TheFilmmaker:


What the hell are you people saying? A woman slapped my mom? And you expect me to take it like it's Nescafé? Why is everybody so hypocritical in judging? My wife can not even have the effrontery to slap my junior sister, not to talk of my mother. WTF are you people talking self?

Dragonking:


so because a female elder lays hands on you, you see it right as an opportunity to fight and show your power right. If no respectable elder will lay hands on another person, no respectable wife will reply with violence. Two wrong don't make a right. Now she inflicted deep cuts on the woman's face, did she win a trophy for it? what if she pushed or hit her MIL and she fell and died in the process, what excuse will she give?

She had the opportunity of coming out of this issue on top but she blew it away by fighting back.

MadCow1:



My take..

First and foremost Sir, you are a married man and your loyalty is to your wife and kids not your mother. This is the harsh and hard truth.

Secondly your mother has the least right when it comes to making demands in your matrimonial home. The mother of the baby refused to give her pictures of the baby and she has every right to do so because she is the mother. Remember that your mother's beef with your wife stems primarily from the fact that she is your mother so technically she is being served with her own medicine.

And the fact that your mother threw the first slap is even most shocking to me. Some wives would have laid her out with one blow.

Finally, if all efforts to genuinely broker peace fails, then in the interest of your immediate family, keep your mother in her home and keep your wife in hers. Nothing says they must be friends. But in all, your primary interest should be towards your wife not your mother.

TheFilmmaker:


Stop with the fallacies. Your opinion says otherwise.

enough of the double sidedness.

Cpumping:
I really dnt know wat to advice u. I wd b in a more confused state if I were in ur shoes. of course u cant leave ur wife. if u can get yr wife to apologize, I guess it wd quell the matter.

perfectionist:
Nairalanders, I'm in a quagmire! About one week ago, my mother came to visit my family with her sister and a friend. After the preliminary greetings and felicitations, I proceeded to take leave of my guests in order to go and service my car, leaving them in the hands of my wife after having provided some refreshments for them.
Now, my wife and mother have no love lost between them and barely get along but the joviality they displayed together in my presence combined with the fact that my mother's sister and friend were also around made me to believe all will be well and nothing will go wrong.
No sooner had I left home than I received a frantic call from my wife to return quickly that all hell had broken loose.
Upon getting home, I found my mother and my wife on the 3-seater going at each other with both wailing. I managed to separate them and proceeded to find the cause of the fight. I was told by the two onlookers (mother's sister and a friend) that my wife prevented my mother from taking some photos of the child dedication we did a few weeks back from the photo album. This incensed my mother and led to my wife being slapped following which all hell was broken loose. My mother even sustained a deep scratch on her face.
Now, my family members have insisted that my wife must leave the house for committing this abomination (their words, not mine). Indeed, my mother has told me in no uncertain terms that mother and son relationship has ended as long as my wife continues to remain in the house.
I love my wife and has two young children with her but this whole issue has complicated things.
What should I do? Your candid advice and suggestions will be appreciated.

Crieff:


What are you going on about? Your wife slapped your mum and she's sorry...what else do you want? If you will kick her out, the OP is not considering that line of action because that wife and those two children are his family, do you understand? They are his FAMILY.

zeb04:
How can your old mum fight with your wife?
That is the height of irresponsiblity.

I can never immagine my dad will fight with my husband. Where is the respect for himself! It would be the most embarrasing day of my life....God forbid.

Your mum is naturally is troublesome person.for all I can read here,she threw the first slap and she is the one refusing to make peace.

OGa oh.

E be like sey something dey worry your breassst. U dey ready the story upside down?? ...Infact, can i work on your boobsss??

aflyingbird:
why are some of y'all blaming the wife ?

