no doubt, Nigeria is one the most religious and traditionally inclined people on earth.
no yawa!
But what baffles me is, you will hardly see girls kissing their boyfriends in public, even married people are guilty, whether they are afraid, i don't know.
In the UK where i did my ITCA, i was 19 ,i met a young girl about my age along the popular Piccadilly monument.
How are you? i asked.
i'm fine,thank you. she replied.
In our conversation, i asked her if she was married, she show me her wedding ring and some of her wedding pictures on her phone.
what's your name? i asked her
Stacy, she replied immediately.
It's nice meeting you Stacy.
You are welcome, she responded.
we went our separate away.
I came back to Nigeria a year later. one night i decided to walk down a nearby filling station to get fuel for my generator, since there was no light, i met this beautiful lady at the station who i think is below 19.
Hello! you are beautiful, i told her.
thanks, she responded.
How are you and,
what's your name?, i asked
i am a married woman, how dare you ask my name?
It does not matter, i said.
Then, the next thing i heard is, Don't you have respect for married women? You are even asking me How are you?
She walk away,
i was so embarrassed, other people looking at us thought i was making advance at her.
i asked myself, if this lady was not married will she be doing this? she probably would have been friendly too. But because she is now married she is now demanding respect where it does not follow, from a guy who is older than her.
so, my question is.,is this some kind of african tradition?

Op u know what u may have content, but the content just doesn't jam enough to give an overall meaning.
Ur title also conflicts with ur content.think it over and reconstruct ur post b4 I reply.

qbd2:
Op u know what u may have content, but the content just doesn't jam enough to give an overall meaning.
Ur title also conflicts with ur content.think it over and reconstruct ur post b4 I reply.

yeah u re ryt...i jst read d content..bt it doesnt relate to d topic...

Na so naija babes dey o


But if tor say u tell her stupid things like

U look swt I wanna get down with u
She for reply u with smile and follow u self




Bros give this post better topic

qbd2:
Op u know what u may have content, but the content just doesn't jam enough to give an overall meaning.
Ur title also conflicts with ur content.think it over and reconstruct ur post b4 I reply.

may be because i am still nurturing the embarrassment till now.. lol
anyway, a romantic lady will always be nice to everybody whether she is married or not.
It seems, traditional perception says don't be nice to people when you are married or they will be little you. or you may be in danger of committing adultery or you will be caught red handed by your husband or something

denisbid:

may be because i am still nurturing the embarrassment till now.. lol
anyway, a romantic lady will always be nice to everybody whether they are married or not

op u gat it wrng dere...a well mannered lady...nt a romantic lady..

come to think of it, why do girls not kissing their guys in public?

In Nigeria, people's perspectives differs. I learnt my lesson at a very young age that it isn't every lady who caught your admiration that you walk up to appreciate. most ladies will misinterprete your gesture as a flirt. only a few will show gratitude.

what leads to such?

either their experience with guys or they are immature in character or wisdom

#i rest my case

denisbid:

may be because i am still nurturing the embarrassment till now.. lol
anyway, a romantic lady will always be nice to everybody whether she is married or not.
It seems, traditional perception says don't be nice to people when you are married or they will be little you. or you may be in danger of committing adultery or you will be caught red handed by your husband or something

I still don't get ur use of romantic. U mean romantic to strangers or their spouse?

Chizzy20:
yeah u re ryt...i jst read d content..bt it doesnt relate to d topic...

I guess I'm not d only dat noticed dat.

soulminister:
In Nigeria, people's perspectives differs. I learnt my lesson at a very young age that it isn't every lady who caught your admiration that you walk up to appreciate. most ladies will misinterprete your gesture as a flirt. only a few will show gratitude.

what leads to such?

either their experience with guys or they are immature in character or wisdom

#i rest my case

it is their experience with guys.
some guys are very forward.
You give them privilege
They will want to take the full village

qbd2:

I still don't get ur use of romantic. U mean romantic to strangers or their spouse?

romantic to their spouse.
Remember, i said you hardly see couples kissing publicly. could it be traditional beliefs?

