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Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by MuttleyLaff: 11:54pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
pashaun:Please be specific, clearly identify where, the women, particularly in Asia are in charge? |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by edogu(m): 2:21am On Mar 15, 2015 |
Madam Babyosisi to be sincere 2 you, I'm amazed by your reply. Did you even go through that post. For your info, people dont just wake one day and start nagging. They nag cos there is an underneath problem. People nag when they ve invested so much in a relationship (emotionally wise) Yes! I quite agree with u, there is a communication disconnect between the couple. But, how do u expect d man figure out ds problem when d woman on her own has refused 2 open up. Has d man become a clairvoyant 2 who reads people's mind. All I see here is woman who is selfish and just like one of the contributors suggested, it's time 4 him 2 turn d things around. Its obvious she wants a challenge - a mind game of some sort. [quote author=babyosisi post=31614367] So a man helps around the house and expects to be thanked and worshiped for what the woman does daily without thanks She didn't tell her parents you got her a job? This man is so petty What does serving his food properly mean? She is not serving it on her knees? Some men will not pamper a wife or show her love,won't even buy ordinary birthday card then and at night he wants to whip out his pinis It doesn't work that way nna Love is 90% emotional and 10% phys 2 Likes |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by quivah(f): 6:47am On Mar 15, 2015 |
Gaidenk:advice: work on your instincts! |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by Nobody: 7:15am On Mar 15, 2015 |
MuttleyLaff:my brother, with polygamy u don't have to divorce anybody. Just get another wife and keep enjoyin and leavin happy and forget the other nuisance of a wife. |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by Nobody: 7:20am On Mar 15, 2015 |
pashaun:where have u seen polyandry in Africa. I hate divorce and would not want to be a victim, so in cases like this I just get another wife (or rather buy another wife since men do pay for them) and continue livin my life as if the first never existed, and when the first notices the competition, then she's forced to sit up. If she gets angry and lives my house, then its her loss and that's good riddance to bad rubbish. |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by jany(f): 10:43am On Mar 15, 2015 |
Go and read "The five love languages" by gary chapman me thinks its just a case of miscommunication. But guy try take it easy in a 36 month marriage she has been pregnant for 18 months now add another 12 months for sleepless nights due to baby nursing and care also house work cos u got no nanny and housekeeper. And she works and gets home late. Haba just thinking of all these makes me tired. Body no be wood o! Tread carefully if u really love her. Try get d book sha and thank me later. Cheers |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by Nobody: 2:26pm On Mar 15, 2015 |
quivah:Noted,work on your comments |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by pattybf(f): 4:08pm On Mar 15, 2015 |
I didn't want to comment but reading through many comments here, it seems many of u here r nt married. This is a normal occurence in marriage.it can either be coming from the wife,, the hubby or both sometimes. But I tell u this, many will not admit to this cos in this part of the world, we live in pretense,self denial n lies.its as simple as living ur separate lives while remaining married as d society, culture n religion expects 9[=grandstar post=31612385]is the wife circumcised? many circumcised ladies hate sex has they have n clitoris I think it was lust at first site and not love Now they are married, what should he do? We, he should first investigate whether the wife is cheating if not, then stage 2 He should analyse himself Are there things I do that cut her off? He should talk with friends If none,u r not worthy of the wife's cod behavior, then its stage 3 he should ca the wife and have a heart t heart discussion with her If it yields nothing Stage 4 Call her parents and discuss her behavior with her especially the sex part, if that makes no long term headway, then he is stuck with her sorry Posterity will be kind t him Even the kids will admit he tried Why did your friend marry her? The fault lies entirely with him marriage is for better or for worse By the way, no more kids[/quote] 1 Like |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by klark3: 4:31pm On Mar 15, 2015 |
5minsmadness:Rubbish!!! The man is a weak man, simple! Didn't he pay her brideprice? I feel for some men sha, because they are ignorant of d authority dey possess as a man.. |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by iceberylin(m): 10:09am On Mar 16, 2015 |
missstella:Son zone Very touching |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by missstella(f): 1:20pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
iceberylin:Amebo like you but ......... |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by 5minsmadness: 2:16pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
