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Re: . by Nobody: 8:28am On Mar 19, 2015
@Op, you're unwittingly creating the impression that you're desperate.

Don't get too bothered when he keeps you out of certain issues, this should be the least of your worries.

I know you're eager to have your presence felt in his life, I know you want to be carried along, but hold on and bide your time.

If he really loves you, he'd see the need to create a room for you in his life.

If with time you come to realise that this man isn't worth your time and effort, don't hesitate to ditch him.

These ''We've prayed over him and he's the one for you'' lines are getting boring. You alone know what you want, if he isn't got it, jettison the fellow and wait for your man.
Re: . by Paulpaulpaul(m): 8:41am On Mar 19, 2015
Tobilols:

He is not a doctor grin

He should be a panel-beater.

I'll take this as a YES, I will tell you everything about me, ma darling.
Re: . by Tobilols(f): 8:52am On Mar 19, 2015
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Re: . by Tobilols(f): 8:54am On Mar 19, 2015
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Re: . by Nobody: 9:00am On Mar 19, 2015
First, please stick to not sleeping at his house.
You assume he is keeping things from you because of the no-sex? If he didn't tell you that, know that your assumption could be wrong.

Your guy needs an understanding woman. Like you said, he has been very busy. Give him some time. Don't lose him too soon.

He should not have lied about his age. That is fuelling your distrust.

Have a one-on-one talk when u can and let him know how you feel.
Re: . by precisionindepth: 9:13am On Mar 19, 2015
Brugo:
Chai. You are not a wife yet and you're stifling the young man like this. Let him breathe, biko!

Why should he tell you everything? Can you handle everything? If a man doesn't give you a particular information then he knows you don't need it.

He didn't tell you about his true age because he guessed what your opinion about dating age mates would be, regardless of the lofty statement you just gave us. Why must you know every detail?

Well, you have even said there's no point in staying. Oya na. Leave him alone. Give him some breathing space.

You'd better be grateful for a man like him who doesn't go about spilling his guts and depending on a lover's opinion two months into a relationship.
exactly, I Dont know t pple stress demselves over unnecessary tinz. if he Dont tell u tinz abt hs life, u too Dont tell him tinz abt urs. stop disturbing itself butmk sure u r in a defined relationship .understand wat u guys r really into so DT d story won't become " I dated him for decade and now he said he's out".
Re: . by Nobody: 9:15am On Mar 19, 2015
precisionindepth:
exactly, I Dont know t pple stress demselves over unnecessary tinz. if he Dont tell u tinz abt hs life, u too Dont tell him tinz abt urs. stop disturbing itself butmk sure u r in a defined relationship .understand wat u guys r really into so DT d story won't become " I dated him for decade and now he said he's out".

and both of them should not talk about the things that matter even in a defined relationship?

She has every reason to be worried. Anyone not interested in sharing details of their lives should not be getting into a relationship in the first place.

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Re: . by soopamom: 9:18am On Mar 19, 2015
lecturerdabo:




He told U, u did not find out urself abi? Maybe he forgot really!







I'm finding difficult to understand what u mean by sleeping over does not ....! If I may ask, are they angels or the guy is castrated?



its obvious you lack self control. Its because of your kind that the statement "virginity is not chastity but lack of opportunity " holds water.If you cant "hold body" then your virginity is as worthless as chewed bubble gum on the sidewalk.

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Re: . by precisionindepth: 9:20am On Mar 19, 2015
Yadoctora:


and both of them should not talk about the things that matter even in a defined relationship?

She has every reason to be worried. Anyone not interested in sharing details of their lives should not be getting into a relationship in the first place.
ok
Re: . by nairabetguru(m): 9:25am On Mar 19, 2015
Zi:
Lol. Just exactly what I'm passing through now, although my relationship is older by one month grin

OP, I understand what you are going through, trust your instincts just like me. Every lady no matter how born-again has an emotional part and her man should fill it. If you feel he is not satisfying your emotions, "that he is not there", take a break. Don't try too hard, don't force it. if he is yours, he will come back for you. If he is not, trust me, someone better is on the way.

Don't compromise your virginity. I have no regrets. My older friends/mentors have no regrets too. Maybe he is taking advantage of your naivety so that you will succumb to him.

I am advising you based on my own experience.
The Lord is our strength smiley


did you see her mention "I AM A VIRGIN" angry angry angry angry angry angry angry
Re: . by Nobody: 9:30am On Mar 19, 2015
soopamom:

its obvious you lack self control. Its because of your kind that the statement "virginity is not chastity but lack of opportunity " holds water.If you cant "hold body" then your virginity is as worthless as chewed bubble gum on the sidewalk.

