greetin 2 all,seems a broda needs some advice,i have a gal i love so much she is 24 and a virgin though she is romantic and sometimes have urge for love making but she says after marriage am ok with that but the prob is wheneva am with her she keeps recievin phone calls from guys(lots of them)she has only few female friends the rest are men and they keep sending love text to her yet she tells me they are just friend,there was a tyme we had a serious misunderstanding that would lead to break up she came begging on her knees,pls is this gal playin me or is she 4 real,then if i keep her is there any chances of loosing her to another man she so called just friends?pls i need your advice.

give her time ok, and also talk to her about the issue and see what she will said, base on that you will know another step to take. but for me so called male friends she have i`m not okey with it, she have to concentrate in the relationship and cut off those sitractions.

Hello Mesilon,

You have got to know what she feels about you. If she has a strong feeling " love" for you, then I dont think she will disappoint you in future.

Again this issue of virginity, it is okay that she wants to wait till after wedding, BUT keeping more of male friends? is it the kind of job she does that makes her to have male contacts than females contacts?

Again, the text messages she do get from these people, if it is platonic relationship, I dont think she will be getting such text messages.

What does she realy stand to gain from you. May be you give her more of material things that made her to stick by yourside.

You have really got to think about all these things. But what matters above all is you loving her for what she is and not because of virginity issues.

If you love her, then go ahead and respect her wish, at the same time make her to understand that you are not very comfortable with her so call friends.

Only but an advice. Goodluck.

Hehehe format no go finish for this life
wetin give you assurance se chika no de wound them 'friendly boyz'
abeg commot your google look where u de go
i seriously doubt being a virgin at 24 even if her secondary school was an all girl's academy
think thats just a trap/hook to hold you down since youre the only guy considering a life contract.
If i were in your shoe's my decision will be as a result of how long we've been dating.
First step for me will be getting to know one of the guys ill say the guy that calls/texts most,do your research, meet him one on one be friends then discuss your girl, a guy should be willing to help another, relating such issues anytime
and just so you know i don't welcome love text messages from other guys guess thats where we are different
Shyne ya eye dude na 2009 we wan enter so.

did some research on dem so called just friends,some are askin her out while the others are close friends which she neva told me,on the contrary in the case of being a virgin,i cant tell if a gal is a virgin or not though am in medical line but heard there is a way ladies can make their, Look like that of a virgin.contributions pls

you mean you have not really check if she virgin or not. guy you need to find out about that. let me ask you, are you the type of guy that get angry easily? maybe that is why she don't want to tell you about her toasters

tmoney11:

you mean you have not really check if she virgin or not. guy you need to find out about that. let me ask you, are you the type of guy that get angry easily? maybe that is why she don't want to tell you about her toasters

check as in

It is obvious that the girl is wiser than you in every aspect. Take things easy bros, but if you insist of going to aso rock without waiting for the swearing ceremony, you can quickly as well commence the mariage rites immediately.

I dont understand why all these Nija men want virgins. Then they come back here and complain that thier wives cant hold it down in the bedroom and are boring. That is what you get for marrying someone w/o any previous sexual experience.

Anyway back on topic:

How do you know that she gets romantic texts? Are you snopping?

sistawoman:

I don't understand why all these Nija men want virgins. Then they come back here and complain that their wives can't hold it down in the bedroom and are boring. That is what you get for marrying someone w/o any previous sexual experience.

it might interest u to know dat virgins dis days r good lovers,all thanks to porn and a lot of thing dat has tot them,alot of experienced pple are still boring in bed
its not how far,but how well

@topic

wat exactly r dis love txt msgs?give us a clue bout one

Yoruba people talk say,(Ere wo ni aja ba ekun se)which kind play Dog dey follow Lion play.If they r jst friends tell her to introduce u to all of them @least they r friends,so why not?, I blv if u say mke u confirm if she be virgin now,she go talk say u dey doubt am,end the relationship.Me for a person i dont want a virgin for a wife,

follypimpi:

