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Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Burger01(m): 11:50am On Jan 10, 2015
Hehehe. Me that my anger can last for a week angry
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by thegoodone2(m): 11:57am On Jan 10, 2015
informative
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Nobody: 12:01pm On Jan 10, 2015
Fkforyou:
Interesting,but am sure "they" would find one loophole in what she said and give reasons why she is wrong.

Finding a loophole doesn't mean she is wrong neither does it mean we are. Learn to accommodate diffrent views and opinions. Bye.
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Nobody: 12:08pm On Jan 10, 2015
Can I honestly ask some guys what they understand by "feminism"? It is obvious some dumbasses on this forum have not even bothered to do a research on this topic but are so ever ready to jump at feminists. You guys need to educate yourselves and remember that not everything about feminists are negative. I'm aware that there are extremists. Just remember that feminists are the same people fighting against violence against women.
That said, I don't totally agree with op about no feminism in marriage because what I understand by feminism is equal rights and fair treatment of women. So we quality rights in the society and fair treatment in marriage.

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Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Nobody: 12:08pm On Jan 10, 2015
Can I honestly ask some guys what they understand by "feminism"? It is obvious some dumbasses on this forum have not even bothered to do a research on this topic but are so ever ready to jump at feminists. You guys need to educate yourselves and remember that not everything about feminists are negative. I'm aware that there are extremists. Just remember that feminists are the same people fighting against violence against women.
That said, I don't totally agree with op about no feminism in marriage because what I understand by feminism is equal rights and fair treatment of women. So we equality rights in the society and fair treatment in marriage.
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by PrettySpicey(f): 12:09pm On Jan 10, 2015
I wonder if mothers still give such advices undecided
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by listenersky: 12:18pm On Jan 10, 2015
This is the best post I have read this year on Nairaland. I wish my girlfriend will read this. Though she has most of these attributes already.thanks OP for sharing.
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Nobody: 12:28pm On Jan 10, 2015
This is sensationalism. If mothers talk to their daughters likes this, who knows, there might have been a many young couples out there with success life story. A lady who is a good reader with strong nervousness will have a drop of tear here. Good one
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by sibepoc(m): 12:31pm On Jan 10, 2015
Best thread this year
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by SilverSnow(m): 12:33pm On Jan 10, 2015
When I read posts like this I love to come back to Nairaland. But I hardly see them.
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by JeffreyJamez(m): 12:42pm On Jan 10, 2015
PrettySpicey:
I wonder if mothers still give such advices undecided

I can see your achievement lol grin
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by soultender(f): 12:47pm On Jan 10, 2015
yungryce:
If to say dis girls dey use their ear, my short, ugly self for don marry since 18AD.


Some girls go still find some loopholes in dis post sha
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by soultender(f): 12:48pm On Jan 10, 2015
WORD.
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Nobody: 12:48pm On Jan 10, 2015
• My daughter, there is this thing you girls now practice, they say it’s
feminism. Well, you can prove to be equal to a man in the society but please,
not in your marriage because at my old age, I don’t want to start counting
your husbands.




Will they listen?
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Crysallis(m): 12:51pm On Jan 10, 2015
sharon763:
But some men...after suffering wif dem,dey wil now leave u for anoda woman becos they need a classy lady


false.
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Nobody: 12:51pm On Jan 10, 2015
netizenbuzz:
Can I honestly ask some guys what they understand by "feminism"? It is obvious some dumbasses on this forum have not even bothered to do a research on this topic but are so ever ready to jump at feminists. You guys need to educate yourselves and remember that not everything about feminists are negative. I'm aware that there are extremists. Just remember that feminists are the same people fighting against violence against women.
That said, I don't totally agree with op about no feminism in marriage because what I understand by feminism is equal rights and fair treatment of women. So we equality rights in the society and fair treatment in marriage.



Fair treatment? ...... Agreed. Equal right with your husband?..... Your mother will be counting your husbands in her old age.