Why should she put herself in a vulnerable position? The wisest people avoid all temptations.

If she can hold body, can she trust the other person to do same? If she gets raped, people will ask her what she went there for.
Re: . by lecturerdabo(m): 9:32am On Mar 19, 2015
soopamom:

its obvious you lack self control. Its because of your kind that the statement "virginity is not chastity but lack of opportunity " holds water.If you cant "hold body" then your virginity is as worthless as chewed bubble gum on the sidewalk.

self control indeed!

the bible ask us "can a man scoop fire in his lap and not get burnt?

yes I agree with u that virginity should be a thing of chastity but must one put him/herself in harms way to prove chastity?

Anyway, tnx for the attack cos it speaks volume on self control!
Re: . by Zi: 9:34am On Mar 19, 2015
nairabetguru:



did you see her mention "I AM A VIRGIN" angry angry angry angry angry angry angry


Pls don't quote me again. Thank you.
Re: . by Tobilols(f): 9:34am On Mar 19, 2015
precisionindepth:
ok

True talk
Re: . by Tobilols(f): 9:36am On Mar 19, 2015
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Re: . by lecturerdabo(m): 9:36am On Mar 19, 2015
Yadoctora:


Why should she put herself in a vulnerable position? The wisest people avoid all temptations.

If she can hold body, can she trust the other person to do same? If she gets raped, people will ask her what she went there for.

Big Tnx Dear
Re: . by Montaque(m): 9:41am On Mar 19, 2015
Tobilols:

Okay, but far from what you think, the thought of marriage even scares me. I want to take my time first
I just feel he doesn't want me anymore with d way he behaves in other aspects but does not know how to say it

Wow.
I wish you well. The thing is that the reason for the breakup of any relationship can be deduced from the first few weeks of contact. The man may not have loved you the way or to the extent you dreamt about him earlier on,and when he discovered this (and maybe also the fact that you are nt willing to pass the night) ,he started withdrawing.
Just keep ur cool and give him space,he will come around if he is urs. Don't leave yet.
Re: . by nairabetguru(m): 9:51am On Mar 19, 2015
Zi:


Pls don't quote me again. Thank you.

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Re: . by Zi: 10:01am On Mar 19, 2015
Tobilols:

Okay, but far from what you think, the thought of marriage even scares me. I want to take my time first
I just feel he doesn't want me anymore with d way he behaves in other aspects but does not know how to say it

Sweetie, if my boyfriend runs into your posts, he probably would think am the one writing. Lol. That's to show you the similarities in our cases kiss
Although I think my boyfriend wants to leave me because I'm not from a rich home (mind you that I'm a parent's-sponsored student abroad) But he has probably seen Ministers' kids where he stays lives. Its not his fault sha.

Cheer up dear, it is well. Lol
Re: . by soopamom: 11:23am On Mar 19, 2015
Yadoctora:


Why should she put herself in a vulnerable position? The wisest people avoid all temptations.

If she can hold body, can she trust the other person to do same? If she gets raped, people will ask her what she went there for.
If she cant trust the other person to then she has no fucking business being in a relationship with him.

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Re: . by soopamom: 11:27am On Mar 19, 2015
lecturerdabo:


self control indeed!

the bible ask us "can a man scoop fire in his lap and not get burnt?

yes I agree with u that virginity should be a thing of chastity but must one put him/herself in harms way to prove chastity?

Anyway, tnx for the attack cos it speaks volume on self control!
Attack? LOL! Oh get over yourself dude! *rolling my eyes to kafanchan*
So a man, she is supposedly in a relationship with, with whom she expects to share every single detail of his life with, with whom she has shared her unwillingness to have sex with suddenly equals "harm's way"? Abegi!

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Re: . by Nobody: 11:28am On Mar 19, 2015
soopamom:

If she cant trust the other person to then she has no fucking business being in a relationship with him.

But she has every right to stay in her father's house and not sleep in his. Has he married her? No.

But this matter is not even about trust. It is about self preservation, self-respect.

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Re: . by Tobilols(f): 11:51am On Mar 19, 2015
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Re: . by soopamom: 11:56am On Mar 19, 2015
Yadoctora:


But she has every right to stay in her father's house and not sleep in his. Has he married her? No.

But this matter is not even about trust. It is about self preservation, self-respect.
She has every right to do whatever the Bleep she wants.
And you have the Fvcking right to quit quoting me because obviously i come from a different planet than you do, a planet where we dont measure our worth by the flimsy things that you do. Cheerio, Mr. Self Righteous Astard B.

