"Husband
Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced
by many
young girls today. If you go to
prayer houses, majority of the intentions are
prayer for a life
partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our
mothers and
grandmothers, was there really
much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or,
maybe there were
more men than women then, or
there was an adequate corresponding numbers of
both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the
women had values and were prepared to build a
home and not
park into a built home. Then,
once a young man comes of age and can at least
feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search
of a wife and the
woman really appreciates him
and helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to say? We created
what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the
reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define
her
dream husband; you get things like "he has to be
tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at
least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God
fearing" in
order not to sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around you and
the number of men that meet that standard,
and you will see the problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot
suffer in my father's house and then go and
start suffering with a man."
What a wonderful dream! What if
from the beginning, you have everything you
want and
there is no suffering, and later in
the marriage, the table turns around, then comes
suffering? Will you run away? No
one prays for suffering, but it is good to start
small and end big,
than start big and end small.
The problem is that the
description majority of girls give of their ideal
man is virtually the
same. When 50 girls want the
same kind of man and the man that fits what
they want is just 1
man, and the man can only pick
one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that
it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find
a man who is of marriage age who possesses all
those things these ladies want, legally (except
those involved in Internet fraud); even the
number of those in Internet fraud is not
enough to match all those searching for already
made husbands.
If you look around, majority of
the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue,
who are ready
to build a home with a man who
has prospects, are married and not complaining
of husband
scarcity. The easiest way to find
a husband now, is to change your view of who a
husband is. A
husband is that man God made
and then saw that it may be hard for him to
really actualize his
purpose for making him, without
a help mate and then made the woman and gave
to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A
POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the
family of God here
on earth. For those who see marriage as a way
out of poverty, it is a way into bondage.
Women are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a
route to where God has destined him to be
tomorrow. Another
truth is that YOU MAY BE THE
ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS
DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP
THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you
should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband materials.
What I
am saying is that you should stop setting your
standard on material acquisitions or physical
appearances. Look beyond
the physical. WHAT MAKES A
MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR
HOW
HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF....

dont mind those now praying for husband. Most of them didnt take relationships crious@yung age

gurls b like"i can suffer in my. fathhers and and continue in my husband house"una go jonze tire...very soon na women go dey pay groom. price no mor bride price...

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Craigston:
It's been a trend on Nairaland that useless topics make front page. Just in case it happens again.

So true, bro!