Is there a singular reason why divorce is now commonplace among African couples, especially young African couples?

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the only singular reason I could figure out is unresolved differences,I think pride and unforgiving spirit have taken over our senses

TheSonOfMark:
Men are learning to stay away from unfaithful, silly women who hide behind feminism and such feminist mantra to cover up for the uncouthness and crass disposition towards men.

Men are tired of women who want to play our roles in a relationship.

To you all break ups are caused by the women ba? All husbands are saints and all wives evil if and when the marriage fails ba?

Trust issues - in any form.

Becus ah big yansh deflate, big yansh turn flat yansh, so ah husband look for anoda yansh.

ladies, pliss go gym nd keep ur yansh is gud condition.

TheSonOfMark:
Men are learning to stay away from unfaithful, silly women who hide behind feminism and such feminist mantra to cover up for the uncouthness and crass disposition towards men.

Men are tired of women who want to play our roles in a relationship.

Lol! I don't think its really about that.

Well,i think the society contributes greatly to divorce rate
The society made it such that without being married,you cant be complete.
They pressurise the singles ro get married,MOST succumb to their pressures,they want to get married by force just to satisfy the society,even when their partner is not compatible.
Then reality sets in,and divorce creeps in.
EGO AND TRUST ISSUES PLAY A GREAT ROLE TOO

kitnah:
Well,i think the society contributes greatly to divorce rate
The society made it such that without being married,you cant be complete.
They pressurise the singles ro get married,MOST succumb to their pressures,they want to get married by force just to satisfy the society,even when their partner is not compatible.
Then reality sets in,and divorce creeps in.
EGO AND TRUST ISSUES PLAY A GREAT ROLE TOO

Society? How easy it is to blame the shortcomings of the individual on society.

The pressure to marry was even greater in the days of old yet our ancestors stayed married all through.
Now the truth you females are evading is that the introduction of feminist ideas (which most translate to misandry) has helped ruined the chances of a successful relationship.

Cc: Delishpot
Lazsnaira

delishpot:


To you all break ups are caused by the women ba? All husbands are saints and all wives evil if and when the marriage fails ba?

i wonda o

TheSonOfMark:


Society? How easy it is to blame the shortcomings of the individual on society.

The pressure to marry was even greater in the days of old yet our ancestors stayed married all through.
Now the truth you females are evading is that the introduction of feminist ideas (which most translate to misandry) has helped ruined the chances of a successful relationship.

Cc: Delishpot
Lazsnaira

The reason for high divirce rate is the individuals in the marriage themselves. A woman will not dump a good husband likewise a good husband will not dump his good wife.
Back in the day, society frowned at women who dare to leave her husbanD. Beatings from husband to wives were considered normal, husband cheating was considered normal. Women had no ecomonic power so they were tied economicaly to their men no mater what unless she was the daughter of a wealthy man. Many of us can bear withness to the treatments our fathrrs gave their wives, we feel sorry for them and see howmuch they endured all in the name of marriage and for the sake of not having anything to fall back on should they leave. Also if she decides to leave, she will leave her kids behind cos society says the kids are the mans property aloNe. Should the woman want to be involved in their lives, she has to stay put and remain married. Many women endured bad marriages for this reason too.
Nowadays, women are economicaly empowered, they can easily move on with their lives if the man is agressive, likewise men dont feel guilt when they decide to leave a bad wife cos she can fend for herself.
All in all, people should treat each other as humans in marriages. Men remember their wives are people, with hopes and expectations, she has dreams too and is not created to be a silent door mat. She wants to be assured that you have eyes for only her, she wants your family to be No1 in your schedule. She wants love too.
Women on the other hand should know that their men deserve respect, he deserves loyalty and love. she should know he has dreams and needs a comfortable home to retire to after a hard days work.
Men and women should be involved in raising their kids.

TheSonOfMark:


Society? How easy it is to blame the shortcomings of the individual on society.

The pressure to marry was even greater in the days of old yet our ancestors stayed married all through.
Now the truth you females are evading is that the introduction of feminist ideas (which most translate to misandry) has helped ruined the chances of a successful relationship.

Cc: Delishpot
Lazsnaira

Of course feminist ideologies have greatly contributed to making divorce a trendy lifestyle, especially amongst the middle class.

This is an interesting question and I think you all have contributed meaningful to it.

IMO, many reasons have contributed massively to this 'setback', but since we're looking at a singular reason, I'd say westernization is to be blamed.

Our traditional African society, had clear rules of conduct which centered solely on moral principles that guided our behaviour and enhanced the stability of our society.

We all know these rules of conduct, so I wouldn't have to go listing them.

Alas, these our prized African values have been gradually eroded as a result of Westernization which is a process whereby societies adopt or come under western culture in such matters as in industry, technology, law, diet, language, politics, religion, lifestyle etc.

It is having a telling effect on us.

This isn't just about divorce. Think about the unwavering support for homosexualism, indecent dressing, terrorism, 1ncest, atheism, foul languages, drug abuse etc.

It's a deadly assimilation which has eaten deep into the fabrics of our lives.

I don't see it stopping anytime soon.