This arguement ensued between me and some of my friends yesterday about a husband raping his wife. NLs, is there anything lyk a husband raping his wife? Is it constitutionally right or wrong? Please kindly share your knowledge by shedding more light to this. Őňĕ łõvĕ

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...in some jurisdictions a man can legally be charged with raping his wife.

Personally, I don't believe that should be the case. The marital union is a conjugal one. If anything, he could be charged with GBH if he forces and/or injures her.

And from a Christian perspective her body is now his - as his is hers. But note, that as being one flesh with her, to hurt his wife is to hate himself - who hates his own flesh?

So, no, I personally don't believe a man can "rape" his wife, but he shouldn't in anyway force or brutalise her.


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TV01:
...in some jurisdictions a man can legally be charged with raping his wife.

Personally, I don't believe that should be the case. The marital union is a conjugal one. If anything, he could be charged with GBH if he forces and/or injures her.

And from a Christian perspective her body is now his - as his is hers. But note, that as being one flesh with her, to hurt his wife is to hate himself - who hates his own flesh?

So, no, I personally don't believe a man can "rape" his wife, but he shouldn't in anyway force or brutalise her.


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And what if he does?

carefreewannabe:


And what if he does?

Please re-read- carefully. Are you considering marriage? !


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TV01:

Please re-read- carefully. Are you considering marriage? !


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I have. What if he forces her to have s*ex with him without hurting her?

carefreewannabe:

I have. What if he forces her to have s*ex with him without hurting her?

Please re-read- carefully. Are you considering marriage ?


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TV01:

Please re-read- carefully. Are you considering marriage ?


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Of course not, I am not insane.

Lol

carefreewannabe:

Of course not, I am not insane.

You dey fear huh. Or have you given up on Manuel !


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TV01:

You dey fear huh. Or have you given up on Manuel !


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Fear to end up like MOST married people, in boring captivity.

I am still faithful to Manuel.

No. Except they're no longer married.

it sounds funny.

Same question every 3days.

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cococandy:
Same question every 3days.

Let it be the same question every day as long as there are still people who claim that there is no such a thing as rape in a marriage.

carefreewannabe:


Let it be the same question every day as long as there are still people who claim that there is no such a thing as rape in a marriage.

but they won't learn from the answers. It is more like they come back every so often to know if there is a change in status quo

cococandy:
but they won't learn from the answers. It is more like they come back every so often to know if there is a change in status quo

Some people do actually learn, we just need to be patient. The first step is to raise awareness.

carefreewannabe:


Some people do actually learn, we just need to be patient. The first step is to raise awareness.

Good luck and Godspeed

Boring

cococandy:
Same question every 3days.

I tire.

Sophyrocks:


I tire.

Please don't. There is still a lot of work to be done.

cococandy:
Same question every 3days.

u're already angry sista? 4giv us na, nt every1 comes to Nairaland everyday na, if u dunno sumtin u ask, dat's hw u learn.

jhidey08:
This arguement ensued between me and some of my friends yesterday about a husband raping his wife. NLs, is there anything lyk a husband raping his wife? Is it constitutionally right or wrong? Please kindly share your knowledge by shedding more light to this. Őňĕ łõvĕ

yes, there is.
if your wife doesn't want your penïs in her, find another woman to shäg. no responsible man should force himself on a woman. you disgrace manhood when you do such.

carefreewannabe:


Please don't. There is still a lot of work to be done.

Lol. Its funny how you see this from a positive angle though.

Sophyrocks:


Lol. Its funny how you see this from a positive angle though.

I believe in the law of attraction. You attract what you send out, so stay positive.

carefreewannabe:


I believe in the law of attraction. You attract what you send out, so stay positive.

True.

carefreewannabe:
Let it be the same question every day as long as there are still people who claim that there is no such a thing as rape in a marriage.

If a man and his wife both drink, subsequently have intercourse and then fall asleep, if she awakens after the fact and cannot remember consenting to the act, he has technically raped her and can be charged.

This is even if they both drunk to stupor and neither can remember anything, and even if she does not claim to have been raped.

Are you satisfies that he has indeed raped her and should be charged and prosecuted?


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TV01:


If a man and his wife both drink, subsequently have intercourse and then fall asleep, if she awakens after the fact and cannot remember consenting to the act, he has technically raped her and can be charged.

Says who?

She cannot remember consenting but she can remember that she was raped?

This is even if they both drunk to stupor and neither can remember anything, and even if she does not claim to have been raped.

Are you satisfies that he has indeed raped her and should be charged and prosecuted?


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I don't agree that she has been raped just because she does not remember consenting. If she doesn't remember consenting, she also cannot remember saying no, right? So a rape cannot be proven.

Anyone who drinks to the point that he / she does not remember what he / she did, should not drink. Alcohol is not an excuse.

TV01:


If a man and his wife both drink, subsequently have intercourse and then fall asleep, if she awakens after the fact and cannot remember consenting to the act, he has technically raped her and can be charged.

This is even if they both drunk to stupor and neither can remember anything, and even if she does not claim to have been raped.
Are you satisfies that he has indeed raped her and should be charged and prosecuted?


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if she feels she has been räped and she calls the cops then the husband deserves to be charged and prosecuted. everything is about the perception of the victim.

i get where you are coming from though - but my definition of marital räpe would be a situation where a husband violently räpes his wife - not the other technicalities involved i.e. consent!

carefreewannabe:


Says who?

She cannot remember consenting but she can remember that she was raped?



I don't agree that she has been raped just because she does not remember consenting. If she doesn't remember consenting, she also cannot remember saying no, right? So a rape cannot be proven.

Anyone who drinks to the point that he / she does not remember what he / she did, should not drink. Alcohol is not an excuse.

The wording of rape laws - and the push - in the West (certainly UK and the US, and I would have thought Deutscheland), mean that where a women is deemed incapable of giving consent (as in when drunk), if intercourse has taken place, she has effectively been raped. Informed consent is the sole determinant.

Charges can be brought even if the "victim" does not allege rape - and the man being equally drunk is no defense, as the wording also deems sex and thus rape to be something men do to women.

The whole notion of rape has become politicised and ideologically weighted.

It would be good if you grasped the nuances of what you are pushing - your response to my question casts doubt or at least makes me wonder.


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TV01:


The wording of rape laws - and the push - in the West (certainly UK and the US, and I would have thought Deutscheland), mean that where a women is deemed incapable of giving consent (as in when drunk), if intercourse has taken place, she has effectively been raped. Informed consent is the sole determinant.

Charges can be brought even if the "victim" does not allege rape - and the man being equally drunk is no defense, as the wording also deems sex and thus rape to be something men do to women.

The whole notion of rape has become politicised and ideologically weighted.

It would be good if you grasped the nuances of what you are pushing - your response to my question casts doubt or at least makes me wonder.


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What I stand for is EQUALITY, FREEDOM (unless is does not hurt others), and RESPONSIBILITY.

The scenario you have described has nothing to do with equality and responsibility.

I have never heard of a case in which a man has been charged with rape because he slept with a drunk woman in Deutschland and she either has forgotten to have consented or the authorities decided to pursue him just because she decided to get drunk.