‘’I met a lady about two months ago and I must confess that we really connected well. She is the busy type, same with me but we talk on the phone a lot, sometimes we do grab a quick lunch together.

We eventually fixed a dinner date two weekends back and the plan was that she would spend the night at my place; so that we can talk and decide where the relationship is headed.

The dinner outing went well and we headed home at almost 9pm. We both freshened up and set to start talking but one thing led to another and we started touching each other. But I found myself playing along reluctantly the moment I noticed some fluid coming out from her two nipples.

When I asked her, she told me that she has a child that she still breast feeds. I inquired further and she told me that the child is 4 months old and that she was abandoned by the man she was dating the moment she told him that she was pregnant. And so she went through the pregnancy ordeal (with the support of her mum) alone, luckily had the baby who is being taken care of by a nanny that night-so that she could take a break.

Frankly, I did feel for her but my disappointment stems from the fact that she could leave a few months old baby behind-to go have fun with a man. And what stopped her from telling me about the baby all the while we have been communicating?

I insisted she leave that night to go and look after her baby but assured her that our relationship remains intact.

I offered to go drop her at home but she curtly told me not to bother. She called a taxi driver that was at my house within 20 minutes. She left without saying a word to me and has not communicated since then. Even the few times I tried calling to check on her and the baby-she would not pick my calls.

This past Friday, we ran into each other at the bank and she completely ignored me. When I tried walking over to her to say hello-she moved away. I have not seen where or how I offended that lady.

Was I wrong to have insisted that she go and look after a few months old baby that she had the mind to leave in the care of a complete stranger? Please give me your candid views. I am 33 years old, she claims to be 29. We are both from the South East and employed’’

^^^ was shared in a group I belong to and I decided to bring it here to get your opinions.

The lady probably feels rejected by you. Considering the fact that she was "dumped" by another man once she became pregnant.

On the other hand, you could have allowed her to spend the night and thereafter take her home in the morning. She would have been been appreciative of that.

Probably give her time. She will come around.

#myopinion

Its quite un4unate,sum pple ar fond of makin oda pple feel bad abt themselves.u did d rite thing!!u had a conscience,n dats wat matas mst.if u av tried callin her n she refuse pickin,den giv her a brk.mk she no mk am seems as if u do bad.ur CONSCIENCE.dats d koko.

franklyspeaking:
The lady probably feels rejected by you. Considering the fact that she was "dumped" by another man once she became pregnant.

On the other hand, you could have allowed her to spend the night and thereafter take her home in the morning. She would have been been appreciative of that.

Probably give her time. She will come around.

#myopinion

Spot on.......




Methinks the way he approached the issue was bad, she felt judged.

She must have felt really embarassed. The one thing she needs right now is a man she knows would stand by her , accept and totally understand her predicament.

I think your approach was wrong or insensitive

It's a pity how love could make a person's life so complicated. But wait oo, tallesty, you look my age finish still get mind to tell me that a guy brought a lady home at mid night to discuss relationship plan for me to believe? You've been scammed bro, you've been scammed. The guy should better leave that lady alone, she already has her hands full of emotional trauma.

The guy was really harsh on her to be honest...all she wanted was time away from all the baby drama and probably stress from having to go through the pregnancy by herself and he shoots her down in the most classless manner..she's pissed but will get over it though whether she wants to have anything to do with the guy again is another question altogether

Some guys get KonjiProof

dkronicle:
Some guys get KonjiProof

xpac01:
It's a pity how love could make a person's life so complicated. But wait oo, tallesty, you look my age finish still get mind to tell me that a guy brought a lady home at mid night to discuss relationship plan for me to believe? You've been scammed bro, you've been scammed. The guy should better leave that lady alone, she already has her hands full of emotional trauma.

Sorry Uncle.

You din do wrong buht what i picked from dz story is===The lady s ah B!TCH....she got pregnant carelessly(WHY?)how would a normal WOMAN leave a four months old baby @ home? + she's ignoring you cuz you told her to her face das she's an unfaithful B!TEH who fvcks around forgetting she has a child(das hw she see's it tho)

M Drunk

What part of date did she not understand?
What about the baby part she conveniently erased?

A 4 month-old toddler, needs to be with his mother.
So honestly, she isn't in any position to feel offended.

Tallesty1

Tallesty1:

.shey u din read my 1st comment? shows am DRUNK

FLAWLES:
.shey u din read my 1st comment? shows am DRUNK

.ok

FLAWLES:
.shey u din read my 1st comment? shows am DRUNK

What did you drink?

Well,she might felt rejected

chimerase2:
Tallesty1

Sir!!!!!!

I was dissappointed to read that it wasn't your story.

3cycle:
I was dissappointed to read that it wasn't your story.

Hahahaha.



You hate me that much?

Tallesty1:
What did you drink?

.ogogoro

Tallesty1:
Hahahaha.



You hate me that much?

I don't hate you, I just wanted to ask how the milk tasted.

3cycle:

I don't hate you, I just wanted to ask how the milk tasted.

I can ask him for you

Tallesty1:

.:/

Comments here though. I see why promiscuity is the order of the day in our society now. How can a mother abandon her 4 months old baby just to go and have fun? Not just for a few minutes,hours but a full night without her baby?. Chai...God help me and other good men out there never to find ourselves in the hands of ladies like the one in the story above.

Nothing the guy did was out of place. Why didn't she tell the guy about the child that might have made any decision they would have taken include the child.

#singlemothersthough

Tallesty1:


We eventually fixed a dinner date two weekends back and the plan was that she would spend the night at my place; so that we can talk and decide where the relationship is headed.

Really?

The dinner outing went well and we headed home at almost 9pm. We both freshened up and set to start talking but one thing led to another and we started touching each other.

^^^