Tallesty1:
Do you know if I sell pads? Gerrawta my sight old thing.

Tallesty1:
There are times we need to ask ourselves questions and answer them truthfully.

What I’m talking about today is the reason some ladies will leave everyone they know in a state and go to the city to stay without a job or handwork.

Personaly I don’t see why anyone will love to leave his or her beloved family to spend time in another part of the country without a genuine reason.

Their(ladies) reasons most times are, They want money, spouse, They need to be free from parents and everyone they know, a job etc but they don't know that in so doing they have pierced themselves through with many sorrows.

Thats why you see them Being used in the relationships, Guys see them as spare parts element and not wife materials, the very unfortunate ones are being killed for ritual purposes.

It breaks my heart to see the pitiable life they live here.
You see them cooking and washing for guys. Some are even married without their parent's knowledge. On sundays they would be praying for a guy to ask them to cook for him so that at least their would be something to eat. Crazy things like that.

There are those that have moved into the permanent site(Prostitution).

There is one around here, the only time she sleep at home is when she is seeing her period. No job, oh sorry, she is got a job. Her job is her relationship, she is got more than five guys that are dating her.

And there some (gosh) that date sugar-mummies(lesbian sugar-mummies).

Typing the stuffs they do here just to survive will definitely give me keypadtriosis.

I know that some of them do succeed and make money but every other thing seems to be against them.

My questions are:

1: Why leave your village when you know that you don't have anything serious to do in the city?

2: Is the money worth what they pass through?

anitank:
I know of one who caters for her entire family(mum and two brothers) with such lifestyle. After their dad died, their rich inlaws left them with nothing. While her actions are not justifiable, she is determined pull her family up rather than let them pull her down. I only know of this one because she's a family friend.

And did I mention she's doing way better than me doing a regular 8-6 job and still searching for a dream job?

Like someone said, don't judge them all cos u don't know their story

mployer:
A lady can live in the city without a job and without prostituting. The ones You met are probably career prostitutes hiding under the cover of 'no jobs'

MissSlimbody:


No be bible talk dat 1 ooo, na we christians dey talk am.

Tallesty1:
If you think this is a female bashing thread then your hands ain't clean and your path ain't straight.

anitank:
I know of one who caters for her entire family(mum and two brothers) with such lifestyle. After their dad died, their rich inlaws left them with nothing. While her actions are not justifiable, she is determined to pull her family up rather than let them pull her down. I only know of this one because she's a family friend.

And did I mention she's doing way better than me doing a regular 8-6 job and still searching for a dream job? She bought a car for her mum last year and is planning on building her a house soon

Like someone said, don't judge them all cos u don't know their story

mployer:


Some live with relatives
some squat with friends
some have money sent to them from parents and siblings
some have money sent to them by boy-friends somewhere
some live on NYSC savings
some have handworks like bead and cake-making
some do home lessons
...the list is numerous bro

anitank:
I know of one who caters for her entire family(mum and two brothers) with such lifestyle. After their dad died, their rich inlaws left them with nothing. While her actions are not justifiable, she is determined to pull her family up rather than let them pull her down. I only know of this one because she's a family friend.

And did I mention she's doing way better than me doing a regular 8-6 job and still searching for a dream job? She bought a car for her mum last year and is planning on building her a house soon

Like someone said, don't judge them all cos u don't know their story

anitank:
I know of one who caters for her entire family(mum and two brothers) with such lifestyle. After their dad died, their rich inlaws left them with nothing. While her actions are not justifiable, she is determined to pull her family up rather than let them pull her down. I only know of this one because she's a family friend.

And did I mention she's doing way better than me doing a regular 8-6 job and still searching for a dream job? She bought a car for her mum last year and is planning on building her a house soon

Like someone said, don't judge them all cos u don't know their story

ChiSun27:





Young lady....there is no good justifiable reason for being a runs girl or venturing into prostitution....I hope you don't envy her sha?.....cus even the Bible says that...we shouldn't envy the wealth of the unrighteous.

Tallesty1:
Are you saying that there is actually a good way to do bad things?

