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Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Maxymilliano(m): 5:10pm On Sep 06, 2013
The recent alarm raised by the Catholic Women Organisation that husbands would become scarce in Nigeria in 2023 may just be right as P.M.NEWS can confirm that many Nigerian spinsters are currently witnessing the no-husband syndrome.

Within the last few weeks, some of the ladies who spoke with our correspondent reported serious apprehension, pressure and a total lack of peace as the consequence of their inability to get married.

One of the ladies, who preferred to be simply called Titi said she had taken the issue of marriage as a do-or-die affair due to “internal pressure” but that as much as she had tried, frustration had often been the result.

At 37, the businesswoman who sells clothes in Ikeja, the Lagos State capital in western Nigeria, told P.M.NEWS that she is not finding life easy.

“What is happiness without a man in a woman’s life?”she asked our correspondent during a chat on Badoo, a relationship site on the internet.

She had dated several men with some promising marriage, but without fulfilling the promise.

“You can’t imagine that in the last three years, I have dated about eight men, but the relationship was often short-lived simply because I ask for their commitment.

“I am not getting any younger and I cry every time I see my mates with their husbands and children.

“If at 37 I don’t have a child or a permanent man, when would I have them? Is it when my skin has wrinkled? she asked our correspondent.

Chioma (surname withheld), 35, has found herself patronising many of the social interaction sites on the internet.

The banker told our correspondent that she is on Eskimi, 2go, Badoo, Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter as well as 4clique, a site that was launched in Nigeria days ago.

“We can’t tell the particular broom in the bunch that kills a fly,” she told P.M.NEWS on why she patronises such number of social interaction sites.

“I always change my name in the different sites but the ultimate goal is to get a husband,” she added.

Chioma told P.M.NEWS that she is really worried about the situation, adding that she lives comfortably (in a mini-flat and has a car), “but who do I have to enjoy this comfort with me?

“I have tried a hook up programme on a Lagos-based radio station, but my age is now a major factor hindering my dream of being married,” she lamented pleading with our married correspondent, who she considered a bachelor, to “help dry my tears.”

A married woman, who gave her name as Mrs. Blessing Aguebor and resident in Oshodi, confirmed that the issue of lack of serious men for marriage is giving many ladies sleepless nights.

She narrated the touching story of her friend who was disappointed by her boyfriend of five years when it was time to “settle down”.

“My friend was 29 when he met this man in Benin and they dated for five years. The man was always giving the lady hope without her knowing the man had other plans. The year he fixed for their marriage was the year he travelled abroad without even informing my friend.

“It was later he called her and asked her to find another man because he still had many more years to hustle. My friend almost went mad.

“She is 36 now without a man. I had to convince her to relocate to Lagos so that possibly out of the population here, she would find someone. It is pathetic,” she said.

A 38-year old business woman in Ketu, Mrs. Rita Adewunmi, narrated how she lost her first husband to a friend, Idayat, who was desperate for a husband.

According to Mrs. Adewunmi who remarried last year, Idayat was 36 and needed a husband but her search was endless.

“I was always encouraging her and made her a part of my family. She would always help me take care of the kids when I go to the market.

“With time, she took over my husband without my knowledge until the day I caught them red-handed and that was the end of my marriage. Ladies are like hunters these days,” she said.

Asked why she was not married at 34, Blessing Osuoha, a nurse with a private hospital in Abuja, retorted: “that is why I’m on this social site. Why are you asking? Is it a bad idea if you propose to me?”

She explained that life was becoming unbearable without a husband.

“My friends and family members are aways asking when they would come and ‘chop’ rice, and I keep hoping,” she added.

A marriage counsellor in Lagos, Mrs. Victoria Aliu, told P.M.NEWS that scarcity of ‘real men’ is becoming a terrible condition for women ready for marriage.

She blamed the problem partly on the Nigerian economy, confusion among the bachelors on their choices of the women they want as wives and the attitudes of the spinsters.

“Many women, whether consciously or not, behave irritably sometimes, forgetting that the man just beside them at every point in time may just have been nursing how to start a conversation that could lead to marriage.

“Some other ladies are very choosy and unserious at their early stages of adulthood. They only open their eyes to discover that their friends are all married and that they are the only ones left at the bus stop. Then it becomes a terrible case for them,” she explained.

http://pmnewsnigeria.com/2013/09/06/nigerian-ladies-worry-over-scarcity-of-men/

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by demelza: 5:20pm On Sep 06, 2013
grin In the last days, 7 women shall take hold of one man saying, we will eat our own bread and provide our own apparel, only let us be called by your name - Isaiah 4:1.
By the way who tells them that its only a man that can make them complete?
18th century thinking.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Nobody: 5:20pm On Sep 06, 2013

“Some other ladies are very
choosy and unserious at their early stages of adulthood.
They only open their eyes to
discover that their friends are
all married and that they are
the only ones left at the bus
stop. Then it becomes a terrible case for them,” she
explained.
This is true. The more a lady grows, the less admirers she gets.
@topic, this is serious. I bet that "marriageable" men are scarce commodities this days.
Thats why men should stop crying about unreturned love. There are plenty better women available.
And ladies in relationships should not think of playing with her man. For every lady that a guy dates, there are 10 or more ladies waiting to take her place if she messes up.
Like one of my friends quipped on a social media in pidgin.
"Dey there dey form hard to get while your mates they do marriage every saturday".