Yoruba people talk say,(Ere wo ni aja ba ekun se)which kind play Dog dey follow Lion play.If they r jst friends tell her to introduce u to all of them @least they r friends,so why not?, I blv if u say mke u confirm if she be virgin now,she go talk say u dey doubt am,end the relationship.Me for a person i don't want a virgin for a wife,

Interesting. . . . . please explain

OK now,i knw sex is part of rlshp/Marriage but trust me it weights 80% towards mkin a marriage/rlship work.So if i marry virgin now and that very d-day she no kon sabi,i go too vex, cos i dont want to start teaching,i want her to upgrade to my levels.

I agree.

follypimpi:

OK now,i knw sex is part of rlshp/Marriage but trust me it weights 80% towards mkin a marriage/rlship work.So if i marry virgin now and that very d-day she no kon sabi,i go too vex, because i don't want to start teaching,i want her to upgrade to my levels.

and what if d non virgin u marry becomes worst than d virgin what will happen?

d earlier u people know that non virgins r not more sexually active dan d virgins d better for all of u

its all bout being sexually active,i know alot of experienced women today who r as stiff in bed as d word itself


and those dat did not marry as virgins should stop discouraging those of them dat wanna remain a virgin,its not their faults dat u all loss ur self control to some dude

@cholera

Who is dicouragin who !!! nah my choice dat i dont want a virgin as a wife.How we lose self control,ur gf asked u to Hammer her,will u say No i dont want to am trying to abstain from sex.trust me she go leave u Bleep ur friend for sure.self control Ko,u better hammer make her hair scatter,

follypimpi:

@cholera

Who is dicouragin who !!! nah my choice that i don't want a virgin as a wife.How we lose self control,ur girlfriend asked u to Hammer her,will u say No i don't want to am trying to abstain from sex.trust me she go leave u mess ur friend for sure.self control Ko,u better hammer make her hair scatter,

the loose control post was directed to people that think non virgins r better in bed than virgins

if u want to marry a non virgin fine,but non virgins or people that did not marry as virgins should stop ,making it look as if the experienced people r better than people wt no experience

some of them lost their virignities at age 17 or 18 blive me i don't have a problem wt them,but they should just shut their disgusting trap,because they marrying as non virgins really does not make them d best partner in sex

You still haven't told us what the texts say?

@cholera

I get ur point tho,a virgin girl/dude reading this cld lose self confidence in bed and trust me it can kill.Once rememba i wanted to shag a girl back in high skl and she told me my johnson is too small,i was almost in tears cos she don dey balla big bros dem with anaconda.Tho i was young then anyways,but thankfully Johnson grew up to be bold and i made sure i went back for a re-match this time around she confirmed i have grown,lol.being a virgin doesnt mean u cant over perform than experienced girl/boi.learn sum skills from www.boysfood.com ,tinysblackadventures.com and phatbootyhoes.com, LOL

follypimpi:

@cholera

I get ur point tho,a virgin girl/dude reading this cld lose self confidence in bed and trust me it can kill.Once rememba i wanted to shag a girl back in high skl and she told me my johnson is too small,i was almost in tears because she don dey balla big bros them with anaconda.Tho i was young then anyways,but thankfully Johnson grew up to be bold and i made sure i went back for a re-match this time around she confirmed i have grown,lol.being a virgin doesnt mean u can't over perform than experienced girl/boi.learn sum skills from www.boysfood.com ,tinysblackadventures.com and phatbootyhoes.com, LOL

hahahahahhahahahahahha u no well

thank u,u get my point,u see e get some girls wey dey experienced for bed,but i tell u,r not good,experience no mean say person sabi do,i used to have this same mindset until d day wey person draw my attention to it and i saw a diff thing in it,this virgins r so anxious for d right day,so tey them don learn everything and still learning,d experienced people only try out what theyve already known,virgins r trying out things they don't know,and naim dey sweet pass,because its like everything been done anew again

alot of virgins go even describe sexual positions for u,u go think say them don do na lie,them never do anything,porn and other booky and campaign on sex don't make them know alot about it,and i bet u an experienced woman might not beat them to d game

I have no problems with virgins.  In fact I have told my daughter that she can have sex 3 years after she marries.

cholera:


its all bout being sexually active,i know alot of experienced women today who r as stiff in bed as d word itself

That my dear is what we call and oxymoron.  You cant have experience and still be stiff in bed.

sistawoman:

I have no problems with virgins.  In fact I have told my daughter that she can have sex 3 years after she marries.

