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Should I Still Stick To Him? by elsieisy(f): 7:27am On Jan 28, 2015
I met this guy January 2 2014 through a mutual friend, we got talking on phone as I’m in Nigeria and he is abroad, we got connected so much that it seem like we’ve known each other all our lives, I was not in a relationship when we started talking and him too just got jilted at that time by his Nigerian girlfriend who couldn’t cope with the distance any longer, our relationship started so well that as months goes by I couldn’t see life without him, with time I got to meet with all his family down here in Nigeria as we planned to settle down the moment he comes down.

7months in our relationship we started making plans to join me here but the mum blatantly refused his coming to Nigeria, the mum said he need to make so much money before coming, and because of that incident, the mum started having issues with me that I am the one dragging his son to Nigeria because I am desperate, she called me all sorts of names which really hurt.

To keep everyone at peace I then suggested to my boyfriend that I could join him over there since his mum and siblings doesn’t want him coming to Nigeria anytime soon, he obliged and we started my application, Nov 2014 he asked me to give my apartment up in Lagos and go to the village to spend some time with my parents since I will be traveling in few weeks, I Haven’t been given visa but I hate to turn him down when he talks so I did exactly that, I’ve been in the village now for 2 months with no place to fall back to, visa is not being approved by immigration, we now quarrel with every flimsy reason, I am 28yrs old, a graduate with nothing to fall back on, I’m in my father’s house, I need your advice, should I still stick to Him and wait or move on with my life

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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Nobody: 7:32am On Jan 28, 2015
I wouldn't have given my apartment up or shut down my life over a mere promise. I wouldn't dance so excitedly to his tune when he isn't even yet a husband. Just saying... undecided

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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by madridguy(m): 7:36am On Jan 28, 2015
goofyone:
I wouldn't have given my apartment up or shut down my life over a mere promise. I wouldn't dance so excitedly to his tune when he isn't even yet a husband. Just saying... undecided

Seconded.

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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by lokito: 7:38am On Jan 28, 2015
you made a little mistake plus you've not even seen this guy before and you assumed the relationship won't be antithetical
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by managingpartner(f): 7:40am On Jan 28, 2015
You made a very terrible mistake, you shouldn't have agreed to relocate to the village without obtaining a visa. I would advise you to start looking for an employment asap and count your losses.

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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Mathematical(f): 7:45am On Jan 28, 2015

LOTS OF SILLY MISTAKE WE LADIES DO,AT FIRST INSTANCE YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE LET HIS MUM WORDS SWAYED YOU, REASON IS IN A MARRIAGE YOU LOVE BOTH THE MOTHER AND YOUR HUSBAND, AND IF THE MOTHER IS BECOMING AN ISSUE, MY SISTER YOU'RE GETTING YASLEF INTO SERIOUS SHII.. SECONDLY YOU GAVE UP YAH APARTMENT WITHOUT TWO WEEK NOTICE OF YA VISA. LOOLZ YOU SHOULD SLAP YASELF, NO BODY IS BEYOND MISTAKE, ANYONE CAN FALL VICTIM OF SUCH AS THE CASE OF LOVE IS INVOLVED.. NOW YOU'RE BACK IN YA FATHER'S HOUSE HUH.. JUST RECONSTRUCT YA LIFE GRADUALLY AND DONT RELY ON HIM 100%,.JUST HAVE PATIENCE IN HANDLING IT.. ITS FRUSTRATING.. AND IF LUCKILY YOU SEE A PERFECT SUITOR MA'AM YOU KNOW WHA TO DO


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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by prettyjo(f): 7:47am On Jan 28, 2015
am coming back to read it
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Nobody: 7:47am On Jan 28, 2015
Lol whch nigerian girl will breakup wit a guy who is abroad on d basis of long distant rship?? Who does dat D guy is lyn jor!
Second, never ever make the mistake of thinking that any guy staying abroad who is nigerian will leave his greener pastures and come bak to square one... Even if I were d guy, I won't even come bak lol.
Third, wat if you finally go abroad to meet him and find out he already has a woman dr? How would u take that?
Fourth, why did you sell your house?? Are you crazy
Fifth, now because you r now in ur dad's house, I urge you to move on wit life.

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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by apparentlylaw(m): 7:52am On Jan 28, 2015
Chai ....2months ...babe ehnn move on wif ur life ...