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Nonso23(m): 5:21pm On Sep 06, 2013
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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by eddyj36(m): 5:35pm On Sep 06, 2013
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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Nobody: 5:35pm On Sep 06, 2013
You kept forming when you were young and getting all the attention from bunch of guys.
Now, you are old and desperate to point of registering on all social networks just for the main aim of getting a husband!
SMH!!!
My Naija guys are not even chasing women more than they chase money!!!
Be patient with us!!!
Truth is, when you are beautiful, well behaved and financially independent. You'll get married when you want.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by alienware(m): 5:37pm On Sep 06, 2013
This article na just to make the men happy .

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by engrtee(f): 5:38pm On Sep 06, 2013
Goodnews for guys

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Nobody: 5:42pm On Sep 06, 2013
alienware: This article na just to make the men happy .
The article did not affect my feelings.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by lertee(f): 5:43pm On Sep 06, 2013
Good men are scarce,the ones ready for marriage are very few,the unserious rotten ones have taken over the society,may God help the good women around. I thank God for me sha

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by ngdude(m): 7:44pm On Sep 06, 2013
Seekin4a decent lady max. 26yrs, for a very serious rshp dat can lead to marriage, should be a graduate (working or not) and enterprising. Send me a mail ngdude86@gmail.co m

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Ucheosefoh(m): 7:54pm On Sep 06, 2013
ngdude: Seekin4a decent lady max. 26yrs, for a very serious rshp dat can lead to marriage, should be a graduate (working or not) and enterprising. Send me a mail ngdude86@gmail.co m
U are taking advantage of the situation to hunt for a wife on NL lol smart guy

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by 2sizzlin(m): 8:06pm On Sep 06, 2013
Like seriously grin?


Ok, Good News Ripe ladies!!!

I'd be releasing some marriage forms (#100 000 each ) next week. You can start booking now grin

BTW, I'm very accommodating like my Oga at the top, Oga Solomon. grin grin

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Nobody: 8:22pm On Sep 06, 2013
demelza: grin In the last days, 7 women shall take hold of one man saying, we will eat our own bread and provide our own apparel, only let us be called by your name - Isaiah 4:1.
By the way who tells them that its only a man that can make them complete?
18th century thinking.


grin

Nothing wrong with polygamy. Soon and very soon we are going to revisit that age old African tradition. Women shall line up and be counted.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by 190theclown: 9:05pm On Sep 06, 2013
Nigerian women u had better take me now before its too late cheesy cheesy
Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Nobody: 4:51am On Sep 07, 2013
190-the-clown:
Nigerian women u had better take me now before its too late cheesy cheesy

Women dey look for real husband material, bushbaby sef wan talk angry

No be you dey hang from tree in your profile? undecided

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Kirinwa: 5:14am On Sep 07, 2013
''Is it a bad idea if you propose to me''.Shior. shocked grin

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Kirinwa: 5:23am On Sep 07, 2013
As a caring nairalander,my advice to our single sisters is treat any man who approaches you nicely and respectfully.
Guys can you imagine approaching a lady to say hi and she's looking at you like you're ALIEN!Jeez.Some of them are architects of their own misfortune.I have discovered most times ladies hang out with playboys and sacrifice the future for a few meatpies or fried chicken while ignoring more serious guys who they consider boring without even giving them a chance.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Mynd44: 5:42am On Sep 07, 2013
I never thought I'd see the day

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by UjSizzle(f): 7:21am On Sep 07, 2013
It's not the lack of men that's the issue i think, it's the lack of 'marriageable' men.


Men are scarce, boys are plentiful undecided

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Mynd44: 7:23am On Sep 07, 2013
uj_sizzle: It's not the lack of men that's the issue i think, it's the lack of 'marriageable' men.


Men are scarce, boys are plentiful undecided
This one don search tire grin

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by zeb04(f): 7:50am On Sep 07, 2013
Jst like max said dis article is jst 2 make men feel gud abt themselve. Bt gals anyways dey kip havin fun even after 23 nd then they start complanin. Altho I dnt fancy al dis r/ship ish bt Iknw am suppose 2 start tinkin straight wen I am probably 23,24

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by claremont(m): 7:51am On Sep 07, 2013
'Why buy the cow when we can get free milk from different breeds of cows'

No be me talk am oh!

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Mynd44: 7:56am On Sep 07, 2013
claremont: 'Why buy the cow when we can get free milk from different breeds of cows'

No be me talk am oh!
Why buy a book when I can always go to the library and borrow one every other day? grin

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by UjSizzle(f): 7:59am On Sep 07, 2013
Mynd_44:
This one don search tire grin
grin go write ur article yeye boy. Topic fon land tongue

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Mynd44: 8:02am On Sep 07, 2013
uj_sizzle:
grin go write ur article yeye boy. Topic fon land tongue
Really?
Stop derailing

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by homesteady(m): 8:07am On Sep 07, 2013
I' sure they use to do plenty yanga when they were still young!!
BTW some of the women said they are looking for husbands on social Networks!! Have they entered Nairaland?? Crown Prince is still single and searching! gringrin

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Mynd44: 8:09am On Sep 07, 2013
homesteady: I' sure they use to do plenty yanga when they were still young!!
BTW some of the women said they are looking for husbands on social Networks!! Have they entered Nairaland?? Crown Prince is still single and searching! gringrin
Wikid
Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Nobody: 8:15am On Sep 07, 2013
Their men r in good hands..



grin..

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Worry Over Scarcity Of Men by Mynd44: 8:16am On Sep 07, 2013
nadia_SA: Their men r in good hands..



grin..
South African arms you meantongue

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