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She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by mentorandfriend(m): 7:02am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Romancelanders, I'm confused and in deep trouble. How can one girl bug me to death this way? Please be patient with me and read what happened.cc: Ifyalways MizMyColi Missclasssy Farano Babyosisi Cococandy Priscaoge Tallesty Buygala Tosyne2much emusmith Naijaboiy Rokiatu Mariolae Chibwike I need serious advice from experienced romancelanders to handle this before I do something silly. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by Nobody: 7:10am On Apr 03, 2015 |
LOL such a trivial issue. Shes obviously an attention seeking clingy and needy girl. And from what I can see, you love the attention shes giving you if not handling this is pretty easy. What's stopping you from blocking her? Ok even if you don't block her, must you pick her calls? If she like make she call 5000 times a day. don't pick up. As long as you entertain it, she will continue. When she text to meet up don't meet her. Don't change church, just no attention to her. Go about doing your thing and act like she don't exist. She will get the message. But as long as you keep entertaining her, she will keep bugging you. 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by StarFist(m): 7:12am On Apr 03, 2015 |
It's always like that whenever a girl loves u more! Since u didn't love the girl! Ur attitudes towards her are ok! She will grow over it someday 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by 7footre(m): 7:15am On Apr 03, 2015 |
And you've been stringing her along for over a year. Man up and decide what you want abeg |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by chibwike(m): 7:19am On Apr 03, 2015 |
mentorandfriend:Have been in a situation like this before...buh urz is more complicated..coz the chic seems to be obsessed......firstly u ve got to change ur line....that would reduce communication...if she doesn't relent...try asking her what does she really want from you....her reply would help you in taking the next step...lastly, pray. 3 Likes |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by Young03(m): 7:20am On Apr 03, 2015 |
so far my name no follow for whom u listed , mal I bone stay one corner dey watch. |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by DaGC(m): 7:21am On Apr 03, 2015 |
She dey bug you?? Abeg spray her with raid!!! 3 Likes |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by mentorandfriend(m): 7:22am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Thanks rokiatu. I cherish your advice. Not that I like the attention she is giving me. It bores me to death. I'm just trying my best to be civil with her while passing my message across. Henceforth, I'll do as if she doesnt exist when I see her in church. I'm only afraid of what she is capable of saying behind me to all those girls, thats why I'm trying to be civil. |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by mentorandfriend(m): 7:23am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Young03:Abeg give me advice bro. 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by Nobody: 7:26am On Apr 03, 2015 |
mentorandfriend:Life will get easier for you when you stop caring what anyone think of you. Beside she will be bitter so she will obviously talk a lot of trash about you. Ignorance is the best solution for such people. 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by klark3: 7:26am On Apr 03, 2015 |
U're a man, stop acting girlie, try to be more assertive & decisive. 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by mentorandfriend(m): 7:28am On Apr 03, 2015 |
chibwike:Ok. Thanks a lot. I'll do just that! |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by immortalvoices(m): 7:28am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Changing line or church over a delinquent and unsettled female won't solve the prevailing problems she is giving you May I suggest you politely invite her in a meeting with the church elders and explain everything to them Outline you stance and make a firm and determined resolve....about you place in such scenario Changing line or church over a girl u haven't even date (ed) is cowardice Please be cool... 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by mentorandfriend(m): 7:29am On Apr 03, 2015 |
rokiatu:Wow. Thanks a lot. |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by MizMyColi(f): 7:31am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Lol Mentorandfriend, I think you're being overly considerate here, which in itself, is not a bad thing....but, You shouldn't have stringed her along....or perhaps, you had feelings for her? And then realized along the line she's not a ministry you want to pursue? Coupled with the issues of emotional infidelity that may crop up as a result of your being hitched to the fine doctor lady you now have. See, I value my peace of mind, and as unorthodox as it might seem, I am very well versed in the art of ignoring and loving people from afar. You might wanna develop that stance in this case. For someone you spoke with daily on a 30 minute average, chances are that you've become attached, hence the subtle feeling of indebtedness as to what might become of her, especially now that you know she's a young woman who has issues with emotional compartmentalization. But you have to do what you have to do. You ought to pray for her too. Speaking light and love over her life. Declaring that she too will find love and understand what it means to value self. (This is what I meant by loving from afar). In all, stay safe and keep your real babe out of this... Truss me, you don't wanna get stuff muddled up for yourself. I'm here, should you need further clarification 5 Likes |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by SpeedyConnect(m): 7:33am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Start withdrawing gradually and time will remedy the situation |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by cococandy(f): 7:38am On Apr 03, 2015 |