babyosisi:OK so I got a sister to talk to her. The following points summarises everything :you can peruse if still interested : Wife wasn't aware so much was wrong. Says she comes home very tired everyday and feels too tired to enter kitchen esp if the kids have already eaten. Husband likes a clean house and wants it clean before they go to bed, she prefers to do her cleaning in the morning. Initially he made it a point to remind her to clean up but he later stopped so she thought he didn't mind anymore. Admits that after her first baby the urge for sex just died. No longer so interested. (man admits she was a sex.Uual tigress before the first pregnancy) Says if the man wants sex she should let him know. Doesn't feel it is worth seeing a doctor... Wants to know if sex three times a week is not too much(that's what the man is asking for) No, the man hasn't offended her. Yes the man does all those things in the house but not all the time and she feels she still needs a nanny to help with the housework. This is all I can remember for now. Brb. |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by 5minsmadness: 4:45pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
MuttleyLaff: 1. Husband has sexual urges. Husband doesn't want to cheat on wife. So husband watches porn and takes care of his sexjual urges by himself. 2. By 'traditionalist' I meant husband prefers to have his food ready and covered on the table with washing hand water etc. Doesn't mean he wants wife to kneel when serving him but at least his meal should be ready and waiting when he gets home. Wife prefers to start cooking when he comes. But recently he finds himself having to demand for food when he gets home as wife may not have prepared anything and if he doesn't tell her she forgets to make anything. 3. Sexually and physically yes. Inwardly not any more. 4. Didn't ask. 5. He says he does but she is frustrating him. 6. Anytime he flirts or wants to horse-play, wife thinks he wants to have sex and becomes combative. ***p.s, following several comments here, I felt the main problem was a lack of communication and broached the subject of them talking out their feelings and such towards each other. The man said he has talked to her so many times and he is tired of talking. His wife agreed they have discussed the sex issue but was not happy he brought the matter to a third party to judge. She apparently feels sex three times a week is too much(husband is asking for this) she doesn't mind sex once in two weeks. |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by pickabeau1: 4:47pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
5minsmadness: The two bolded statements are contradictory There is a limit to how much a man can be asking for sex especially after you are looking at him like a sex freak |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by iceberylin(m): 7:22pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
missstella:Who u wooing in the Nl wooing contest |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by bukatyne(f): 9:54pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
5minsmadness: When does the wife get home? When does the husband get home that he is expecting his food covered on the table? Trying to understand the time difference here Your subsequent posts say the woman lost the urge after child birth... one of nature's curses Once fortnightly is toolittle for sex but again if the woman is on or either of them have a project at work or sick, then they might get down fewer times. That said, the wife should develop Interesting and the hubby should learn the art of pre-intimacy even from the morning. @Traditional husband: if he wanted traditional, he should have married a traditional wife. They both should meet in the middle and do things their own way. All the my mom/dad does a, b, c ends before marriage. @Chores: I am sorry I don't understand a man wanting to be worshipped because he cleans his own home and takes care of his kids. Don't get me wrong; the wife should appreciate him however it is his duty. I thanked my parents for paying my school fees but If they don't pay it, who will? The husband might have come across nagging without hitting the nail on the head. The wife is insensitive to her husband's feelings else she should have picked up Some vibes. She is also not appreciative of his efforts. She 'forgetting' to cook means she is a joker. Solution: They need to talk to understand each person's expectations and strive to meet them. They should also understand each other's love languages... the wife might appreciate the husband paying for a nanny and crossing his legs in the sittingroom watching ball while the man is busy washing plates to make her happy. The husband seems to like verbal accolades etc. The husband should also understand the kind of wife he has. Some like their men nonsense; being nice to them might make them take him for granted. If open heart discussion does not yield positive results, let him forget about her and find other interests outside the home and do ssomething like change his wardrobe etc. Getting her to notice him without pointing it out. If all fails, he has to manage the situation... lack of love is not a reason for divorce. The husband should forget cheating except If he wants to checkout from the marriage. |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by 5minsmadness: 10:08pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
bukatyne: Shior! Who go read this your novel so Kidding |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by missstella(f): 10:20pm On Mar 16, 2015 |
iceberylin:Seun |
Re: She Doesn't Love Him, But He Doesn't Believe In Divorce. by FuckSilly: 7:16am On Dec 29, 2022 |
adanduka:Look, stop fooling yourself. Most women of this generation are very selfish, wicked and useless. The main reason for this is because they're WHORÈS. They've been involved with numerous men, you can never satisfy them and they don't give a shît about you. THE BEST OPTION IS ALWAYS DEPOSIT THEIR WASTED ASS BACK TO THE STREET WHERE THEY BELONG. Forget about the children, ass long as you don't stop caring for them, they will be fine. Marriage is not by force! |
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