Ps. If the husband don fagburu as night guard for England befre maybe he fit deh open eyes all night. |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 8:26pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Did they date at all? Did she sleep over? I believe these differences should have been taken care of while dey were dating. Anyways, y should she be d 1 to make d sacrifice? They can reach a compromise and use those kinda light that can b dimmed to any level u like. But on a second thought, she's not sleepin alone so she shouldnt be scared. Unless she doesnt feel secured with the man she's about to get married to. The music thing, the guy should use ear piece. No b only d babe need to adjust. He's not a statue he should move a bit too! |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by ritababe(f): 9:28pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
me i cant sleep with light on, it disturb my eye. |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 9:46pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
I would advise her to discuss it with her "husband to be", that they shuld get two table lamps on both side of the bed. If he wnts to sleep he can turn his lamp on while the lady switch off hers. That could be of help |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by jnrbayano(m): 10:12pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Are you telling me that NEPA have been so faithful to her that all these years after her bad experience NEPA haven't given her any reason to sleep with lights off? Op, what name do I hail her with? |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by jnrbayano(m): 10:15pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
striktlymi: Intelligent guy! Believe me, I didn't see this before I typed mine |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 7:24am On Dec 14, 2014 |
Loooool.. Ok have they the deed with the light been on? Just curious... |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Janeify(f): 2:10pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
If she can't adjust then she shouldn't expect the man to adjust. Let them have separate bedrooms, its normal |
Re: She Can't Sleep With Lights On by Nobody: 5:09pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
saaedlee:. nice suggestion. |
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