HUSBAND SCARCITY!
This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the challenges faced by many
young girls today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life
partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our
minds back to the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were
more men than women then, or there was an
adequate corresponding numbers of both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had
values and were prepared to build a home and not
park into a built home. Then, once a young man
comes of age and can at least feed himself and his
wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the
woman really appreciates him and helps him to
build a future. What am I really trying to say? We
created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity"
for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask
an average girl to define her dream husband; you
get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair,
and rich, own a house at least, and be
presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in
order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the
number of girls around you and the number of men
that meet that standard, and you will see the
problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's
house and then go and start suffering with a man."
What a wonderful dream! What if from the
beginning, you have everything you want and
there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the
table turns around, then comes
suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for
suffering, but it is good to start small and end big,
than start
big and end small. The problem is that the
description majority
of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the
same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man
and the man that fits what they want is just 1
man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what
becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting
of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard,
due to the face of our economy to find a man
who is of marriage age who possesses all those
things these ladies want, legally (except those
involved in Internet fraud); even the number of
those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all
those searching for already made husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready
to build a home with a man who has prospects,
are married and not complaining of husband
scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now,
is to change your view of who a husband is. A
husband is that man God made and then saw that
it may be hard for him to really actualize his
purpose for making him, without a help mate and
then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A
POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission
of building the family of God here on earth. For
those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it
is a way into bondage. Women are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to where
God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another
truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS
TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating
"husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I
am not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men
are husband materials. What I am saying is that
you should stop setting your standard on material
acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond
the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS
NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE
LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.
And that which he is made of is, most times,
not seen with the physical eyes, only its
effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is
seen is temporal and that which is not seen is
permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God did
not just make Eve for making sake; He made her
for Adam's need to be met. God
did not make you for making sake either (unless He
has a special calling on you), He made you to meet
a particular man's need.
AND THAT MAN MAY BE THAT ONE THAT
DOESN'T FIT INTO THAT YOUR "EXHOBITANT
STANDARD".do not despise or look down on any
man
cos,it doesn't take God a second to turn around
someone destiny,a man can be very poor by
december,then God
bless him to be very rich by January. But never
marry a man without a confirmation from God,so
that u can confidently run back to him
whenever satan wants to rise his ugly head in ur
home.

dookwase?!

nice write up.