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Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Mrsfaithhh: 1:01pm On Jan 10, 2015
This is wat d men wll like na.But they don't know jack about how to make marriage work.If a woman ends up doin all of dese and marries a man dat hasntt bin taught too,trust me the marrriage won't work.as u ar shoutin,nice one! I wish they wll learn bla bla crap! Ensure u ar also learnin from ur mother too.
A lot of U here want career woman for a wife yet u don't even know how to boil water.

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Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Nobody: 1:02pm On Jan 10, 2015
RoyalRoy:


• "it never happened in our time because no matter what, we never opened our laps before the wedding."



Source::
http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2014/12/24-elders-words-of-wisdom-for-ladies-in.html


Good old days when you get a virgin wife delivered straight to you at home without having to toast or buy recharge cards for months even years to get a wife that is not even a virgin.

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Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by rsleeky(f): 1:04pm On Jan 10, 2015
God bless u for posting this........I love it...tnx I have learnt smtn
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by flexyfranky(m): 1:07pm On Jan 10, 2015
No woman will put all this things to practice and still have a trouble home. A word is enough for the wise!!!
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by greatnow: 1:08pm On Jan 10, 2015
My son shebi you hear wetin that woman dey tell her daughter? Now listen to my own as your father.....Make sure you make money and be incharge in your family because without that your wife no go respect you.

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Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Champele(m): 1:25pm On Jan 10, 2015
African mentality.

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Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Nobody: 1:41pm On Jan 10, 2015
dicefrost:




Fair treatment? ...... Agreed. Equal right with your husband?..... Your mother will be counting your husbands in her old age.

Dont direct your statements at me pls. You want me to swear for your mother? Any way what kind of rights are you talking about exactly? I'd like to here your views.
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Cappon86(m): 1:41pm On Jan 10, 2015
RoyalRoy:



My daughter, don’t cause a separation between your man and his siblings; it could be dangerous for you when they finally speak with one voice.


• My daughter, I know that some of you girls don’t wish to marry a man whose mother is still alive, don’t ever think like that, if you do, well, I think your son’s wife-to-be should start wishing you're dead now.


• My daughter, listen to me, when I married your father, he was as tiny as his salary but I chose to grow with him and today, those cars out there are some of the results of what we started so little, together, and we’re proud looking at them.


• My daughter, there is this thing i see happening in your time, some of you girls now get pregnant before the wedding day, well, it never happened in our time because no matter what, we never opened our laps before the wedding.


• My daughter, well, yes, I once locked up the cloth of your father because I got to my limit of patience and that was the only thing I could do, but one thing I haven’t said was that we settled the issue that same day and that was the last time I tried that.


• My daughter, look up there. That’s the wedding picture of your father and I, look at him smiling, I know you've seen it many times but what you did not know is that your father was angry before taking this picture, I hope you find a man whose anger doesn't last till the next day.


• My daughter, when your Father was riding a bicycle, I was always happy to hop on it and ride with him, not because I didn't see those men in their little cars but because my eyes also saw those men trekking to their farms.


• My daughter, if you and your husband eat a little food with love, you both would be satisfied. Times are not always the same; support him in every phase he’s passing through.


• My daughter, don’t ever close your laps to your husband in bed , the day he paid your dowry was the day you lost your will to do so, don’t be stiff and try to satisfy him even if you were angry with him.


• My daughter, a man would respect you and be more proud of you if you’re learned and not totally dependent on him. Strive to make your own money and while you're at it, be humble.


• My daughter, under the cocoa tree that I did meet with your Father was open and good enough for our discussions, yes; it was open and good enough if you understand what I mean.


• My daughter, in our time, we had sexy legs and firm bosoms to show our men , in fact, we had the finest ones, yet, when we dress, we cover those parts of our body, not because we were not civilized as you people would call it, but because we know that the eyes of men are hungry, many of them would only come, touch and go their way.


• My daughter, there is this thing you girls now practice, they say it’s feminism. Well, you can prove to be equal to a man in the society but please, not in your marriage because at my old age, I don’t want to start counting your husbands.


• My daughter, marriage is not a Rehabilitation Centre, if he’s not good enough for you before marriage, nothing he does would be good
enough after marriage.


