"There are two kinds of books; those that build you, help you grow and put you on course, and there are those that will destroy you, not because they are fetish but because they fail to follow realities." - Anonymous

I have witnessed the effects of some of the movies we as Nigerians take delight in and I can say that they are unhealthy for our lives, emotional wise.

For those who remember "Cuando Seas Mia" (When you're mine), being one of the very few first Spanish-Mexican movies that graced our Television set several years ago. Its effect on the average mind was not just of love and admiration but something more devastating beyond running to a neighbour's house to watch when there was power outage. Unfortunately, more of these soaps flooded our screens for no cost and then we thought it was a blessing.

"When you're mine" was my first and my last. Even as a young man, I became squishy and sentimental and would act like I was some love-hungry fellow whose appetite for "True Love" was insatiable. The Utopian Love the soap preached seemed to have started and ended with the movie and could not be found in the real world, our world.

I have seen in some cases where most ladies try to induct their love life with the practices of these "perfect" movies and soaps and the result? Epic fail. Poor ladies! Some dedicate days, some weeks venting their anger on the "insensitivity" of their man and how he does not know and appreciate what true love is.

Korean season love movies, Philippines, Indian soaps, as well as Brazilian season love movies have terribly affected many, particularly our female folks. To some of them, there is love and there is TRUE LOVE. I can tell whether a man or a woman is a product Telemundo and co. upon hearing the words "True Love".

Unfortunately for most ladies, they don't realize that these soaps follow a linear plot, whether Korean or Mexican; a boy and a girl fall in love but an obstacle stays in the way of their love. It's either a wife who is forced on the poor guy or an estranged wife who refused to divorce him for selfish reasons OR an unfortunate young girl finds love in the arms of the master and it takes the young, rich, handsome dude three seasons of the movie to notice the love and another two seasons to get her to look his way.

Regardless, these soaps fail to focus on every day lives and some life's issues that could make relationships tiring at times. They fail to tell how difficult it can be with MTN's airtime sapping technique and how difficult it could take me to put a call through when I'm battling to ward off the sun from melting my brain. Rather, it's about a quest to finding the ultimate - TRUE LOVE. Newsflash, THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS TRUE LOVE! LOVE IS LOVE. If it's sole purpose is to use or take advantage of, then it was never love.

The height of deceits are usually the types of "Strong Love" these people preach but our ladies don't seem to get this. They love to apply abstractions into becoming realities. These soaps cum movies have a way of blinding one's eyes to seeing harsh realities. It is unfair to equate one's relationship with the ones projected in these films. Way unfair!

There are pressing issues in between relationships, which mostly involve keeping heart and soul together. A man cannot dedicate every minute of his life carrying "True Love" on his head like one would do Afro.

Dear ladies, no one is asking you not to watch what you love or what makes you tick. Where the problem lies is comparing Diego and Paloma's love to yours and that of your man. It's a disaster waiting to happen. What is acted in films should stay in films. They're not worth losing your relationships over.

All true.

Reading.

telemundo that caused war bw my cuz and his wife, got a report that my lil sis have joined the crazy telemundo crew. I smh for her.

reading and smh

no truer words have ever been spoken... sadly this women can't stop watching it

VERY TRUE

Who cares if it messes with their minds? what I care more about is ; When will nollywood copy and replicate those emotional films for Nigerian and African women.
They should do stuff at Par with these Filipino films.
use emotional drama et al to create more jobs for our people.
With how cool Nigerian English is ,we could even make women worldwide get addicted to more of that stuff.
Let em get high!

This is the question. Did the guy/lady that acted that perfect love scene in the play has a smooth relationship in the real world either? the answer to this question is enough for you to know that the perfect true love u see on screen is not applicable in real life.

To be candid i even dont like the film its very boring no action its all based on love and they talk, talk and talk. As in no Commando, Van derme, no jakckie chan, no jet lee pls, what pleasure does anyone derive from such film. mtchw

Lol I no kunkun dey follow una watch am

Who cares??

My friend always disturbed me about this show forbidden passions or whatever. I never rested. Had to leave my room for her each time it came on. She'll start crying about how they are in love. Nonsense

Viktor1983:
Who cares if it messes with their minds? what I care more about is ; When will nollywood copy and replicate those emotional films for Nigerian and African women.
They should do stuff at Par with these Filipino films.
use emotional drama et al to create more jobs for our people.
With how cool Nigerian English is ,we could even make women worldwide get addicted to more of that stuff.
Let em get high!

Hahahahahaha The truth is Nollywood cannot bring itself to doing these kinds of soaps because that's not who we are.

afoobabs:
This is the question. Did the guy/lady that acted that perfect love scene in the play has a smooth relationship in the real world either? the answer to this question is enough for you to know that the perfect true love u see on screen is not applicable in real life.

@the bolded, that really is my subliminal message.

After watching the telemundo,dem go expect u to come act like one Carlos wey dem see for film,buy flowers every day,dinner at an expensive restaurant 3 times a week..smh for all dis ladies,before u know dey go begin blame one innocent spiritual husband .

I loooove telemundo!
I mean who dosnt want sincere love, attention nd care? Is dt too much 2ask for?


Y'all Naija guys need 2upgrade ur stale a.ss abt how to treat a lady! *straightface*



My fav is Queen of hearts! Its ova tho

naughtynaughty:
I loooove telemundo!
I mean who dosnt want sincere love, attention nd care? Is dt too much 2ask for?


Y'all Naija guys need 2upgrade ur stale a.ss abt how to treat a lady! *straightface*



My fav is Queen of hearts! Its ova tho

That is where the problem lies, after watching the fantasies in these movies, some of the female folks will start looking for a replica of the affection and tenderness in these movies, forgetting that they're just movies. And then all of a sudden, you all realize that Nigerian men are not capable of romance and "True Love". The Nigerian man suddenly becomes archaic and outdated on emotional matters just because Don Pedro serenaded Martha and you go "awww, that should be me". Y'all need to snap out of it, for those involved.

Jblaiseboy:
After watching the telemundo,dem go expect u to come act like one Carlos wey dem see for film,buy flowers every day,dinner at an expensive restaurant 3 times a week..smh for all dis ladies,before u know dey go begin blame one innocent spiritual husband .

Hahahahahaha At the mention of "Don Carlos", I just couldn't hold back

cruzita:
reading and smh

Wait, let me invite Farano, rocktation and Lalasticlala.

mynd1:
Reading.

Hurry up Joor! Lol

people when dey the film ee don better for dem dey kukun dey do love me when dey suffer I go carry myself go join dem no be mumu I be so?

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Last time I checked, I broke up wit a gal cox of her obsession over fictional things like Telemundo..

In timayas voice.. NO TIME TO WATCH Telemundo..me I get place wey I wan go.. ..

Ko kan Aye ooo

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those movies will start in a very interesting way, but as the movie goes on u realise it is boring, meaningless and they wont even know wot to act again.

I don't like this telemudo of a thing ooo even the name sounds mumuish
how reletionship go dey sweet from beginning to the end.. even if dem wan get grudges, na romantic grudges dem go get
na yeye

k

Only in Telemundo will a guy chase a girl for months even with her display of arrogance.

A normal guy (e.g me) won't chase a girl for more than 2 weeks. If she displays any sign of pride I'm off in less than 24hrs