All relationship are different because of the unique combination of the individual characteristics of the couples involved. You cannot therefore judge sll relationships by the same rules.however,there are basic principles that form the foundatuon of successful relationship. If they dont exist, the relationship will never work out. Here are the relationship that lack basic ingredients of successful relationship. If you are involved in any of these, now is the best time to retrace your steps and break-up the relationship before it ends in disaster.
(1) SEX DRIVEN RELATIONSHIP
This is the most common kind of relationship that young people engage in. Sex is a very powerful force, but it is not strong enough to make a relationship work if other critical factors are missing from it. If the sex is good,the man/woman must be a very good person. This is a horrendous fallacy. The character of s person cannot be accurately measured or judged by how good or bad they are in bed. What kind of person is he? Because he is a muscular hunk doesn't make him good enough for you.this kind of relationship is driven by lust. Sex becomes a narcotic that deadens you to the real world. It becomes an escape soute where you close the door on all other areas of your life just to satisfy your lust. You bluntly refuse to see the weaknesses, character flaws of your partner because the pleasure of sex takes over your faculty of sound judgment. A sex driven relationship is self centered and selfish. The moment you cease to derive pleasure from the sex, the relationship crumbles. If your partner sees another lady who looks better than you and who could possibly perform better than you in bed, he will dump you for her. All he knows about you is how good you are in bed; that is the criteria by which he measures your person.
Your worth as a human being should be measured by the universal values of integrity, honesty, vision, diligence, love and persistence among others. Judging you by your sexual ability reduces you to the level of a prostitute, which you definitely are not. A sex driven relationship is a failure going somewhere to happen.

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(2) ROMANCE DRIVEN RELATIONSHIP
Most ladies grew up reading romantic novels. In these novels were chronicles the romantic adventures of some beautiful ladies, who fell in love with and married some handsome men and they all lived happily ever after. Romance is an essential ingredient in the critical mix of factors responsible for making a relationship work; but when it assumes a mojor role, the relationship becomes lopsided and fails to develop as it ought to.
In romance driven relationship, you expect every day to be filled with romantic activity: he sends you flower or a box of exotic chocolates. In the evenings he takes you out for dinner in some romantic italian resturant. You get gifts from him regularly. Every weekend you are together in each other's arms or attending one party or another.
This kind of relationship is unrealistic. Life has its ups and down. You do not always feel like holding hands and walking on the beach or sitting to wacth the setting sun. There are challenges in life, problems to solve, difficult knots to unravel. You have lots of emotional baggage you've been carrying around for years and they constantly show up in your relationship, creating unwanted problems.
A romantic driven relationship always ends as soon as the realities of life begin to hit hard ai it. Because the relationship is driven by romance not love, when romance stagnates for any reason, love is absent to support and under grid it, do it fails. Romance should be balanced with genuine love for the relatuonship to work.

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(3) LIE DRIVEN RELATIONSHIP
In thus kind of relationship, almost every aspect is built on the lies told by one or bothe parties. Lies have been tols about their past, career, families and their future. The problem with lies is that you keep creating new lies to cover the former lies you concocted. Deception is the order of the day in such a relationship. You are never sure of what to say or do to avoid being discovered or exposed. Trust which is the foundation for a lasting relationship is glaringly missing because one party is suspicious of the true intentions or motives of the other.
Jane met Dayo at a party. Looking around her, she felt everybody was from the social ladder. Becaise she was not so fortunate,she decided to act and talk like them. Thet was when she told Dayo that her father lived in England with all the members of her family. She just came to nigeria to make something out of her life without depending on her dad's money. Because she looked and spoke convincingly Dayo belived her and began to date her.
Dayo, an astute business man, decided to some investment in her fast growing fashion business because he felt she had character and was very courageous to step out on her own. Jane always arrange their dates to be away fron her house to avoid any of her siblings from bumping into Dayo. She had to keep on creating new lies to cover up the old lies untile she ran out of lies.
One day, Dayo paid her an unexpected visit and met her mom in the house. Jane said she was her aunty. The mom, a decent, God fearing woman, hastily corrected her and told the truth. Dayo asked her some questions and discovered that all he had been told were lies. Although he was in love with her, he found it hard to continue the relationship because he felt he could never trust her.
Dayo broke up the relationship, feeling used and betrayed. Jane was now in love with him but could could not undo all the things that she had done. A lie driven relationship ,ay not be as complicated as Jane and Dayo's story; it may just involve one or two lies which when discovered, ruins the relationship. For instance, if you told the guy you are a virgin. You've never commited abortion, you attended a school you never did, or you worked in a certain place, one day,it may all back fire and destroy your relationship.

