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Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 3:06am On Apr 07, 2015


Have you ever wondered why it seems like you just can’t
stop thinking about sex? Or perhaps, why men have this
uncontrollable urge for sex? Or why women still feel
an undeniable attraction to someone they’ve had sex with
years ago? Maybe even, how does someone fall in love at
first sight? The answer to why and how are caused by tiny
cocktails with incredible potencies. No, they aren’t drinks
found in any bar or nightclub. These are chemical cocktails
called hormones that are served up by our own bodies, and
the mastermind at the helm of these concoctions is our very
own brain.
The chemicals and hormones in our brain are working for
and against us in the evolutionary design of sex; they keep us
wanting it and ultimately coming back for more and more.
Why? Obviously, the need to produce babies and expand the
human race is naturally inherent. But, we have to want and
enjoy sex in order to continue our species therefore these
notorious instigators of our brain are always working and
affecting us. Unfortunately, these master manipulators can
sometimes temporarily affect our ability to think clearly. For
example, the more we have sex with someone, the more we
become bonded to them and over time we may wake up
and find ourselves in a relationship with someone whom we
may not really know all because our “pleasure center
players” temporarily blindsided us. So, who exactly are these
pleasure center players responsible for our satiable, or
sometimes insatiable, appetite for sex, love, attraction and
sexual desires? Let’s get into that, shall we?
Player # 1: Dopamine, aka “The Activator”
When we’re head over heels in love with or have sexual
desires for someone there’s an active increase in the areas of
our brain associated with romantic feelings which is
triggered by dopamine, aka, “the activator.” Dopamine is the
key to activating the pleasure center of our brain. When
released, it produces feelings of pleasure and satisfaction
when we’re doing things that we really enjoy. The pleasure
center pumps this feel good hormone throughout our body,
informing it that the activity is instantly rewarding with a
feeling of pleasure. Dopamine production occurs during the
excitement phase of sex, which is the building block of
arousal and desire. At the moment of orgasm it is fully
released followed by an immediate drop in levels. The drop
in dopamine levels (along with player # 2, prolactin) could be
the protagonist for that tired feeling after sex. Dopamine can
also be highly addictive and some scientists have equated it
to the brain pattern and rush experienced by heroin or
cocaine users. This could explain one of the reasons why
orgasm feels so incredible. Orgasms give you the highest
dose of natural Dopamine. Who needs drugs when you can
just have orgasms?
Player # 2: Prolactin, aka The “Ahhh” Moment!
Prolactin is the afterglow chemical that creates the “ahhh”
feeling after a man ejaculates or a woman has a clitoral
orgasm. During sexual arousal there is a peak and then a
crash because of this dopamine-prolactin effect, but often
times people don’t realize the hormonal shifts that are
happening during sexual activities. In some cases, this can
create a disconnect between partners and cause them to pull
away from each other afterward but thank goodness
oxytocin (player # 3) is there to run damage control.
Prolactin also helps regulate our sex drive. If the brain isn’t
producing enough of it, there is only the desire to have sex.
However if the brain produces too much prolactin, it can
repress the libido and result in a loss of sexual arousal
completely. Prolactin is also very important during
pregnancy, as it stimulates the mammary glands to produce
milk and assists in the fetal development of the lungs and
immune system.
Player # 3: Oxytocin, aka The Bonder
Oxytocin, affectionately labeled “the bonding hormone,” is
another chemical hormone that is released during sexual
activity. It produces feelings of trust, emotional intimacy,
relaxation, attachment and contentment between people. It
calms the spirit and lifts moods, reducing fear and anxiety
and allowing a feeling of safety in the arms of your beloved.
One of the best things about oxytocin is that it believes in
reciprocity; the more you give the more you get. Nonsexual
touch can also increase levels of oxytocin. Our pleasure
center actually becomes more responsive and releases high
levels of oxytocin when we touch, nurture and care for
others. Just a 20-30 second hug can work wonders for both
men and women. Oxytocin also provides balance between
the highs of dopamine and lows of prolactin. So, if you are
looking to create lasting bonds and to balance the effects of
the dopamine and prolactin then do something sweet for
someone you care about by giving them a lovingly stroke
and/or telling them lovingly how you feel about them.
Player # 4 – Phenylethylamine (PEA), aka The Love
Potion
PEA is known as the “love chemical” because it’s the reason
we find ourselves thinking about and wanting to be with our
beloved all of the time. Under the intoxicating influence of
PEA, our beloved can do no wrong. PEA production
commonly lasts for about one to 24 months. As soon as the
production stops, the honeymoon may slow down or come
to a screeching halt. The rose colored glasses come off and
things in your partner that never bothered you before
suddenly begin to irritate you. The relationship may begin to
suffer or eventually end because we are simply not hard-
wired to maintain that level of PEA production. But, all hope
is not lost! The great news is that besides falling in love, PEA
production can be simulated by participating in thrill seeking
activities like sky diving and the eating of certain foods like
chocolate! So even after the affects of PEA have trickled off,
with the help of oxytocin, thrill seeking, or a little chocolate,
we can still love and continue to form lasting bonds with our
beloved and to stay connected, falling in love again and
again!
So how do we balance it all?
With all of the ups, downs and hormonal shifts happening
during attraction, desire, arousal, ejaculation and orgasm it is
important that we learn how to be aware of them and find
balance as we enter into relationships and love play. With
awareness and practice we can participate in activities or do
things to produce and/or activate our pleasure center
players. Lack of awareness of our body’s neurochemistry
and how it can wreak havoc on our relationships puts us at a
huge disadvantage and increases the chances of relationship
failures. When we are aware of these hormonal shifts, we
can easily understand the changes occurring within
ourselves and our partner who may also be experiencing
these hormonal highs and lows. This helps both parties have
patience and compassion with one another and establishes a
place of balance and a positive relationship arsenal for the
journey of love ahead.