You can take out a restraining order against her if she continues with the threats. Some people are over clingy to the point of being dangerous if not handled carefully. Or you can get someone who you think she might listen to talk some sense into her. Maybe help her get the clear picture of what she's doing in case she's not aware. And pls when you say no, mean no. Welcoming her back into your home,accepting her gifts and food send mixed signals. If you're not into her,don't even fan one embers of her affection by being nice,since you've ibviousky seen that she misreads niceness for love. The best solution is a clean break. Don't respond to her calls. Don't text back. Be firm but not cruel. If she doesn't get any attention from you in a while and sees that you're never going to give it, hopefully she will pitch her tent elsewhere and forget you. 2 Likes |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by dharay99: 7:38am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Young03: |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by dharay99: 7:39am On Apr 03, 2015 |
SpeedyConnect: be like say u no read wetin him write well well... 2 Likes |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by demelza: 7:41am On Apr 03, 2015 |
MizMyColi:Please could you tell me more about this. This is one art I have been trying to learn and so far I have been a poor student. Op, sorry for hijacking your thread. |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by mentorandfriend(m): 7:44am On Apr 03, 2015 |
MizMyColi:Hmmm MizMyColi. Thanks a lot. I'll keep in touch with you. 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by rill: 7:47am On Apr 03, 2015 |
na so the babe ugly reach? 3 Likes |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by MizMyColi(f): 8:03am On Apr 03, 2015 |
demelza: Okay first off, I don't go about ignoring people, matter of fact, I enjoy them and like being around sane and like minded individuals. I will ignore a person for one or more of these reasons - If they are plain toxic - If they think I offended them and just won't forgive me, despite my grovelling for such - If a person gets high from taunting my person. One thing I always do is FORGIVE in advance and keep forgiving. That's the only way I can go without talking to them and remain true to the values I stand for. One other thing I've conditioned self to do is speak positive words into their lives, especially when I feel like thinking and saying wrong and vile thoughts about them. I had a friend, I considered her everything to me...I let her in, without boundaries....I can be trusting like that. I gave her the impression that I'll always look up to her, she's older btw. But along the line...she became overly controlling and unwittingly manipulative. I knew it wasn't right. The last conversation I had with her kinda got me battered emotionally, I'm thankful for my male friends who won't let me slip into another identity crisis. I told them all the stuff she said to me and both of them waowed I can be tolerant like that. I never replied any of those converso....it's been months now. There's hardly a day I don't think about her.... All I do is wish her well, I make specific positive statements into her life and I declare wholeheartedly that things will get better for us. YET, I am on complete ignore mode. If this example doesn't fit, you might wanna go specific, as different scenarios demand different measures. Impossible is Nothing. |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by ednut1(m): 8:04am On Apr 03, 2015 |
broda u lead her on lmao. i once dated a lunatic gal hahahah. wud call 30 times a day. one night i slept off nd saw 20 missed call. some gals sha |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by demelza: 8:11am On Apr 03, 2015 |
MizMyColi:That conditioning thing you wrote about is what I have been missing. I tend to think vile thoughts and allow it spiral out of control to the point that I get angry all over again. Will definitely apply your method. Thank you very much. 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by Nobody: 8:18am On Apr 03, 2015 |
She's a desperado. Please avoid her,she has obsession for you,and not love. She can be dangerous,if she does get what she wants.. I will like you to be watching Investigation Discovery(ID) you will understand me more.. Please block her call,or any of her moves,except you are enjoying it. 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by MizMyColi(f): 8:32am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Owhhhh Trust me, at first, it's not easy. I still slip, even with how far I've come. But there's no better way for me, so I keep on. I know there is a force in us that helps make these things possible. Another example. After the elections, I was angry ehn. Choi! I saw bitterness korokoro. I refused talking to my friends. They call and watsapp...pfffttt. But I knew that wasn't me. I knew I couldn't remain like that, yet I lacked the strength to snap out of it.... Others were busy congratulating and I'm like...... Well, I prayed to the higher dimension within to return me to who I'm meant to be. Hmm You should have seen me less than five minutes later. It is not exaggeration, I laughed throughout the night! I became free again. Lol It all boils down to an awareness of who you're meant to be. Mentorandfriend, biko have mercy demelza: 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by naijaboiy: 8:38am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Jesus! See how person dey find husband by force. This is desperation+obsession of the highest order to me. Please block her and keep calm about it. Btw op,,shey the girl dey fine? 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by mentorandfriend(m): 8:43am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Yomieluv:The obsession is too much. Make this girl no give me chemical burns in anger one day o. Her's is plain foolishness. I've taken note of ur advice. Thanks bro. |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by naijaboiy: 8:44am On Apr 03, 2015 |
rill:Nawa for you o 1 Like |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by Fabdedon(m): 8:46am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Re: She Bugs Me To Death! How can I handle her? by mentorandfriend(m): 8:46am On Apr 03, 2015 |
naijaboiy:Exactly. Nawa for some girls. |
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