• My daughter, you can see I still wear my night gown , yes, because to my husband; your father, I still want to look sexy. So, take good care of your body, look good for your man and don’t look like a grandma after giving birth.


• My daughter, I’m your mother and still, I'm not interested in you coming to me always if anything goes wrong with your husband. Though nowadays I see some mothers controlling the homes of their sons and daughters, I would only say; shame on them!


• My daughter, for you to have a peaceful home and well-trained children, have one voice with your husband, join him to say NO when he’s saying NO before the kids but later when you both are alone, you can plead with him for a YES, if not, the
children will see a loophole to misbehave, either to you or their father.


• My daughter, if you chose to live together with a man that you’re yet to be married to , and you are complaining that he hasn't proposed to you, oh, he already did. Whatever he said that made you start living with him was his proposal.


• My daughter, your generation does not see any pride in been a virgin before marriage, it’s a shame! Your father met me a virgin and he brought more yams to my parents and up till today, he’s still proud of me when we discuss in that direction.


• My daughter, I know that no man out there is complete, but when you are looking for your tall, slim, fair and handsome, if he’s a woman-beater, please, go for the short, fat, dark and ugly that will give you the respect you deserve as a woman.


• My daughter, know, learn and respect the culture and lifestyle of whoever you chose to marry . In some part of Africa, you knee down to greet your man’s parents while in some part outside Africa; you can even call them by their first name and ask for a
handshake. Whatever they believe in, if you've chosen him, believe it with him also.


• My daughter, don’t ever try to date a married man, whether his excuse was that he doesn't find happiness with his wife or he would have married you if he had met you first, if you ever try it, I curse you already.


• My daughter, when I say over 52 years of marriage , it wasn't that I did not see any reason to leave your father, I saw a lot of them but I bear his faults, i forgave him to stay married.


• My daughter, these are part of the wisdom i have gathered over the years. and If I had taken my time to tell you all these, and your marriage doesn't last like that of your father and I, then I had wished i never gave birth to you.




Source::;;
http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2014/12/24-elders-words-of-wisdom-for-ladies-in.html
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by PrettySpicey(f): 1:41pm On Jan 10, 2015
Great things in 2015 grin

JeffreyJamez:


I can see your achievement lol grin

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Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Nobody: 1:50pm On Jan 10, 2015
This is wonderful,well done
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Dolcilicious(f): 1:55pm On Jan 10, 2015
Wow,i love this
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by dejii01(m): 1:56pm On Jan 10, 2015
• My daughter, there is this thing you girls now practice, they say it’s feminism. Well, you can prove to be equal to a man in the society but please, not in your marriage because at my old age, I don’t want to start counting your husbands.

Humorous!
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Marineremmanson(m): 1:57pm On Jan 10, 2015
RoyalRoy:



My daughter, don’t cause a separation between your man and his siblings; it could be dangerous for you when they finally speak with one voice.


• My daughter, I know that some of you girls don’t wish to marry a man whose mother is still alive, don’t ever think like that, if you do, well, I think your son’s wife-to-be should start wishing you're dead now.


• My daughter, listen to me, when I married your father, he was as tiny as his salary but I chose to grow with him and today, those cars out there are some of the results of what we started so little, together, and we’re proud looking at them.


• My daughter, there is this thing i see happening in your time, some of you girls now get pregnant before the wedding day, well, it never happened in our time because no matter what, we never opened our laps before the wedding.


• My daughter, well, yes, I once locked up the cloth of your father because I got to my limit of patience and that was the only thing I could do, but one thing I haven’t said was that we settled the issue that same day and that was the last time I tried that.


• My daughter, look up there. That’s the wedding picture of your father and I, look at him smiling, I know you've seen it many times but what you did not know is that your father was angry before taking this picture, I hope you find a man whose anger doesn't last till the next day.


• My daughter, when your Father was riding a bicycle, I was always happy to hop on it and ride with him, not because I didn't see those men in their little cars but because my eyes also saw those men trekking to their farms.


• My daughter, if you and your husband eat a little food with love, you both would be satisfied. Times are not always the same; support him in every phase he’s passing through.


