Taken:

@ poster

I wonder what you guys would teach your children with regards to the difference between right and wrong, absolute and relative truth.

And yet we complain that some of the younger ones are mindless.

What does that have to do with the topic? As a matter of fact, how is it your business what they teach their children? Shior.

Or tell a massive fib about how you had a few terrible experiences with men and were maybe molested or raped. She will be grateful that you had a nice person who saw you through it all and who loves you nevertheless and unconditionally (Again, this option is not advisable and should be used only as the very last resort. . . once she has come round to the idea, you can tell her at a future date that the abuse/rape bit was not true but you did it because you knew she would not accept your sexuality otherwise).

How does your partner feel about this situation? And what country is she from?

all things allowed.

@Poster

Use your mouth to tell her, and tell her she is safe with nothing to wory about - you wont touch her. hahahaha.

Nigerians like copy copy. Charity begins at home is what our people use to say. Wetin turn you to that kind thing. And u go tell us say u be chritian, sey na the thing wey dey inside bible be dat, make woman dey bang woman, chai! Now I know the world has ended. You better repent and change ur ways, go marry a man.

snooping:

Nigerians like copy copy. Charity begins at home is what our people use to say. Wetin turn you to that kind thing. And u go tell us say u be chritian, sey na the thing wey dey inside bible be dat, make woman dey bang woman, chai! Now I know the world has ended. You better repent and change ur ways, go marry a man.

Lmao!!

My heart goes out to u

You guys need help

Sapphic:

It is not by force to comment on every thread. If the subject of the thread is not for you, why not move on before displaying your ignorance here. Someone posts an intelligent question about a problem she has and all that comes spewing out of your imbecilic brains is pure drivel. You'd fare better rejoining your moronic harem wherever they are. bleeping assholes.

@ SAPHIC

wetin be your own sef?
Why the insult? NA post i post no be say i insult you or insult the poster. Even the poster sef no complain, na you wey come they complain.
This is a discussion forum and everyone is free to say his or mind, what i posted has not warranted any insult from you, so wetin be your own?

Sapphic:

Whatever they teach their child will be a damn sight better than what the lying, thieving, fornicating, adulterous, corrupt, murdering leaders teach their own children (and generally all Nigerian children), or what the average Nigerian with the same disposition would teach theirs.

What you even posted "MR. I TOO KNOW" is off topic, it is out of the topic. So next time, think before you post and think before you insult others.

NONSENSE! ORIRANU! YEYE PERSON

Listen yall, it will be nice if we can all stay away from insulting one another for a while, who knows any of us here might be related.

On the other hand, back to the issue at hand - Sapphic and Poster, why did yall decides to become lesbians? I knew of one female that says she was never ask out by any guys while in school (maybe she was ugly then). But at the time of the interview, she was wow and amazingly gorgeous (face, front, back, with a pleasing xter) and the girl-lover was a very big somewhat ugly female. So what is your story(s)?

well in a society like ours, its not accptable and mayb thats the reason myself and Lola sounded absurd to u.

I understand why u getting urself worked  SAPHIC!

The fact u are one is no excuse to insult ppl who are not,we are just talking.

@Taken
Good Question For Saphic So am all ears for her reasons o.

U open ur mouth and tell her of course. (Just like u talk 2 ur partner)

As far as u think what u're doing is right and will delight ur relatives, then continue.

The sky is ur starting point.

Good luck.

temi 4 rea:

well in a society like ours, its not accptable and mayb thats the reason myself and Lola sounded absurd to u.

I understand why u getting urself worked  SAPHIC!

The fact u are one is no excuse to insult ppl who are not,we are just talking.

@Taken
Good Question For Saphic So am all ears for her reasons o.

LOL. I have no problem with anyone whatsover. The only thing that "sounded absurd" to me was the rudeness you and your Lola friend displayed. You are saying someone insulted you people, I do not know that the Yoruba language had been amended so that calling people "Oniranu" was singing their praises. It is okay for you to call us that but not okay for one to return the favour abi?

And FYI, I do NOT need a reason to be homosexual, you need to disabuse your mind that anyone needs a reason to be. Moreover, my journey into Sappho land is well documented on the pages of Nairaland.

Omolola1:

@ SAPHIC

wetin be your own sef?
Why the insult? NA post i post no be say i insult you or insult the poster. Even the poster sef no complain, na you wey come they complain.
This is a discussion forum and everyone is free to say his or mind, what i posted has not warranted any insult from you, so wetin be your own?

What you even posted "MR. I TOO KNOW" is off topic, it is out of the topic. So next time, think before you post and think before you insult others.

NONSENSE! ORIRANU! YEYE PERSON

You'll do well to take your own advice, AS WELL AS going to specsavers mate cos if you could read talk much less of engage your brain, you'd observe that anything I have written on this thread is in response to one thing or the other posted on this very thread.

@ Sapphic

i no get time for you, but could we be friends i mean on the forum, i dont like fighting you know

@ Temi
Hey, temi wat'z up, how u doing? YOU BE MY PERSON!
ONE LOVE!

@ poster
well, am very sorry if i sounded rude to you or my post was kind of rude, am very sorry. my advise is for you to stop the satanic act, so you would enter the kingdom of God i.e. heaven

i don be pastor now.

