olodo yes i took it personal.anyway for your information i will invite you for the wedding soon enough let us see who will have d last laugh cos u expect this thing to blow up in my face.well too bad it's not gonna turn out the way yu think it will,so pls don't term my relationship as unfortunate.

i do not think moving in with your boy friend would provide the right atmosphere for your relationship to blossom and also be what you would cherish later in future. there is a need for 'space' when you are not married to some one. for a healthy relationship, you need a certain amount of 'space' so you can have time for yourself. if you do not intend to have a future without regrets, you can go ahead. but if you desire to have the best opportunity brings your way then don't move in with him. no matter the pressure, always think of your future.

[size=24pt]Capital NO![/size] From the way you posted this topic it's obvious that you're already sleeping with him so the damage is half done. Sorry to be blunt but the fact is he is human and could kick you out of his place when he gets tired of you(Remember, you're not married). Be wise.

Although I haven't read all the posts, it appears that a lot of people still feel that sex before marriage is taboo and that living with the person you love is unforgiveable!

I agree with mamaput's reasoning that knowing what your kid's are upto is preferable to pretending that they are still virgins. how many 18 year old virgins are in universities in Nigeria? How many tell their parents they are going to see a cousin, instead go to see a boyfriend?

Living with someone helps you know them better, their habits (good and bad), before accepting that this is person you would like to spend the rest of you life (60+ years) with, rather than getting married first and then realising that you don't actually want to be with this person.

In my opinion, as long as they are over 21 they can move in with their partners, 18+, they can spend weekends and holidays together 'cos i'd rather know!

lol it appears a lot of ppl are still bible believing christians!

marriage is different from cohabitation. let me tell you. there are some things, major things for that matter that you will only find out about when you are married. tis is becasue marriage requires a greater level of sacrifice, compromise and commitment than cohabitation. u didnt not stand before God and man when u are trying to cohabit. anyway marriage is al about loving someone enough to make it work. so i dont see what purpose cohabitation serves. no body was created on this earth to be perfect housemate, roommate, flatmate or soulmate, you've got to give and take. if you dont like your roomate, you can get another one. but not so for marriage. i think when u are entering marriage ur saying im willing to accept u and all ur dirty habits and make it work. cohabitation is just lazy, u are just trying out to see if you guys work with minimal stress and commitment. something is sweeter and much more appreciated when u know how much work went into it.

What about those of us that do or did not marry in the church?

even if you did not marry in the church, you are still making a commitment before government and man. that is why witnesses are required not so?

no i dont think its advisable to move into the same apartment cause these make cause a lot of problems in the future.

a word should be enough for the wise.

Omo that one na ogun State university's tradition. But from experience its not the best.It doesnt end up well. If you decide to follow your heart, i wish you all the best.

Move in with him it's not a problem, I do live with my girlfriend also.

Premarital sex is a no no. Wait till both of you get married.

Pls dont even think twice. My advise to u is this, do not move in wit him. U guys will take each other for granted and in the end u may lose respect for each other. ONCE IN A WHILE, u can spoil him a little and spend the nite over. Co-habiting is not the best

@ kboy2z
do u mind sharing ur xperience?

I didn't know this thread was still alive.
Since you're still asking move in and report back in 9 months if it's a boy or girl.

^{I'm really saying don't move in,sugar}

We'll give u all the advices we can think of, reasons not and or to move in with your boyfriend but in the end it all depends upto u. And in the long run u will make the decision. First of all, think of the dis/advantages, before u take up this step. I aint saying move in or dont move in. Think of the consequences this can have in the long run, are they good or bad. U know in a relationship, things dont always go smoothly at times, its a two way street and two make it work.
Think hard before u decide to do whateva it is that u r gonna do.
Goodluck!!!!!

y can't u get engage to him, if u really luv him cuz
4 a lady living wit a guy hmmmmmmmmmmm , anything can happen at anytime !!!

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she cant move in yes but is it still o.k for her to visit him and spend like 3 days or a week with him from time to time

gem87:

thnx 2 y'all 4 your wonderful opinions, it means a lot 2 me
our course lasts 3 yrs as sum of u wondered and we're in d UK
he's actually propsed n i said no on d grounds dat i'm young and not ready
we're totally commited 2 our r/ship n hv been thru a lot 2gether
wht i'm thinkin is i believe dat wht;s gonna happen is gonna happen so if things get messed up in d course of our livin 2gether den it ws neva mant 2 b,
we r responsible and cn deal wiv issues dat cum up along d way,
but keep on giving me your views, thnx.

pls if u guys love urself dat much den he should jus go ahead 2 do d rite thing,pls dnt,it has affected my rltnship 2x now n i will nt advice anybody 2 do same plssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

Pls know what your priorities are in life, the worst thing that can ever happen to anyone, is to have eyes, but no vision! you are in school to study, not to go and be fornicating! why give the devil such a pleasant ground to toil with your lifew? its disheartening the kind of councel we give to people. the issue is, if ur father or mum was to come visiting and see you in the room with a man, what would you have made them to look like? there is time and season fro everything under the face of the earth.
this time is for your studies, not to warm a mans bed; when you give ur most valuable to him, you are automatically bound spiritually with him. please watch it, and advice yourself.

See this is what i dont get, yeah its a thread people are meant to disucss things, but certain things shouldnt be brought into a thread. you gonna let some no relationship, loners, cheaters etc decide what you should do after 4 or 3yrs with ur partner? if you realy need to talk, talk to ur friends or people you know in similar situations cuz people will simply chat crap they dont know about on here

My dear please dont move in with him because very soon he will get too familiar with you,
your body and everything you can think of.

PLEASE DON'T, OK?

hmm dats risky, it will be better if u can stay or get your place

I am not saying he'll dump you, neither am i saying he wont but if you want your relationship to have a future (a good one at that) dont move in with him, shikena!

[size=16pt]@poster,

abeg abeg which kain thing be dis.u no wan give d bobo space.haba,give urself some respect by staying away until u guys are married.haba,whats this world turning to[/size]

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Know very well that ur respect and dignity will be affected. Will your parenst and R/tive be happy and still see u as a responsible girl if they realise ur staying with a man? Will you be able to concentrate very well in ur studies?
It is good in every R/ship to give each other space, see once in a while, you will enjoy it better.
REASON: yOU MAY BE TIRED OF EACH OTHER AND HATRED WILL COME IN.

Wao, I just stumbled into this old post.

It is this kind of hypocrisy that is killing Nigeria.  A lot of so called Born Again Nigerians are having pre marital sex and aborting babies and pretending to be all holy. 
I have heard of some girls aborting their babies so that they don’t show on their wedding day.  Saaad.   

Mamaput[color=#990000][/color]: I understand where you are coming from.  You are doing a great job of raising your daughters.  Prevention is always better. 

The poster only asked about moving in with her partner and everyone is talking about premarital sex knowing that a lot of them are doing it o. 

Who knows if it is the female that might dump the male after cohabiting with him? 
It is different with everybody and Cohabitation does not mean sex in all cases; it is more difficult to avoid sex when living together though. 

If couples are mature enough to tolerate each other, then give it a shut.  But they should keep it at the back of their minds that it might or might not work out. 
Mind you, a lot of college students live together on Campus but pretend when they get home.