Proximo73:
come to think of it, why do girls not kissing their guys in public?

you have noticed it too?
even the guys don't even make move to show affection publicly

denisbid:

you have noticed it too?
even the guys don't even make move to show affection publicly

it's because the girl will not approve of it.
she will prefer it done indoors

Proximo73:

it's because the girl will not approve of it.
she will prefer it done indoors

why?

soulminister:
In Nigeria, people's perspectives differs. I learnt my lesson at a very young age that it isn't every lady who caught your admiration that you walk up to appreciate. most ladies will misinterprete your gesture as a flirt. only a few will show gratitude.

what leads to such?

either their experience with guys or they are immature in character or wisdom

#i rest my case

you are right

Proximo73:

it is their experience with guys.
some guys are very forward.
You give them privilege
They will want to take the full village

thank you very much,, it is the guys o,
even if you tell them you are married they will still want to tempt you to fall.
that's why we give them cold face and be firm with our decision

qbd2:

I still don't get ur use of romantic. U mean romantic to strangers or their spouse?

the op is not straight forward, except this is what he is trying to portray .
for couples to be romantic they have to know how to be nice first, to everybody. otherwise, their romance will not be true romance.
the reason is that, if the girl for instance do not know how to be nice to people, definitely, she will never know how to be nice to her spouse.
what she know is, she is in love, but she will not know how to go about loving him.
Then, a situation where the guy begins to endure the marriage set in, before you know there will be brake up.
so, being nice to people, though is not romance,is a necessary ingredient to make romance work. that's why they can be used interchangably in some context

denisbid:

why?

lol

flexybobo:


the op is not straight forward, except this is what he is trying to portray .
for couples to be romantic they have to know how to be nice first, to everybody. otherwise, their romance will not be true romance.
the reason is that, if the girl for instance do not know how to be nice to people, definitely, she will never know how to be nice to her spouse.
what she know is, she is in love, but she will not know how to go about loving him.
Then, a situation where the guy begins to endure the marriage set in, before you know there will be brake up.
so, being nice to people, though is not romance,is a necessary ingredient to make romance work. that's why they can be used interchangably in some context

hmm!
that means, a persons ability to be hospitable and friendly to other people will translate to his or her ability to be romantic to his or her spouse?

Hildalicious:

hmm!
that means, a persons ability to be hospitable and friendly to other people will translate to his or her ability to be romantic to his or her spouse?

exactly!

If the girl responds well and feels relaxed with you,you'd be the first to open a thread on "how flirty naija married women are. I can even imagine topics like,"this babe is married but she's showing me greenlight.

#naija guys that I know well .

flexybobo:


the op is not straight forward, except this is what he is trying to portray .
for couples to be romantic they have to know how to be nice first, to everybody. otherwise, their romance will not be true romance.
the reason is that, if the girl for instance do not know how to be nice to people, definitely, she will never know how to be nice to her spouse.
what she know is, she is in love, but she will not know how to go about loving him.
Then, a situation where the guy begins to endure the marriage set in, before you know there will be brake up.
so, being nice to people, though is not romance,is a necessary ingredient to make romance work. that's why they can be used interchangably in some context

thanks!

denisbid:

thanks!

you are welcome

flexybobo:


the op is not straight forward, except this is what he is trying to portray .
for couples to be romantic they have to know how to be nice first, to everybody. otherwise, their romance will not be true romance.
the reason is that, if the girl for instance do not know how to be nice to people, definitely, she will never know how to be nice to her spouse.
what she know is, she is in love, but she will not know how to go about loving him.
Then, a situation where the guy begins to endure the marriage set in, before you know there will be brake up.
so, being nice to people, though is not romance,is a necessary ingredient to make romance work. that's why they can be used interchangably in some context

Hmm seem to understandd ops language. But I stilldisagree with datnotion presented. By d op ass uve clarified.

denisbid:

romantic to their spouse.
Remember, i said you hardly see couples kissing publicly. could it be traditional beliefs?

Dats just beinghuman, courtesy says pple don't do dat in public.

qbd2:

Hmm seem to understandd ops language. But I stilldisagree with datnotion presented. By d op ass uve clarified.

i know some couples may not be romantic, but how is religion and tradition influenced it. i still do not understand

flexybobo:

i know some couples may not be romantic, but how is religion and tradition influenced it. i still do not understand

Same here, maybe u can askdopwhat he meant. By that.

qbd2:

Dats just beinghuman, courtesy says pple don't do dat in public.

what courtesy? African courtesy?
Even kissing on screen, African parents will prohibit their children to watch as if it is some kind of ex rated film