Hello peeps, I think I have to share this here maybe I will get some helpful hints.
As a fresher in the University of Ibadan, I stay in the school hostel. My problem started ever since I came in. Each time I'm not in class for lectures, I always have this strong feeling that I am not relaxed and I have this longing for home. I don't really know how to explain this but I always want my family and people around me. This is different from missing them cos this is not my first time of being away from home. The hostel is very lively but I feel like something is missing from me. I don't know how to explain than this. If anybody has an idea of what I mean, please help. It's ready affecting me psychologically. I need help.

Change!!! New atmosphere, after may29, you wil be ok

Maybe u miss ur home environment. U can try going home next weekend and then come baclk to skul. Next case pls!

Sorry to ask, how old are you please?

Fairgodwin:
Sorry to ask, how old are you please?

probably a teenager

This happen to siblings who are closely knitted. A family whose bond is to a point of one member feeling the other might get hurt or sick or unhappy when at a certain distance is bound to be subconsciously affected by the absence of one necessitated by society.
I suffered this when I was leaving home to start a distant sch life from the south to the north. Sometimes the agony became so overwhelming I found my self in tears. Most victims resort to drinking or smoking to assuage those moments as it becomes more desperate by the day. But these options could be the worst undoing for those who hope to lead a drug free adult life in the future as addiction is a universally known harmful practice hard to put an end to.
Read more novels, participate in sports and other social activities and, above all, dont let yur praying knees get lazy in supplication for God's divine intervention, as d matter is assumed to have eaten deep into u. Remember if u wallow in self pity and lovelorn, u are harming yur self and yur future by reducing yur inner strength in that direction. Avoid emotional or sentimental tunes and videos as these could be reminiscent in a way. Rather, take on the rock and roll, watch the hit and runs and the redhead guiter breakers and live yur life seemingly unannounced, like u were made in the streets. Inside and outside -Be cool. If u are the religious type just read yur holybook for inspiration as u may not garner such from secular inward behaviour.Rememeber u have something on yur hands to make yur people proud and a future to build with fabrics of the present that u must not let the past shatter. Goodluck.

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probably a teenager [/

I agree.

pasqal09:

probably a teenager

I agree.

so which hall are you staying?... do your parents too reside in Ibadan?

You are homesick. Simple.

I reckon you are in your teen years and also this is easily your first serious foray outside home.

It is perfectly normal to feel this way now but will cease to be normal if you won't get over it. You will.

There's no remedial advice better than to remain in school and outlive it. Identify with your hostel people and try to form hobbies centred around your hostel. Create a home in your new abode.

You will be fine.

awww u jx miss them do much cos u are used to them

Enyogbe:
so which hall are you staying?... do your parents too reside in Ibadan?

I stay in Tedder hall... My parents stay in Ekiti

nairalife2013:
This happen to siblings who are closely knitted. A family whose bond is to a point of one member feeling the other might get hurt or sick or unhappy when at a certain distance is bound to be subconsciously affected by the absence of one necessitated by society.
I suffered this when I was leaving home to start a distant sch life from the south to the north. Sometimes the agony became so overwhelming I found my self in tears. Most victims resort to drinking or smoking to assuage those moments as it becomes more desperate by the day. But these options could be the worst undoing for those who hope to lead a drug free adult life in the future as addiction is a universally known harmful practice hard to put an end to.
Read more novels, participate in sports and other social activities and, above all, dont let yur praying knees get lazy in supplication for God's divine intervention, as d matter is assumed to have eaten deep into u. Remember if u wallow in self pity and lovelorn, u are harming yur self and yur future by reducing yur inner strength in that direction. Avoid emotional or sentimental tunes and videos as these could be reminiscent in a way. Rather, take on the rock and roll, watch the hit and runs and the redhead guiter breakers and live yur life seemingly unannounced, like u were made in the streets. Inside and outside -Be cool. If u are the religious type just read yur holybook for inspiration as u may not garner such from secular inward behaviour.Rememeber u have something on yur hands to make yur people proud and a future to build with fabrics of the present that u must not let the past shatter. Goodluck.

Thanks man. .. This is really helpful...

EroticAngelina:
awww u jx miss them do much cos u are used to them

it's so overwhelming

jnrbayano:
You are homesick. Simple.

I reckon you are in your teen years and also this is easily your first serious foray outside home.

It is perfectly normal to feel this way now but will cease to be normal if you won't get over it. You will.

There's no remedial advice better than to remain in school and outlive it. Identify with your hostel people and try to form hobbies centred around your hostel. Create a home in your new abode.

You will be fine.

thanks a bunch

Fairgodwin:
Sorry to ask, how old are you please?

this isn't all about age

Hyinkar97:
it's so overwhelming

I understand. u'll get over it.

EroticAngelina:
I understand. u'll get over it.

thanks

Hyinkar97:
I stay in Tedder hall... My parents stay in Ekiti

The feeling is so normal bro.. Just make frnds and don't be idle all the time.. Also take time on weekends to visit family..
Ex-Zikite

Enyogbe:


The feeling is so normal bro.. Just make frnds and don't be idle all the time.. Also take time on weekends to visit family..
Ex-Zikite

I would have taken the family visiting part as a top priority but distance is the barrier... Came all the way from Ekiti

Op it is laziness masquerading as home sickness.

Get off that silly feeling and do your academic work. Chase your grade, time no dey oo!

adebayour26:
That shows you are too attached to your family members. Am not saying you should forget about them, but try to start being independent. You are already in d higher institution, you should av bcom an independent person.

Anytime u av d feelings, go visit ur friends, gist & be moderately social.

thanks man....