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falconey:
guys some time in our lives we must have experienced the PHOBIA to approach/toast our crush or any girl, even to say a word around them.

Am just wondering is it NATURAL? Does it happen to all guys although with time we build courage.

On the other hand is it UNUSUAL? It doesn't happen to the best of us?

Share your experience.........

It's natural. Even the pros gets thrown back by the body language of some women.

IT A NATURAL SOMETHING

ESPECIALLY IN SECONDARY SCHOOL FOR BOYS

steppin:

It's natural. Even the pros gets thrown back by the body language of some women.

hmmmm yeah for the average looking guys.......

Never heard the goodlooking ones talk about phobia to approach now and then. That's what brought this question, besides some guys have the sweet mouth kind of thing.

Even if a girl doesn't want to date them she will respond due to their ability to know what to say and how to say.

It's natural just like Fear, you have to Learn to control it.

falconey:




hmmmm yeah for the average looking guys.......

Never heard the goodlooking ones talk about phobia to approach now and then. That's what brought this question, besides some guys have the sweet mouth kind of thing.

Even if a girl doesn't want to date them she will respond due to their ability to know what to say and how to say.

No offense, but you sound like a teenager.
Handsome guys are mostly shy and they don't walk up to women easily. Women do it for them cos they don't need to. Their looks speak for them.
They use eye contact, charming smiles and they say little.
Ugly and below average guys work harder cos they have to impress more by their swags, some sweet-talk their way in.

steppin:

No offense, but you sound like a teenager.
Handsome guys are mostly shy and they don't walk up to women easily. Women do it for them cos they don't need to. Their looks speak for them.
They use eye contact, charming smiles and they say little.
Ugly and below average guys work harder cos they have to impress more by their swags, some sweet-talk their way in.

modify this and remove the insult.

steppin:

No offense, but you sound like a teenager.
Handsome guys are mostly shy and they don't walk up to women easily. Women do it for them cos they don't need to. Their looks speak for them.
They use eye contact, charming smiles and they say little.
Ugly and below average guys work harder cos they have to impress more by their swags, some sweet-talk their way in.

craps!!!! Handsome guys don't approach then.......funny enough this is mature.


Isn't this the point am trying to make? Dude you are funny now PHOBIA means SHY to you?

At some point anyone can be shy in some situation but PHOBIA is a different scenario. Kai!!! Don't be too clever. THE topic is PHOBIA not SHYNESS! Take note.

falconey:




hmmmm yeah for the average looking guys.......

Never heard the goodlooking ones talk about phobia to approach now and then. That's what brought this question, besides some guys have the sweet mouth kind of thing.

Even if a girl doesn't want to date them she will respond due to their ability to know what to say and how to say.

It's natural. I've still got it tho i think i'm above average in looks. I attribute mine to my growing up in a kinda over secured environment..... Girls mostly make d first move and i take over from there mostly after being friends for a while. I've never got the liver to approach a girl i admire except, she approaches me

Every nicca got storyy on this kind of subject...

It is so normal, every pick up artist , or perhaps every guy had to walk past dt fear, dt's d innergame, most times it is the innate fear of rejection, I remember aw awkward my first move was, feel like melting especially if the girl is beyond 7/10 type, it still can persist in confident guys, but it's turned to pleasure by the famous 3seconds rule.

Flautist:
Every nicca got storyy on this kind of subject...

couldn't agree more.......

tosyne2much:
Many hypocrites would storm on this thread claiming they hold themselves in high self esteem, therefore, ladies woo them

To me, I think it is normal

No matter how confident you are, there would be a time when you would experience fright.. (Stage fright, result fright and so on).. However, it doesn't necessarily have to do with handsome or average looking guys

Personally, despite the fact that I'm very bold and confident I still experience that fright especially when trying to strike a convo with that pretty lady I have been fantacizing

remember what you said in my last thread before this? Looking forward to when you will deactivate your account. LOL

steppin:

No offense, but you sound like a teenager.
Handsome guys are mostly shy and they don't walk up to women easily. Women do it for them cos they don't need to. Their looks speak for them.
They use eye contact, charming smiles and they say little.
Ugly and below average guys work harder cos they have to impress more by their swags, some sweet-talk their way in .

