miss reese:

Please don't laugh . . .

HELP! I NEED A MAN FOR CHRISTMAS!
Q:
Dr. Ty, I'm a student at ORU. I used to think getting here was the hardest part. But, now I understand the getting through has been the biggest issue. I know what God wants from me is what He always wanted and that's consistency. I'm doing just that. Praying in the morning and at night. Reading my bible (and finally doing that if I don't feel like it). I kept asking God questions. Why do I have such a strong desire for a relationship? Why did you see fit to expose things to me about the purpose of relationships and marriage at this young age (20)? Man, I just want to be able to focus on school! Walking around wondering when the man God promised pops up is not my idea of peace. I guess my question is how do I not stay effected by my friends engagement announcements and the like. The closer we get to graduation the more wedding news I hear. One thing I know for a fact is that I will not be getting married upon graduation like some of my counter parts. I understand that God has called me for greatness, so, I would just like to be content knowing that God holds me precious in His eyes and what He promised He'll do.

What do I do? Signed, Not feeling so Merry Mary

[b]A.[/b]Dear, not feeling so Merry Mary.

I, like you, desire a husband, not some temporary boyfriend to come and give me a Happy Meal Thrill and then hungry again after I digest from a cheap meal. I'm tired of relationships that begin hopeful and down in your gut you feel that this is the one that God has sent you but then,

Many women in their single state who desire a husband will allow the season of waiting to frustrate them and forfeit what God has for them because they become distracted or lonely. The reason that many good women end up in bad relationships or failed marriages because they don't understand the holding pattern that God has them in and a full understanding of that process. Like Esau, you understand what the Lord has for you and what He has promised. Like you, he was in the field, working for the Lord, praying and doing the Will of God, but grew faint while doing that because he failed to go through the process. Esau allowed his desire to be fed by something temporal when he became faint; his focus was diverted and he forfeited everything that God had for him because of mismanagement of desire. Genesis 25

My mouth hit the ground when I read this blog. I think alot of women are where you are; where we are. I long for marriage deeply because I know I am suppose to be somebody's praying queen. I know I have been set aside for greatness and His favor rest upon me through all situations. But I found myself connecting and hoping. I eventually had to realize when my last boyfriend broke up with me via text message, my true love would never do that so why do I keep cheating on Him. We have to love Him first then ourselves. Once that is done,  He spoke to me one day in prayer and said" How can I give you the Man of God I have set aside for you to committ and submit to when I can't get you to committ and submit fully to Me, the God of Man?

stillwater:

Do you really want to change? If you do, take up some hobby, engage your mind with things other than sex.

stillwater:

Do you really want to change? If you do, take up some hobby, engage your mind with things other than sex.

topup:

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Keep us updated, I don't feel I've helped enough.

[/quote]I am sure someone of you might be wondering how a virgin can be Hot, the truth is I don't know either, I just find myself having urges for sexual activity such as kissing and the likes, I have prayed, fasted[quote]

topup:

Horniness is the result of sexual frustration, and you've not been partaking in sexual intercourse, so you are bound to be sexually frustrated. It's your hormones and let's not forget sex is very natural! I am not saying you should have it either. I believe that you should tell your partner know, you are only human, the worst thing is if he starts thinking you're avoiding him for different reasons, if you're both strong enough you can help each other, I really do hope the both of you can help each other. Do not be ashamed, it is to be expected, when you are incredibly attracted to your partner, and in the realest sense of the word, it is a compliment as it means that you one day can imagine 'carrying out the act' with him after you wed him.

I am so happy to hear that you are waiting until after marriage. I hope everything works out so that both of you can find out whether you two will be compatible for life, then you can go ahead and make wedding plans, please do not let sexual urges bring forward any dates or cloud your judgment, the urges pass, it is only in the heat of them that you feel as if there is no cure.

Keep us updated, I don't feel I've helped enough.

Take care and God Bless.
Happy Holidays too!

topup:

Horniness is the result of sexual frustration, and you've not been partaking in sexual intercourse, so you are bound to be sexually frustrated. It's your hormones and let's not forget sex is very natural! I am not saying you should have it either. I believe that you should tell your partner know, you are only human, the worst thing is if he starts thinking you're avoiding him for different reasons, if you're both strong enough you can help each other, I really do hope the both of you can help each other. Do not be ashamed, it is to be expected, when you are incredibly attracted to your partner, and in the realest sense of the word, it is a compliment as it means that you one day can imagine 'carrying out the act' with him after you wed him.

I am so happy to hear that you are waiting until after marriage. I hope everything works out so that both of you can find out whether you two will be compatible for life, then you can go ahead and make wedding plans, please do not let sexual urges bring forward any dates or cloud your judgment, the urges pass, it is only in the heat of them that you feel as if there is no cure.

Keep us updated, I don't feel I've helped enough.

Take care and God Bless.
Happy Holidays too!

miss reese:

I actually told my boyfriend yesterday about how I was feeling, and I was so happy because he did not judge me or try to persuade to have sex, instead he advised me that such feelings are normal and that it will pass when I have start having sex in abundance and for now I should keep my eyes on the prize not on the present circumstances.

I am truly glad to have a man like him, he is also battling with his own desires. I pray all ladies can have such  considerate men in their lives.

I am going to keep believing God and hope I keep this virginity till marriage.

Also I don't tell my female friends unless we are really close, because some people out of envy insult you or try to deceive you in to losing it, once bitten twice shy,

Thank you guys once again and keep the great advice coming

JJYOU:

you are always on cue and the tops in my book. i thank God for people like you always. God bless you

Thank you . Happy Holidays and God Bless you too

lol if only it were that easy.

all these holy holy people sef!!!shio

stillwater:



Are statements like this worthwhile?

I would like some decent advice please