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busterr:
nigerians and relationships! we take our carreer serious more than anything over here in afghanistan.

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(4) MONEY DRIVING RELATIONSHIP
It is natural human instinct for self preservation to seek protection, security and well being in any relationship you are involved in. It is natural to ensure that you are with a man that can be a good provider and protector to you. However, when the size of the man's wallet becomes the only reason that the relationship exits, it becomes money driven relationship.
In this kind of relationship, money determines how you feel and respond to each other. When he gives you money and expensive gifts, You love and cherish him,but when he does't, you throw a tantrum which result in fight. The man's love love for ypu is only as good as the money he gives you. Therefore, no money, no love. The man's money buys your conscience and your feelings.
Even if you see him flirting with other woman, you tend to over look it because you are enslaved by his money. You are not really sure if you love him or his wallet. You develope an abivalent personality; somethings you love love and want him, sometimes you don't.
Jumping into bed and becoming sexually inmate with him is one of the problems inherent in a money driving relationship. His money buys him sexual pleasure. It is almost impossible to deny him sex, because when you do, he zips up his bulging wallet. As long as you are in the relationship because of his money,you are his slave. If for any reason, he losses all his money, your love for him immediately dies. You become irritated, impatient and angry around him, All you wanted was his money, Now that it is all gone,so has your love for him.

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(5) GUILT DRIVEN RELATIONSHIP
In this kind of relationship, you feel sorry for your partner. Maybe he is going through some difficult crisis in life. You feel if you stay in there with him, you can help him overcome his problems. After a while, you begin to assume responsible for his recovery. You feel guilty if you try to leave because there is a strong attachment to him now. A guilt driven relationship never works out because when the man recovers from his problem, you suddenly realize that he no longer needs you.
The man you are usually attracted to are always going through one kind of problem or another. You are forever jumping from one rexcue mission to another.
He may be drug dependent, an alcoholic, a rage aholic, a sex aholic or even a spiritual-holic. He may have recently lost his job, his business, his ministry or his marriage. He seems weak, despondent. Because you are a strong woman, you immediately assume the responsibility of restoring him back to where he was before you met him. Your personal strenghts become a weakness to you because you use them to build relationship thant are dependent on you to survive.
When your strength is no longer needed by your partner, you immediately begin to look for another weak,despondent and droening man to rescue. That is why your relationships never last. The moment you set yourself on a rescue mission, that relationship is doomed to failure

nice olassy239

Number 5 is scarce but it happens a lot ...dating out of pity

(6) FEAR DRIVEN RELATIONSHIP
some ladies enter and stay in a relationship because of different kinds of fears. The most prevalent are the fear of rejection and the fear of never getting married.
A lady may enter into a relationship and fight to keep it alive in spite of the abuse and pain she might be suffering. Because she is afraid of beraking up, she stays in it in spite of the torture.
To her, breaking up means she is not good enough for that man.some ladies may even strecth it to mean they are not good enough for any man. She may begin to see herself as a bad person, especially if she grew up in a home where her mom was divorced by her father. The image of a woma being driven from her marital home haunts her. Maybe her father re-married and neglected her after that. This may reinforce her need to be accepted by her partner in spite of the flaws or weakness in his character.
The other kind of fear is that getting old. A lady who belives she is aging and no one is coming for her, may stay in a relationship not because of love but because she feels she has no options open to her. She may feel that she is not beautiful enough to attract the kind of guy she likes so, as soon as she sees any guy who looks at her, she jumps into a relationship with him.
Such a lady has no defined values. She doesn't know who she is, who she wants or why she wants that kind of person. She grabs at whatever is thrown her way.this fear may be fueled by other feelings: she thinks she is not rich enough,successful enough, educated enough, successful enough, educated enough, spiritual enough, and intelligent enough for the right guy to approach her. She may even feel because guys are not hitting on her for sex, she must be 'below standard'. Such fear will inform her jumping into a relationship and hanging on for as long as it takes to marry the guy.
Men can smell fear a mile away. They can sense your intention and motives if you are desperately hanging unto the relationship because of fear. To move ahead in life, you must deal with fear; become more confident in your relationships and career