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Re: . by Nobody: 12:08pm On Mar 19, 2015
KashyBaby:
Any relationships tat sex is the foundation will not really stay for long...trust ur instincts... If this guy gave u lot of excuses, juz because u dnt wanna sleep with him, Tat is very lame,he is not worth enough for u & besides its only 2months uv been dating and he already acting up like tat.. do not try to fix this Relationship alone coz surely u will end getting hurt...U deserved a better man tat wil go down with u all d way... wink
wtf is tat
Re: . by Nobody: 12:16pm On Mar 19, 2015
It all started when you kicked off with marriage at the back of your mind.
Guys are scared of gals like that.
You should have gotten him to fall in love first before all the sEx talk.

I would have said be petient
But I feel the guy doesnt dig you again
Not telling you about the transfer says alot about where he placed you presently.
Re: . by Nobody: 12:16pm On Mar 19, 2015
soopamom:

She has every right to do whatever the Bleep she wants.
And you have the Fvcking right to quit quoting me because obviously i come from a different planet than you do, a planet where we dont measure our worth by the flimsy things that you do. Cheerio, Mr. Self Righteous Astard B.

I don't know you from Adam but you see the need to be so disrespectful. State your opinion and move on.

I can bet it that I am not in the same social nor economic status as you are. I can't stoop to exchanging words with you.

Do something about your character and stop assuming that our clamour against pre marital sex is an indictment on you.

I hope your baby father pays. there is nothing super about being a single mother.
Re: . by ivyT(f): 12:17pm On Mar 19, 2015
Yungwizzzy:
See how Christian parents lead their children astray?

Don't derail undecided
Re: . by Nobody: 12:26pm On Mar 19, 2015
Zi:


Sweetie, if my boyfriend runs into your posts, he probably would think am the one writing. Lol. That's to show you the similarities in our cases kiss
Although I think my boyfriend wants to leave me because I'm not from a rich home (mind you that I'm a parent's-sponsored student abroad) But he has probably seen Ministers' kids where he stays lives. Its not his fault sha.

Cheer up dear, it is well. Lol

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Re: . by Nobody: 12:28pm On Mar 19, 2015
chisco82:
You are kidding me, you want to know everything. His in and out just 2months?
He is still trying to know you.
some ladies though,even in10 years,she can't know all about him

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Re: . by soopamom: 12:32pm On Mar 19, 2015
Yadoctora:


I don't know you from Adam but you see the need to be so disrespectful. State your opinion and move on.

I can bet it that I am not in the same social nor economic status as you are. I can't stoop to exchanging words with you.

Do something about your character and stop assuming that our clamour against pre marital sex is an indictment on you.

I hope your baby father pays. there is nothing super about being a single mother.
I dont see the need to be ; I just simply enjoy it.
My aim was to exasperate the self righteousness out of your overstrung ass.
Again, I am enjoying myself.
Funny though that you assume that calling me a single mother would upset me because again , your self righteous ass would probably look down on a poor struggling single mom, especially if her "baby daddy" wont pay because of course the "woman" that she is totally unable to fend for herself and her poor bastard. lmfao
And its also amusing that you would say "oh i cant exchange words with you " but cant help calling me a fornicating,slutty, single mom, all in the same comment.
Oh dear Yadoctora, you need to go to confession. Quickly, itch B!
P.S this is my opinion.

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Re: . by adanduka: 2:38pm On Mar 19, 2015
Tobilols:
I have been dating him for about two months now. I have not been in a relationship for about five years, but I decided to give this relationship a try hoping it will lead to marriage. At first he seems caring and all but I noticed recently that he hardly tells me what happens in his life. I talked to him about this but his response was that I don't expect him to always tell me what always happen in his life but he said will change and that if I was living with him I will know these things. He expects him to always spend the night at his place seems we are always busy at work during the day and I refused due to my Christian beliefs. Recently, he got transfered to another branch at work but he didn't tell until almost a week later even though we talk and chat everyday. I was so weak and hurt. His excuse was that he has been so busy and preoccupied some of which were a naming ceremony with after party and wedding ceremony in another state, SMH.
My parents told me individually that they have prayed about him and he is the man God has chosen for me though they have not met him yet. But I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone that does not carry me along with the things that happen in his life.
I suspect he behaves this way because I don't spend the night at his place and don't want to have sex until I am married.
I love him but I don't thinks he does anymore. There is no point staying in this relationship.
Your advises please.

A guy who is busy and preoccupied during the dating stages is a disaster waiting to happen.
If you are interested in someone, you will make out time for the person.
And about doing his own stuff with you being in the dark about it is not good. It shows your input in his life does not matter.

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