Omolola1:

@ Sapphic

i no get time for you, but could we be friends i mean on the forum, i dont like fighting you know

Look, I do not go around looking for trouble o. It just irks me when people start being rude or abusive just because one is gay. I do apologise for the insults I hurled at you and hope we can move forward. Like I said on the other thread, no hard feelings.

whao!!! Gud have mercy What is this World turning into

an African family this is going to be tough just tell her at the dinner table

How Do I Tell My Mother Am A Lesbian
like I siad at the dinner table it should be the first thing you say "mom am Lesbian"!

Wonders shall never end. I guess is a good idea to ask a girl if she is a lesbian before going any further but anyways a Nigerian female lesbian? That's new for me. So can you post your picture? What do you look like? I have noticed that many Black lesbians are those hot ladies, the night club dancer type. But any ways at what age did you realize you are a lesbian?

1] You should be proud of who you are, based on your comments it seems like you have a very low self esteem
2] You are a lesbian and you are afraid to break the news, why? You think lesbianism is the wrong thing so why did you get involve in the first place?
3] She has to know any ways and the earlier she knows the better
I am guessing this will be any Nigerian mothers nightmare to know that her daughter is marrying another woman, that's what the village elders call aru. Buy anyways your best option is to be proud of who you are and make it known. The village might disown you but you need to be open.

My view of gay and lesbians is that according to the holly book that few people follow. By the way there are a lot of people that call them selves Christians and Muslims but in fact they are not. They are just sinners and hypocrites. Sinners is the new world religion that most people practice. If you call your self a Christian and you practice imorality then you are not a Christian. A Christian simply means one that follows the ways of the son of God. Is just that simple. I believe in God but I don't have a religion. I was a Christian for over 20yrs. and it started to not make sense any more. So I told my parents I am no longer a Christian, don't have a religion and don't celebrate any religious holidays. They got pissed about it and try to persuade me, I was like you can't turn orange into apple. I have made my choice. I am not a kid, I make choices for my self and open about it, like it or don't like it.

I am a better person today without a religion than when I was a Christian. I remember doing all kinds of bad things during the week when I was back home and then going to confession at the end of the week. One of the reasons I quit religion is because there are many basterds that call them selves Christians. They wear cross but they don't know the meaning.

Getting back to the lesbian thing. Psychology is part of my studies in college. Sigmund Freud the founder of psychoanalysis studies gay and lesbianism for a long time and many other psychologists did. Their conclusion was that gay and lesbianism is a mental disorder rather than a mental illness. Disorder is something learned and can be unlearned through psychoanalysis. While illness is something that can not be unlearned or fixed naturally like parkinson disease.

During the early civilizations gays and lesbians were considered crazy people. They would be locked in chains. Some were thought to be possesed by evil spirits and they will also be locked in chains at the church and people will come to pray to cast out the demon.

Do I approve gay and lesbians or not? Well according to the hollybook, it clearly states that is immorality and the wedges of sin is death. I don't approve it and I don't discriminate against them. I think is a personal choice nomatter how your hormones react. I also think is a mental disorder that can be unlearned if the person wishes.

Some may disagree that is not a mental disorder but if you have taking psychology you will know that there are a lot of mental disorders. I have taken maybe over 6 different psychology classes in college and I still may take more. For example if you use nairaland too much that it becomes a problem meaning you don't get to do other things that you are suppose to do, or you drink that you are having problems at work or with your spouse, or you are addicted to drugs, porn, masturbation,sleeping around that you don't seem to stop, all these things are mental disorders. Phobias are also mental disorders.

So is life, you make the choices don't blame any one for it including your hormone reactions and you also face the consequencies of your choices.

please don't tell her it will aggravate her health situation

I read thru this thread and i'm like, what the f**k?

to he poster---------------------------------- Did your father marry your mother a lesbian.if no why such an awful act.But if you thin is not ,go ahead an tell her.lol[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]

una still dey on this topic

Show her by bringing your partner home and introducing her to your mum.

I dislike lesbians and gay, can't stand anyone of them.

I doubt they care.

so many lesbiana's on nairaland
go ahead and tell her after booking her funeral at heaven's gate funeral home.
maybe you should send her a text before she arrives and tell her the size of your Love Machine too.

I feel creepy crawlies on my skin.

The question i guess we should be keen about on this topic is;

Has she realise the act is not civic or why is she sfraid to tell her mum if she is not proud of what she is doing. Instead of her concentrating much of her energy learning how to tell her more, she should focus on changing the status and think of been more purposeful in life.

plzzzzzzzzzzzzz, if u are a proud lesbian i dont see the reason for not telling ur mom whether nigeria or not because if u keep it a secret it will keep on eating inside of u so tell her now than her to start suspecting something fishy going on. just be prepared for her not to talk to u like forever or probaly for a long time,

**osisi:

so many lesbiana's on nairaland

wow!!!!!!!

KarmaMod:

I doubt they care.

Spot on.

Don't get this whole 'I hate lesbians/gays' thing

Fair enough you may not agree with their 'way of life', but that is not reason enough to hate them, honestly

who cares, i wanna see some pics young lady

i pray the lord deliver u from this demonic thin u mentioned her AMEN.

how come you come about this in the first place.you are a Nigeria and its not really common here.You went for just 6yrs and you've been initiated.na wao,black men and women dey sharp well,well but i no know the kind brain wey you get wey someone fit make you become lesbian.
Anyway,i get friend wey fit act as your hubby for there.contact me.

plappville:

i pray the lord deliver u from this demonic thin u mentioned her AMEN.

I don't think the lord will understand this your English o.