Na wetin we dey use console ourselves o

steppin:

No offense, but you sound like a teenager.
Handsome guys are mostly shy and they don't walk up to women easily. Women do it for them cos they don't need to. Their looks speak for them.
They use eye contact, charming smiles and they say little.
Ugly and below average guys work harder cos they have to impress more by their swags, some sweet-talk their way in.

baba forget dt one oo, no matter how handsome u er nd u sit lame without ever making a move, u'll get to settle for what u dnt want confident ugly gurls, let the handsomeness complement ur moves not prioritize on dt, d beautiful ones will just keep on wishing the dude makes a move, but the nikka ve got half a boost to dt, so it all dies with d liking...

Liverless Chicken!

2dice wia r u.is happening here bro .....
it a normal thing bro...the best you can do is to ask yourself am I really ready to do this? if yes den walk up to her and mark attendance.

cocoberry:
Liverless Chicken!

Haba it's not easy na, if I see your fine face and I wan talk to you, I go piss for my trouser first na

cocoberry:
Liverless Chicken!

madam madam no come cause commotion for my thread.... This is for the distinguish gentlemen of nairaland, although some are nut.

faradexs09:
baba forget dt one oo, no matter how handsome u er nd u sit lame without ever making a move, u'll get to settle for what u dnt want confident ugly gurls, let the handsomeness complement ur moves not prioritize on dt, d beautiful ones will just keep on wishing the dude makes a move, but the nikka ve got half a boost to dt, so it all dies with d liking...

seriously the dude is funny he said somebody sound like a teenager, with his post then i saw the irony.

Sometimes it's just better to build a rapport, make the lady get comfortable with u. Then you can ask for a date. But just approach a lady straight and start confessing your love? Mbano

falconey:
modify this and remove the insult.

Hehe! You'll wait for a while, bro.
You opened a thread and asked for opinions and I gave you mine.
You can either accept or reject it.
Thank God someone else agrees with me.
Phobia at some point is normal. Even the pros exhibit such fear.

steppin:

Hehe! You'll wait for a while, bro.
You opened a thread and asked for opinions and I gave you mine.
You can either accept or reject it.
Thank God someone else agrees with me.
Phobia at some point is normal. Even the pros exhibit such fear.

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i asked for opinions not insults, you lost my respect and proved what a sadist you are....

Someone agreed with you ,so is against you...

Yes phobia thank God you remembered cus you replaced it with "shy

faradexs09:
baba forget dt one oo, no matter how handsome u er nd u sit lame without ever making a move, u'll get to settle for what u dnt want confident ugly gurls, let the handsomeness complement ur moves not prioritize on dt, d beautiful ones will just keep on wishing the dude makes a move, but the nikka ve got half a boost to dt, so it all dies with d liking...

Bro, I agree with you. But I wrote from experience. I got a friend who rarely talks to women. All he can do is to smile or wink at a lady and the next minute she's all over him.
Sometimes even his fellow guys admire his looks and they envy him.
I was talking about those kind of guys.

phlio:
2dice wia r u.is happening here bro .....
it a normal thing bro...the best you can do is to ask yourself am I really ready to do this? if yes den walk up to her and mark attendance.

attendance keh
me no dey mark at all
...oga mi how far

falconey:
i asked for opinions not insults, you lost my respect and proved what a sadist you are....

Someone agreed with you ,so is against you...

Yes phobia thank God you remember cus you replaced it with "shy"

Smh...You just responded with insults. What makes you any better now?
Shyness and phobia work hand in hand.
Btw, I don't need your respect or anyone else.
This is a public forum and everyone is free to air their opinions, good or bad.
You sound too emotional. People will always use it against you.
Nairaland is not for the weak-hearted.
Adios, bro!

steppin:

Smh...You just responded with insults. What makes you any better now?
Shyness and phobia work hand in hand.
Btw, I don't need your respect or anyone else.
This is a public forum and everyone is free to air their opinions, good or bad.
You sound too emotional. People will always use it against you.
Nairaland is not for the weak-hearted.
Adios, bro!

trust me am not weak and not a sadist either.

Am just trying to maintain decorum on my thread.

"Shy" and "phobia" work hand in hand Do your home-work!

faradexs09:
baba forget dt one oo, no matter how handsome u er nd u sit lame without ever making a move, u'll get to settle for what u dnt want confident ugly gurls, let the handsomeness complement ur moves not prioritize on dt, d beautiful ones will just keep on wishing the dude makes a move, but the nikka ve got half a boost to dt, so it all dies with d liking...

Gbam !!!!!

I wouldn't have said it better