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Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 3:08am On Apr 07, 2015
Love Peddlers nko?
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 3:09am On Apr 07, 2015
will comment tomorrow. . .
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Fabdedon(m): 3:10am On Apr 07, 2015
konji nah bastard lipsrsealed
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by XtraSmooth404: 3:17am On Apr 07, 2015
People no dey sleep o shocked
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by XtraSmooth404: 3:18am On Apr 07, 2015
MzNelly:
Love Peddlers nko?
U mean male love peddlers? undecided
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 3:19am On Apr 07, 2015
XtraSmooth404:

U mean male love peddlers? undecided

undecided
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by XtraSmooth404: 3:20am On Apr 07, 2015
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 3:23am On Apr 07, 2015
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by XtraSmooth404: 3:26am On Apr 07, 2015
MzNelly:


smiley
@dp, is that you? undecided
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 3:26am On Apr 07, 2015
XtraSmooth404:

@dp, is that you? undecided

If it is-? undecided
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by XtraSmooth404: 3:29am On Apr 07, 2015
MzNelly:


If it is-? undecided
Is that a 'yes'? undecided
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 3:31am On Apr 07, 2015
XtraSmooth404:

Is that a 'yes'? undecided

are you referring to me?
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by XtraSmooth404: 3:34am On Apr 07, 2015
Glamourscenes:


are you referring to me?
Sorry, what's the question again?
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 3:37am On Apr 07, 2015
XtraSmooth404:

Is that a 'yes'? undecided

If it is-? undecided
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by XtraSmooth404: 3:43am On Apr 07, 2015
MzNelly:


If it is-? undecided
Huh? OK bye.
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 3:57am On Apr 07, 2015
super story
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 4:04am On Apr 07, 2015
I loved your write up but I couldn't finish it. It was too long!
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 5:01am On Apr 07, 2015
lool
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 6:15am On Apr 07, 2015
lipsrsealed
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by EricSmallz(m): 6:55am On Apr 07, 2015
No Wonder.
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Polichdhh: 7:02am On Apr 07, 2015
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by RomanceLander(f): 7:31am On Apr 07, 2015
[size=13pt]Sorry can't it be summarized[/size]
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Cutehector(m): 7:39am On Apr 07, 2015
U mean why she can't stop tinkn abt him after d fifty shades of grey bleep? grin
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Nobody: 7:57am On Apr 07, 2015
Noted
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Rajjah(f): 9:05am On Apr 07, 2015
Pls summarize it to me
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Rajjah(f): 9:06am On Apr 07, 2015
Oh no... Too long
Re: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After Sex by Dannidom(m): 9:36am On Apr 07, 2015
RomanceLander:
[size=13pt]Sorry can't it be summarized[/size]
I need your number now angry

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