(7) CLASS DRIVEN RELATIONSHIP
In a class driven relationship, the couple are drawn together because of their family business, political, financial or social ties. For centuries wealthy families have arranged marriages between their children for economic reasons. They enter into such contractual relationship to creat a synergy between their family business and create more wealth for themselves. The couple are groomed to belive that they can only marry within a particular social class of people. Love does not matter most times. If the couples are in love with each other, good; if not, the wedding still takes place.
You are in a class driven relationship if you are going out with a guy because you attended the same school, you are members of the same exclusive social clubs or your families are rich, popular and influential in society.
You will attract your kind of person into your life. For instance, if you are a liar, you will attract pretenders and liars into your life. If you prohecr sex, money and material things, you will attracr guys who want these things from you. Who you are is who you will attract.
To connect with the right person therefore, work on yourself; become a person of integrity, live a principled life. Let your man see the real you nad love you for who you really are. Don't try to be who you are not. Build your life on what is real, vital and lasting
AS a christian, you should let the wisdom of God direct you. Pray and believe that He will direct you and bring you into the right place where your man is.

olassy239:
All relationship are different because of the unique combination of the individual characteristics of the couples involved. You cannot therefore judge sll relationships by the same rules.however,there are basic principles that form the foundatuon of successful relationship. If they dont exist, the relationship will never work out. Here are the relationship that lack basic ingredients of successful relationship. If you are involved in any of these, now is the best time to retrace your steps and break-up the relationship before it ends in disaster.
(1) SEX DRIVEN RELATIONSHIP
This is the most common kind of relationship that young people engage in. Sex is a very powerful force, but it is not strong enough to make a relationship work if other critical factors are missing from it. If the sex is good,the man/woman must be a very good person. This is a horrendous fallacy. The character of s person cannot be accurately measured or judged by how good or bad they are in bed. What kind of person is he? Because he is a muscular hunk doesn't make him good enough for you.this kind of relationship is driven by lust. Sex becomes a narcotic that deadens you to the real world. It becomes an escape soute where you close the door on all other areas of your life just to satisfy your lust. You bluntly refuse to see the weaknesses, character flaws of your partner because the pleasure of sex takes over your faculty of sound judgment. A sex driven relationship is self centered and selfish. The moment you cease to derive pleasure from the sex, the relationship crumbles. If your partner sees another lady who looks better than you and who could possibly perform better than you in bed, he will dump you for her. All he knows about you is how good you are in bed; that is the criteria by which he measures your person.
Your worth as a human being should be measured by the universal values of integrity, honesty, vision, diligence, love and persistence among others. Judging you by your sexual ability reduces you to the level of a prostitute, which you definitely are not. A sex driven relationship is a failure going somewhere to happen.

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jboy73:



You're new here?

pls explain being new here?

olassy239:
pls explain being new here?

The way u scatter your post.

You should have compiled them all in the first post.


Just saying.

jboy73:


The way u scatter your post.

You should have compiled them all in the first post.


Just saying.

thanks,but the netwrk here is very bad

olassy239:
thanks,but the netwrk here is very bad

OK... No problem.

Do guys go around asking chics they are dating if they've committed abortion(s) such a question feels odd to me.

Space booked in case any moderator falls in love with ds...

nice

olassy239:
thanks,but the netwrk here is very bad

climb on top tree na u go see amu fool

ok

chimerase2:
climb on top tree na u go see amu fool

can a girl climb tree?

hmmm.. so what should drive our relationship then..