OP , ur mother wanted to take the photos, but u didn't mention her wanting to print them and bring back the original. 1) ur wife had every right to prevent her from taking the photos ( they are her photos after all ), especially if there was no mention of printing. they r child dedication photos dat mean a lot to ur wife , of course she won't let anyone take them just like that . 2) ur mother had no right to slap ur wife just 'cus ur wife said she couldn't take the pictures. why hit her? she isn't ur child neither is she a little kid to be slapped anyhow. u don't put ur hands on anyone. let's be fair here : your mother initiated this fight. ur mother had her sister n friend there so of course they will take her side, ur wife is the lone ranger dat they ganged up on , but if u ask me she is the victim . they were probably looking for a fight from the start

Amybijou:


u`ve lost me. At least am making sense to over 15 SENSIBLE persons

TheFilmmaker:


What the hell are you people saying? A woman slapped my mom? And you expect me to take it like it's Nescafé? Why is everybody so hypocritical in judging? My wife can not even have the effrontery to slap my junior sister, not to talk of my mother. WTF are you people talking self?

atakamus:
You be mad man, I dey tell you. Go and fight her own mama so that she go know what it means. Why on earth will she stop your mom from collecting picture of her grandchild? She due craze? Madness the worry her? If your mama no born, she for see u marry? Thunder fire her there and u self wey the come here to ask rubbish question. Show that bitch the door right away.
I told my wife before we marry that my mother is my life. Our dad is dead. I told her that as a first son my mother is my first wife through inheritance. It is my paramount duty to take care of her. I warn her that any day she tried nonsense with mother, I will pull down heaven that day. She can play with anything but not my mother. You stupid wife had the guts to beat up your mother and you come here to ask question. Boy you de mad, you dey hear. Banga head.

Winneygirl:
your wife was looking for a fight.
People will always overstep. if she was so attached to the pics she could have selected some and given your mum.
But she chose to make a mountain of nothing. Probably talked rudely to your mum which made your mum lash out because it was in the presence of other people.
your wife has to apologise and it is your place to ensure that she gives your mum the respect that is due her.

TheFilmmaker:


Bros, thanks for your mature comments.

I am not advocating for the wife to be sent away because the mother said so. I am only advocating that the wife should APOLOGIZE. SHE MUST APOLOGIZE. GENUINELY. For love to foster. Otherwise, the husband must be ready for a bumpy ride.

But if she is adamant to apologizing, then send her packing. Her parents will come back and do the apologizing, in a more awkward manner.

Life is too short to allow hate to foster between family members. Once you lose your sense of apologizing for your wrong doings, I automatically label you a threat.

justwise:


So the wife is there to be slapped and kicked about? His mum is lucky....some women will slap her back and still throw her out of the house, she will wait for her son outside...violent should not be condoned

richyblink1:


No hard feelings man, only replied you because you called me "a moral joker", asking if I am married. Not forgetting your example about being married to your sister.

Like I said, no hard feelings!!!

zeb04:
How can your old mum fight with your wife?
That is the height of irresponsiblity.

I can never immagine my dad will fight with my husband. Where is the respect for himself! It would be the most embarrasing day of my life....God forbid.

Your mum is naturally is troublesome person.for all I can read here,she threw the first slap and she is the one refusing to make peace.

OGa oh.

cococandy:
What is the cause of the animosity between them?
Get to the root to solve the problem.

You know most of us Nigerians are superstitious.
I've heard people believe that one can use pictures to do juju for someone else.

What is your wife afraid of that she's not telling you?


Uncle you can't leave your wife for that reason.
Let her apologize to your mother for hitting her back and getting into a fight with her.
Na old woman she be o. What if she'd injured her seriously in the fight? Old people are fragile.
She could have tired to endure the slap and wait to tell you when you get back (easy to say I know).

As for your mom, when everything is settled you need to talk to her.
I know old people are revered, as such almost worshipped and can do no wrong in the eyes of traditional laws. Still she needs to be more peaceful. The pictures don't belong to her. Since she asked your wife and your wife said no, she should have waited until you got back to ask you instead of slapping your wife. Is your wife a riffraff that can be slapped anyhow? So annoying

She could have even asked you before you left since she knows she doesn't get along too well with your wife.

Those two ladies she brought to visit with her, why didn't they stop the fracas before you got there?
I'm suspecting them.

For her to slap her DIL in the presence of visitors means it has been decided that she has and deserves no respect in your house. Sad.

Pls set the boundaries in your home o.

I don't know why women won't let their sons have peace in their marriages.

ugwum007:


a big and empty drum..thats u