Tallesty1:
Are you saying that there is actually a good way to do bad things?

anitank:


The last thing I'm doing is envy her oo, because while I know she's doing very well, I also know of some bad experiences she's been through. I sooo can't keep up with such lifestyle.

anitank:

Oh well they call it Moral Crisis
*shrugs*

carefreewannabe:


I guess, she is saying that some people do things so they and their families can survive.

tooltip:
Sometimes, i wonder how some ladies who earn 100k or less in abuja can afford pricey apartments in gwarinpa, maitama and other highbrow areas, it just doesn't add up

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Tallesty1:
I got what she meant, I understand that too but majority are in it for different reasons. My question still stands, will the end justify the means? For me, there is absolutely no good way to do bad things. You can't say that a guy who is into robbery so that his family can survive is doing the right thing. There is always a better alternative but some people are to lazy to find it.

anitank:
I know of one who caters for her entire family(mum and two brothers) with such lifestyle. After their dad died, their rich inlaws left them with nothing. While her actions are not justifiable, she is determined to pull her family up rather than let them pull her down. I only know of this one because she's a family friend.

And did I mention she's doing way better than me doing a regular 8-6 job and still searching for a dream job? She bought a car for her mum last year and is planning on building her a house soon

Like someone said, don't judge them all cos u don't know their story

Tallesty1:
I got what she meant, I understand that too but majority are in it for different reasons. My question still stands, will the end justify the means? For me, there is absolutely no good way to do bad things. You can't say that a guy who is into robbery so that his family can survive is doing the right thing. There is always a better alternative but some people are to lazy to find it.

Tallesty1:
Those people that depend on her, what happened to them, can't they work?


BTW, I have no sister that's still single. No headache at all.

Tallesty1:
*shrugs too*.

In the last part of your previous comment, you said that I should not judge them until I read their story.

That statement of yours got me confused, all I did was list the pitiable life the live here and ask if the benefit is worth what the pass through.

Please tell me, where and how did I judge them?

carefreewannabe:


How do you know that majority of them are in it for different reasons than poverty in a poverty-stricken country without any social security system people can fall on?

Do you know majority of them? Are there any statistics?

You cannot compare prostitution to robbery. Prostitutes help people and at worst harm themselves. Robbers hurt others to help themselves.

What other alternative has a lady got in Nigeria if she cannot find a job and has to feed her illiterate mother and her younger siblings?

Gamboh55:


There's no justification whatsoever..I went to a bar on friday night and i saw some Ashhh/runs chiks flaunting their goods and at the same time i saw other ladies in uniforms serving drinks, others making shawarma by the side and others making pepper soup and Asun and i got to know that the lady making the shawarma owns the shawarma spot which she started two years ago.... you and those hardworking ladies chose the honourable way while your friend chose her path, the path of dishonour and there will be consequences..There is no excuse, your friend could have worked her way up and not by selling her GOODS..

Tallesty1:
My dear............ I hate blaming the government for our personal problems which are most times a result of bad decisions we made.

There is no country on earth that do not have prostitutes and runs girls, not one.

Ok, you are in this country and so are other countless decent girls that struggle(in a decent way) to survive, so why is their own different?

There is one runs-lady around here, she is from benue state. She is well known for linking young ladies to old papas and recruiting young guys for mamas. She is from a rich home, I know her family in benue state. Her dad has a school and drives infinity jeep but the lady is here at abuja fvcking every fuckable thing.

Can you tell me that poverty is still her own reason?

No way dear, it is in her system.

ulaa:
Who told you every family is loving or supportive, some family members are worst than satan. Most of the ladies you are talking about, come from bad homes. Don't be quick to judge.

Boriqua:


May God bless you,i was about saying the same,infact i have one online job to offer the unemployed among us here! Go to www.cashripe.com/?id=Edwards start earning in dollars now. GOODLUCK!!!

ChiSun27:




I'm happy with your reply...just as you know...Life is short but surely you have many years ahead of you...so your dreams will definitely come through...as long as you belief in our Lord Jesus Christ.

anitank:
I know of one who caters for her entire family(mum and two brothers) with such lifestyle. After their dad died, their rich inlaws left them with nothing. While her actions are not justifiable, she is determined to pull her family up rather than let them pull her down. I only know of this one because she's a family friend.

And did I mention she's doing way better than me doing a regular 8-6 job and still searching for a dream job? She bought a car for her mum last year and is planning on building her a house soon

Like someone said, don't judge them all cos u don't know their story