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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by mencade4: 7:52am On Jan 28, 2015
hahahaha........make i no talk oooooo
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Hazardd(m): 7:55am On Jan 28, 2015
Mathematical:

LOTS OF SILLY MISTAKE WE LADIES DO,AT FIRST INSTANCE YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE LET HIS MUM WORDS SWAYED YOU, REASON IS IN A MARRIAGE YOU LOVE BOTH THE MOTHER AND YOUR HUSBAND, AND IF THE MOTHER IS BECOMING AN ISSUE, MY SISTER YOU'RE GETTING YASLEF INTO SERIOUS SHII.. SECONDLY YOU GAVE UP YAH APARTMENT WITHOUT TWO WEEK NOTICE OF YA VISA. LOOLZ YOU SHOULD SLAP YASELF, NO BODY IS BEYOND MISTAKE, ANYONE CAN FALL VICTIM OF SUCH AS THE CASE OF LOVE IS INVOLVED.. NOW YOU'RE BACK IN YA FATHER'S HOUSE HUH.. JUST RECONSTRUCT YA LIFE GRADUALLY AND DONT RELY ON HIM 100%,.JUST HAVE PATIENCE IN HANDLING IT.. ITS FRUSTRATING.. AND IF LUCKILY YOU SEE A PERFECT SUITOR MA'AM YOU KNOW WHA TO DO



if you are not a blue fan(chelsea),stop writting in blue

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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Nobody: 7:56am On Jan 28, 2015
goofyone:
I wouldn't have given my apartment up or shut down my life over a mere promise. I wouldn't dance so excitedly to his tune when he isn't even yet a husband. Just saying... undecided



Thirded
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by iceberylin(m): 8:04am On Jan 28, 2015
AmberQueen:




Thirded
føurthed wink
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Nobody: 8:18am On Jan 28, 2015
iceberylin:

føurthed wink

cool
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by mapist(m): 8:39am On Jan 28, 2015
elsieisy:
I met this guy January 2 2014 through a mutual friend, we got talking on phone as I’m in Nigeria and he is abroad, we got connected so much that it seem like we’ve known each other all our lives, I was not in a relationship when we started talking and him too just got jilted at that time by his Nigerian girlfriend who couldn’t cope with the distance any longer, our relationship started so well that as months goes by I couldn’t see life without him, with time I got to meet with all his family down here in Nigeria as we planned to settle down the moment he comes down.

7months in our relationship we started making plans to join me here but the mum blatantly refused his coming to Nigeria, the mum said he need to make so much money before coming, and because of that incident, the mum started having issues with me that I am the one dragging his son to Nigeria because I am desperate, she called me all sorts of names which really hurt.

To keep everyone at peace I then suggested to my boyfriend that I could join him over there since his mum and siblings doesn’t want him coming to Nigeria anytime soon, he obliged and we started my application, Nov 2014 he asked me to give my apartment up in Lagos and go to the village to spend some time with my parents since I will be traveling in few weeks, I Haven’t been given visa but I hate to turn him down when he talks so I did exactly that, I’ve been in the village now for 2 months with no place to fall back to, visa is not being approved by immigration, we now quarrel with every flimsy reason, I am 28yrs old, a graduate with nothing to fall back on, I’m in my father’s house, I need your advice, should I still stick to Him and wait or move on with my life

Source - http://www.elsieisy.com/should-i-still-stick-to-him/

NB: any reasonable comment or advice might be transferred to the blog for the recipient to see. Thank you

Frankly,afta reading ur post,I just laffed and said "do ppl stl fall for dis?"..u need to read ur post as a neutral to see d stupid decisions u made.sm1 u av neva met,seen,have no history with(or u think u av a history wt him gven d fact dat u two have been talking for smtime say a year or 2?),yet,u made life's major descns just to please him.how else wud u expect his family to see u.ofcourse,as a desper8 gal who's willing to tie herself to sm1 who's now successful or on d verge of becoming so.I see NO REASON on earth why u shud move ur tings outta ur apartment for a village just because sm1 u tink loves u who's so so far away asked u to.when I read dat line,I had to laff out so loud..I wanna ask u just one thing and u don't av to type an answer ere.just gve urself an answer and dat wud serve as a guide for u."If dis guy were to be in d east,Anambra precisely and u were in Lagos,wud u av indulged in such a distant r/s?"..as a matured lady,I wanna blv u shud be afta men who r promising ere in Nigeria..not just in Nigeria bt d state u r resided..cos,u won't say dre r no promising men arnd u..stop letting dese men who r overseas deceive u wt d prospect of bringing u down to join dem cos,trust me,there r lots of cuties dre for one to start disturbing himself abt anoda cutie in Nigeria.ow r u so sure he neva slept wt anoda gal all thru dis period u were busy staying chaste for him?frankly,I think u shud move out of dat village NOW,so as to gain ur respect back,start a new life and along d way,get a rsnable man cos,as u and I know,u r getting past ur prime slowly..I hope dis bittertruth of mine helps..

