When I first met my 'friend with benefits' he put
his hand on my knee, looked me in the eye and
asked me very seriously Violet, do you know
what you’re getting into here? Of course,' I replied super confidently crossing my legs, showing off my bare legs my new shoes and a hint of underwear, the idea of seeing this gorgeous man every now
and again for great sex appealed to me he
wasn’t the marrying kind there would be no
strings attached, no rules, just fun i liked the idea of 'no strings'.
And for the next few weeks it was wonderful.
We’d see each other once a week, sometimes
twice. It was exciting, we never spoke about the
weather and the sex was fantastic. We were
friends, there was never tension, it was easy.
He had made it clear from the beginning though this is not about love Violet ,He’d also made it
clear that in-between seeing one another there
would be 'no questions' Anything else I do is not your issue,I may be with another man or a woman, but that is not your problem'.
'Yes', I’d said, rolling my eyes. 'I know that'.
I had thought - Jeez, this man is arrogant but
it kinda suited me.
Also, I didn’t think he would be with anyone else.
I am enough for one man.
Slowly we also started meeting for the odd lunch,
or coffee too, and while we didn’t talk about the
weather it wasn’t only about sex.
I was starting to fall in love.
One night I suggested he get me a toothbrush to
keep in his bathroom. He gave me an Airline
toothbrush, from one of his business trips.
Another day I suggested a dog walk. He declined
politely saying 'That’s not really my thing,
Violet'.
And when I suggested spooning after three
orgasms he smiled and said, 'I’m just not the
spooning kind, sweetheart'.
Oddly I had never been the spooning kind either.
But suddenly I wanted to spoon.
I ended the relationship. I could see it was never
going to go anywhere. One party always falls in
love. One party always wants more. One party
was going to get heartbroken and it was not
going to be him.
When I think back, I’m not sure how I ever
thought it would work. But maybe it’s worked for
you? Tell me. I’d love you to share your stories.

Am sorry I can't disclose that information is highly confidential!

Just like the Op said, one person(usually the woman) feels cheated or used.
A man can be happy with any woman, as long as he
does not love her.