That my dear is what we call and oxymoron.  You can't have experience and still be stiff in bed.

its not all bout oxymoron sista,some expereinced people r still stiff,when i mean stiff i mean really stiff in bed,they r not flexible to the game,d fact that one is experienced does not mean the word "shy " is off their dictionary

what i call stiff is not like d stiff,i mean people that r not ready to go pasionately crazy in bed

experience means nothing to me

Having several sexual partners is different than experience.

With experience you cant be stiff.

With promiscuity you can be stiff.

Two different things.

@cholera

is like u sef b virgin or sum1 wey be virgin dey close to u.U seems to knw too much man,trust.Sum proclaimed experienced people sef no sabi,Nah so dem go raise leg up like frozen chicken.very very annoying

sistawoman:

Having several sexual partners is different than experience.

With experience you can't be stiff.

With promiscuity you can be stiff.

Two different things.

Ok please explain the two to me because I'm kinda confused here.

She does not consider the relationship serious, hence the text messages.

follypimpi:

@cholera

is like u sef b virgin or someone wey be virgin dey close to u.U seems to knw too much man,trust.Sum proclaimed experienced people sef no sabi,Nah so them go raise leg up like frozen chicken.very very annoying

can a married woman be a virgin?

sistawoman:

Having several sexual partners is different than experience.

With experience you can't be stiff.

With promiscuity you can be stiff.

Two different things.

u r confusing urself here not me,some one dat has had sex partners has had an experience in sex,so wats ur point madam?

chika98:

Ok please explain the two to me because I'm kind of confused here.

Bcuz i sleep with 50 different guys it does not mean I have sexual experience it just means I sleep around and they do what they need to do to get their nut.  If i learn nothing, if i try nothing new then I am no more experienced when I am done with guy 50 then i was with guy one.

If I have experience I could have slept with 5 guys but I can hold it down because I make having good sex apart of what i do.  I learn from each sexual encounter.  I take something new from each sexual encounter.  Thus giving me experience and not just numbers of sexual partners.

An experienced sexual partner knows that laying there like a log is not sexually exciting or fullfilling.

sistawoman:

Bcuz i sleep with 50 different guys it does not mean I have sexual experience it just means I sleep around and they do what they need to do to get their nut.  If i learn nothing, if i try nothing new then I am no more experienced when I am done with guy 50 then i was with guy one.

sistawoman u r wrong and so contradicting urself,check out experience in d dictionary,experience is having a knowledge of sthg,having a feel of sthg

anyone dat has had sex has an experience on dat issue

ur points dont hold water ma

sistawoman:

Bcuz i sleep with 50 different guys it does not mean I have sexual experience it just means I sleep around and they do what they need to do to get their nut.  If i learn nothing, if i try nothing new then I am no more experienced when I am done with guy 50 then i was with guy one.

If I have experience I could have slept with 5 guys but I can hold it down because I make having good sex apart of what i do.  I learn from each sexual encounter.  I take something new from each sexual encounter.  Thus giving me experience and not just numbers of sexual partners.

An experienced sexual partner knows that laying there like a log is not sexually exciting or fullfilling.

I can understand what you mean but I guess u are talking about a LovePeddler here. Why would anyone open their legs to shag if they cannot get anything out of the experience?? It doesn't add up to me. She might as well "touch" herself to get off rather than just humping dudes for no reason. Normal ppl should learn from each and every sexual experience. We all need it to keep a man in the future. No body wants a prude in bed.