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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Mathematical(f): 8:50am On Jan 28, 2015
Hazardd:


if you are not a blue fan(chelsea),stop writting in blue
undecided sad..re you making any sense?
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Hazardd(m): 9:19am On Jan 28, 2015
Mathematical:
undecided sad..re you making any sense?

that one is left for you
i think you should take that as a warning incase tongue
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Mathematical(f): 9:24am On Jan 28, 2015
Hazardd:

that one is left for you
i think you should take that as a warning incase tongue

Seems like You're stoned huh?
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Hazardd(m): 9:26am On Jan 28, 2015
Mathematical:


Seems like You're stoned huh?
K
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Nobody: 9:39am On Jan 28, 2015
Truth be told
If not that you mind his already fixed with him on the mention of abroad

You even went as far as keeping up
With his mother bullshit
Because you know surely that when you get there
Is mother will be history
I like those type of mother
Not only does she know that you are after his son money,she also know that without money you can't keep up with his son,with your fake love..or are you going to tell me.you are ready to marry a poor guy..

To worsen the situation you don't even have a job(not stated) I wonder how you pay your bills(maybe the guy has been sending down money)

And you stating your age(28) shows that not only are you after his money,you are also seriously desperate to get married before you clock 30

Girl look for a job and accept your fate and leave the poor guy alone



#PEACE
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by kennynelcon(m): 9:39am On Jan 28, 2015
Sis, I know this story was forged, but I will add traffic to d blog sha
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by mrkay101(m): 10:53am On Jan 28, 2015
seen this same shit over and over and over again.. girls be like.. ''I met this guy on Facebook he stays abroad bla bla bla.. ''

once they hear abroad their brain resets to default and they stop thinking properly. its really greed that causes these things to happen to our Nigerian girls. long distance relationship doesn't mata ok as far as the guy is staying abroad.

I've heard and witnessed a lot of this happen.

u shouldn't have left u apartment in the city for anything. just for visa dat has not even been approved.

it baffles me how silly some girls can be..
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Emodeee: 10:54am On Jan 28, 2015
Dn't STICK to him, BROOM to him.
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by prettyjo(f): 11:28am On Jan 28, 2015
only desperate girls do this.
he is just a boyfriend and you are already acting like his wife, why should you pester him to for you to join him over there.

nawaooo

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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by naijaboiy: 11:39am On Jan 28, 2015
iceberylin:

føurthed wink
Sixthed cool
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by naijaboiy: 11:40am On Jan 28, 2015
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by marieolae(f): 11:44am On Jan 28, 2015
This is jus the problem with some ladies.

Never give 100% to man. Dont give him your all.
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by nairaman66(m): 11:59am On Jan 28, 2015
marieolae:
This is jus the problem with some ladies.

Never give 100% to man. Dont give him your all.


You can give your all to a man, just as a man can give his all to a woman. Just dont be stupidd doing it! Get it?
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by marieolae(f): 12:02pm On Jan 28, 2015
nairaman66:


You can give your all to a man, just as a man can give his all to a woman. Just dont be stupidd doing it! Get it?
no I dont agree with that.
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Abbey2sam(m): 2:37pm On Jan 28, 2015
Make i e _ bitchh _ slap the op ....tar!!! Tar!!! Tar!!!

I hope you learn from this slaps

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Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Jece(f): 5:52pm On Jan 28, 2015
Hope de mama neva tru ur name put for1 shrine in village?
Re: Should I Still Stick To Him? by Monicasque(f): 6:04pm On Jan 28, 2015
naijaboiy:

Sixthed cool

seventhed lipsrsealed

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