• My daughter, don’t ever close your laps to your husband in bed , the day he paid your dowry was the day you lost your will to do so, don’t be stiff and try to satisfy him even if you were angry with him.


• My daughter, a man would respect you and be more proud of you if you’re learned and not totally dependent on him. Strive to make your own money and while you're at it, be humble.


• My daughter, under the cocoa tree that I did meet with your Father was open and good enough for our discussions, yes; it was open and good enough if you understand what I mean.


• My daughter, in our time, we had sexy legs and firm bosoms to show our men , in fact, we had the finest ones, yet, when we dress, we cover those parts of our body, not because we were not civilized as you people would call it, but because we know that the eyes of men are hungry, many of them would only come, touch and go their way.


• My daughter, there is this thing you girls now practice, they say it’s feminism. Well, you can prove to be equal to a man in the society but please, not in your marriage because at my old age, I don’t want to start counting your husbands.


• My daughter, marriage is not a Rehabilitation Centre, if he’s not good enough for you before marriage, nothing he does would be good
enough after marriage.


• My daughter, you can see I still wear my night gown , yes, because to my husband; your father, I still want to look sexy. So, take good care of your body, look good for your man and don’t look like a grandma after giving birth.


• My daughter, I’m your mother and still, I'm not interested in you coming to me always if anything goes wrong with your husband. Though nowadays I see some mothers controlling the homes of their sons and daughters, I would only say; shame on them!


• My daughter, for you to have a peaceful home and well-trained children, have one voice with your husband, join him to say NO when he’s saying NO before the kids but later when you both are alone, you can plead with him for a YES, if not, the
children will see a loophole to misbehave, either to you or their father.


• My daughter, if you chose to live together with a man that you’re yet to be married to , and you are complaining that he hasn't proposed to you, oh, he already did. Whatever he said that made you start living with him was his proposal.


• My daughter, your generation does not see any pride in been a virgin before marriage, it’s a shame! Your father met me a virgin and he brought more yams to my parents and up till today, he’s still proud of me when we discuss in that direction.


• My daughter, I know that no man out there is complete, but when you are looking for your tall, slim, fair and handsome, if he’s a woman-beater, please, go for the short, fat, dark and ugly that will give you the respect you deserve as a woman.


• My daughter, know, learn and respect the culture and lifestyle of whoever you chose to marry . In some part of Africa, you knee down to greet your man’s parents while in some part outside Africa; you can even call them by their first name and ask for a
handshake. Whatever they believe in, if you've chosen him, believe it with him also.


• My daughter, don’t ever try to date a married man, whether his excuse was that he doesn't find happiness with his wife or he would have married you if he had met you first, if you ever try it, I curse you already.


• My daughter, when I say over 52 years of marriage , it wasn't that I did not see any reason to leave your father, I saw a lot of them but I bear his faults, i forgave him to stay married.


• My daughter, these are part of the wisdom i have gathered over the years. and If I had taken my time to tell you all these, and your marriage doesn't last like that of your father and I, then I had wished i never gave birth to you.

Source:::::::
http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2014/12/24-elders-words-of-wisdom-for-ladies-in.html




Whosoever heeds this advice must prosper in her marriage
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by tk4rd: 1:57pm On Jan 10, 2015
Please, we need the one for men. Sincere advices oo. Not yabbings
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by Nobody: 1:59pm On Jan 10, 2015
My daughter, these are part of the wisdom i have gathered over the years. and If I had taken my time to tell you all these, and your marriage doesn't last like that of your father and I, then I had wished i never gave birth to you.

so basically, my mother, for you marriage is more important than me, your child, your blood. you would rather regret of having me than me being happy. u r basically saying that id rather be in unhappy marriage (stuff happens which u can't forgive) in order to make u happy. ITS NOT HOW MOTHER SHOULD THINK!
Re: 24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter Before Marriage!! by JeffreyJamez(m): 2:06pm On Jan 10, 2015
PrettySpicey:
Great things in 2015 grin




and many more to come.

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