Intellectualokin:
About 2wks ago, he called my aunty that she should come bak to lagos, dat he already got an apartment for both of them. My parents are not happy with this, neither am i but my aunty has decided to go back to lagos to meet him ...

Intellectualokin:
I was able to chat with him on whatsapp once, and sent him the baby pix, i was surprised when he told me the baby do not resemble him, and my aunty also tld me that he said he is not ready to get married. The baby is going to clock one year by may. When my dad tld him to pay her brideprice first, he said he has many projects he is handlin at school, and does not have money presently. I don't no wot he tld my aunty, she still insist on going back to meets him against d will of our parents.......Fellow nairalanders, do u tink this right

delishpot:
She is Lets say, "digging her grave deeper" by tge time they have 4 kids and he still isnt ready for marriage, what will she do? I kbow she is moving in with him because of what society will say about her. But uf she intend to right the wrong, she should makebhim and his family formaly ask for her hand in marriage and then pay a token as bride price since he is not bouyant enough. That is if she insists on living with him o.
She better stay home with her mom it will give her the oportunity to have someone help her with baby while she try to make a living. Taking care of a child without help can be hard.

bennyrazz:
surely something is wrong with the guy and something is wrong with your aunty and the thing is condomless weird sex. They are clearly both missing it. Is your aunty thinking she can get him to change his mind? clearly, that boy is very irresponsible and your aunt needs all the help she can get to take her mind off that boy. Your dad has said the right thing and that boy is not ready.Your dad has to go a step further by warning that boy who wants to ruin your aunt's life to live her alone else he would do something drastic. If your aunt goes on to live with him, he would impregnate her again

mutter:
Some men just panic at the responsibility.
I think she should give him a chance. The damage has already be done.
Children are a gift from God and today it is like a privilege for a child to have an intact home.
However she should ask him before going back what he has in mind.
This is the best time to pressure him to do the marriage.
When she gets into the home it might take a lot longer.
Some get married years after they have their children.
These women are unhappy about this.
You just wonder why your own is different. Why the man could not marry you.

aflyingbird:

ahh egbami oooo !! wat is dis nonsense ? d man doesn't want her or d child n denying him , u r advicin her 2 move in with him , pressure him 2 marriage, ahh ahh. i swear pple like u want others 2 suffer. no b by force 2 marry a man who don't want u , when he starts takin out his anger on her , abusin her u will ask y did she force him 2 marry ha marry. abeg commot for here jor.

Intellectualokin:
@bennrayz and delishpot, jst hope my aunty listen. My uncle who represent as the father of d child on the naming ceremony, my aunty insulted him simply because he adviced her on dis same issue