KarmaMod:

Rofl. That's how they trap you!

Man, if my friend's grandmother prays for you eh, you'd end up building her a house. sugarcoated tongue women.

don't fall for it anymore o! 

KarmaMod:

4Play, be quiet jeez.

sunshinemi:
@4playYou actually think i am making this all up.
You think i don't have better things to do with my time at few minutes to midnight than to cook up stories

This is an issue that is giving me serious headache.
If you have nothing serious to contribute on it, please shut up and move to another thread.

sunshinemi:

Daviddylan

If i tell him and he confronts his mum, what becomes my fate
I could just as well as break up with him
Because i will never ever be confortable going to see his mother again

If you can't be bothered to say no and inform your boyfriend,

Truth is if you can't handle her now it will only get worse when you get married. Keep that in mind.

KarmaMod:

while I agree with you, you gotta adm,it that it's not that easy as this might end up biting her in the ass

4 Play:

Saying no in this situation should come naturally

sunshinemi: I am presently in a relationship that is a little less than a year old. My boyfriend introduced me to his mum a few months back. She seems to like me and i call her often on the phone. My boyfriend and I both work with different oil servicing firms, so we earn good salary. My first visit to his mum, i gave her expensive fabrics and simple jewellery as gifts. This i did out of courtesy because my boyfriend lavishes money and gifts on me, so i felt that i could as well show a little love to his mother. She really appreciated them.

Without the knowledge of my boyfriend, i send recharge cards often to his mum. Minimum i text is 5,000 naira worth. Sometimes, i text more. However, she never calls back to thank me. She sends just a text or sometimes i will call her to confirm if she has gotten it after not hearing back from her.

Things took a frightening dimension some few months back. I called to say hello to her only for her to tell me that she needs money and i should send money to her. I was shocked because i know my boyfriend takes good care of her. What got to me what that she insisted on a particular amount and told me that she ''will pay me back'' when my boyfriend gives her monthly upkeep money. Of course, i told her not to worry. She then made me promise not to tell her son because if he hears, he would be really upset with her. I told her that i will keep sealed lips.

She has done made the same money request for different sums about three times after this.

The annoying part again is that she still expects me to send credit to her. It is so bad that she sends me texts requesting for recharge cards.

Two days ago, she did this again and i was so upset and i sent her just 1,000 naira worth and i explained to her that i just got back from a vacation abroad and i was a little low on cash and besides i told her i would pay her a visit at her place before the end of the year (i intend taking along with me as gifts to her bags of rice, things i got for her from my trip abroad, money, etc). She did not call or text to confirm she got the credit. When i called her, she said she had gotten it but she did not say a single ''thank you''.

This really hurt me because i have my own expenses and i also have a mother and i cannot imagine my own mum doing what she is doing.

I am really sick and tired of her extorting attitude and i am at a total loss on how to put a stop to it.

For goodness sake, her son is yet to formally propose marriage to me.

How do i put her in check?

Thanks.

davidylan: 1. you did too much too soon.

2. Time to tell her son, if he finds out on his own he wont be pleased with you.

hotstuff06:
Ah girl major mistake, just like Davidlyn said, that was way too much too soon. If you are just dating and she is already demanding, what more she will do when you get married to her son.

Stop digging your self a major hole, I wouls advice you not take the bag of rice to her and cut back on some of the things you got her abroad as well. Stop sending recharge cards too. Girl please this woman is already taking you as a slave, it will seem as though you are the one trying to marry her son by all means by getting on her good side.

1 more thing, you need to call your boyfriend and tell him everything at one, it will be worse if he hears this elsewhere. You are just his girlfriend not his wife.

4Play:


As if women don't have other avenues to do their own bitching?

Let's face it, it's either parents are more irritating when their sons are involved, as opposed to their daughter, or women are more likely to whine about parents. I think it's the latter.  

4Play:


As if women don't have other avenues to do their own bitching?

Let's face it, it's either parents are more irritating when their sons are involved, as opposed to their daughter, or women are more likely to whine about parents. I think it's the latter.  

sunshinemi:


Thanks for your contribution.

Thats the point. My boyfriend dares not know about it because he will think that she has embarrassed him and he will be very very very very upset with her.

I know he is crazy about me and i know the level of our relationship. If he hears that she ever asked me for a dime or gave me her bank details, it is going to result in a serious strain in their relationship. i do not want that to happen at all.  

sunshinemi:
I am presently in a relationship that is a little less than a year old. My boyfriend introduced me to his mum a few months back. She seems to like me and i call her often on the phone. My boyfriend and I both work with different oil servicing firms, so we earn good salary. My first visit to his mum, i gave her expensive fabrics and simple jewellery as gifts. This i did out of courtesy because my boyfriend lavishes money and gifts on me, so i felt that i could as well show a little love to his mother. She really appreciated them.

Without the knowledge of my boyfriend, i send recharge cards often to his mum. Minimum i text is 5,000 naira worth. Sometimes, i text more. However, she never calls back to thank me. She sends just a text or sometimes i will call her to confirm if she has gotten it after not hearing back from her.

Things took a frightening dimension some few months back. I called to say hello to her only for her to tell me that she needs money and i should send money to her. I was shocked because i know my boyfriend takes good care of her. What got to me what that she insisted on a particular amount and told me that she ''will pay me back'' when my boyfriend gives her monthly upkeep money. Of course, i told her not to worry. She then made me promise not to tell her son because if he hears, he would be really upset with her. I told her that i will keep sealed lips.

She has done made the same money request for different sums about three times after this.

The annoying part again is that she still expects me to send credit to her. It is so bad that she sends me texts requesting for recharge cards.

Two days ago, she did this again and i was so upset and i sent her just 1,000 naira worth and i explained to her that i just got back from a vacation abroad and i was a little low on cash and besides i told her i would pay her a visit at her place before the end of the year (i intend taking along with me as gifts to her bags of rice, things i got for her from my trip abroad, money, etc). She did not call or text to confirm she got the credit. When i called her, she said she had gotten it but she did not say a single ''thank you''.

This really hurt me because i have my own expenses and i also have a mother and i cannot imagine my own mum doing what she is doing.

I am really sick and tired of her extorting attitude and i am at a total loss on how to put a stop to it.

For goodness sake, her son is yet to formally propose marriage to me.

How do i put her in check?

Thanks.

frozen70:



You have done enough for her and this year is a time you stop making yourself cheap to her

Her types are ungrateful by nature and have nothing to offer

Reduce call times with her an d if possible limit it to once a month

She is smart, she knows you want her son that's why she is using that to make you her meal tickets

What if tomorrow it doesn't work, will you take back all you gave her

I think you should focus more in the relationship that's what matters to you now so that you can see clearly where the relationship is going to

Don't give her more than 1k recharge card

Don't send any money above 10k she did not give you money to keep for her and don't even do it regularly

When next she calls and demands, tell her your family needs your support and you need time to sort things out

If you don't take charge now you cant do it again after marriage because by then it will be more problematic and people will blame you for being unnecessary to good to her

Start saving if you don't have financial plans