babyosisi:


Yes o
He is now the one advising me on marriage and how to keep a marriage

My dear,my blood dey hot now
One stupid ugly short engine beat my cousin black and blue in that Abuja accusing her of sleeping with a Yoruba man
All made up story
Destroyed her valuables
I am currently talking to my family to get the police and show this man some serious pepper

babyosisi:


Mcdokwe
Had this girl been your woman we all know how mercilessly you would have beaten her and bragged about it with people hailing you
Your own story and drama here of your violent ways reached many pages need I remind you
Ad the beaten woman started her own thread
A man that will beat up a young girl holding an infant is a scum in my books
Please back off I nu go
You are no person to put mouth in anything to do with couples and argument here on nairaland and you should know that truth

babyosisi:


Did you read mcdokwe's account here of how he beat his babymama black and blue,twice in one day?
So much so that people gathered and couldn't get the girl off his grip
Beat her and locked her up in a room with a baby
That is the same person giving advice

If you didn't read that thread you missed

mcdokwe:
the good thing is that "my woman" for all it's worth, is not as bad as I have seen you to be, otherwise, the only place to visit her would have been in a graveyard. Unfortunately people like you have your ways of getting into feeble mind and convince them that black is the new white. Hit her or not, she earned my respect and if she were to be an employee, I would gladly recommended her to the next employer. But for you ma, I don't know what to make of your whatdoicallit? I have a conviction that you suffer from something deep rooted, and until you let it out, you can't be helped. So the earlier you let out those things you suffer from, the better for you and humanity

mcdokwe:
lol, how deranged. That for now is a forlorn story, and don't bother, in good time, I will ensure she personally signs and delivers our wedding invitation to you, hopefully you won't slump. And as the good wife I am convinced she is going to be, she would properly advice women on how to build homes and maybe publish a book or two, unlike you, who is hell-bent on taking up a faceless social media to vent your frustrations breaking homes and relationships in the name of proffering advice.

Say the truth, would you have maintained the constant trend you do if all your posts could be tagged to an identifiable person other than the faceless or even nameless babyosisi?

Repent o

babyosisi:


Why are you running away from your truth
Did I make this up?
Wedding dey reign?
See this small boy
You beat a woman like a snake and beg her ,then propose marriage and want me to clap for you?
Oya congrats
You have done what Napoleon couldn't do

mcdokwe:
yes, I begged her and don't regret it. But if na u, believe me if I go do u plenty things curse your memory join.

Biko, get other things doing because I am done replying you.

mcdokwe:
lol, how deranged. That for now is a forlorn story, and don't bother, in good time, I will ensure she personally signs and delivers our wedding invitation to you, hopefully you won't slump. And as the good wife I am convinced she is going to be, she would properly advice women on how to build homes and maybe publish a book or two, unlike you, who is hell-bent on taking up a faceless social media to vent your frustrations breaking homes and relationships in the name of proffering advice.

Say the truth, would you have maintained the constant trend you do if all your posts could be tagged to an identifiable person other than the faceless or even nameless babyosisi?

Repent o

Wedon:


So you guys finally made up? Chai. . . So much pity I feel the poor lady.

That's why women should never have kids out of wedluck. I can bet my 2kobo that she would have never come back if not for the baby. Too too bad!

And how unrepentant you are!!!

She must be living in delusion if she thinks you are any different from certified abusers,

Smh!

Floodgater:
What's with all this he might get physical, so? Is it not better she knows now than years later like she is now discovering about his verbally abusive traits. For how long will she walk on egg shell not to bring out his fists if trully he can get physical as he surely will exhibit it. I think her fight back will only make him become physical with the abuse only if he is physically abusive, in which case it wont be Op's fault. I dont subscribe to letting people change you for bad, but if your continous tolerance of them can harm you, then find a way to protect yourself. It does not mean you changed unless you decide to carry your protective actions to every other person with a similarity or perceived similarity with the last one who harmed you. Before we rush to say dont change, the op is helplessly changing to a physically abusive one. Yet if you say keep quiet she might still change to someone with no emotions, neither feeling pain or joy because the fact is, it is getting to her and must be let out one way otherwise bottling up will be more disastrous. Those who efficiently keep silent are good at it and they dont let hurt get to them in the first place so that there's no need for letting out, also one's personality is a factor too. I used it alot in the past. The one that readily come to mind was with a roomy, i would watch her pour her insults, then when she was about to stop, i would say something that would trigger her and she would continue again. When people heard her voice, they would come to settle quarrel, and as she was explaining to them or rather painting me bad, i would be quiet and smiling inside. They would go only to come back and meet thesame scenario wondering if she was not really mad. I got my pound of flesh from watching her voice go from high to faint, making herself look mad in public plus she was too dramatic a sight to resist. At the end of the whole drama, she came to me and said, "you are strong" that was then. Op may not remember exactly the first time or things that lead to this but from what she said, the husband discovered a way to really hit her something he didnt know when courting. He may have done the first as a mistake or play or trial, only to continue like a small naughty boy after seeing the effect on Op. Oya nicequeen, find a way or something that will really hurt him back to drive home your point. Explore options till you get it but decide you will stop after your aim is achieved.

Wedon:


So you guys finally made up? Chai. . . So much pity I feel the poor lady.

That's why women should never have kids out of wedluck. I can bet my 2kobo that she would have never come back if not for the baby. Too too bad!

And how unrepentant you are!!!

She must be living in delusion if she thinks you are any different from certified abusers,

Smh!

babyosisi:


And you know in the Igbo culture a woman with a baby out if wedlock is an untouchable
If you see how many times I have tried to convince young men to no avail that there was nothing wrong with it
They will like a girl finish and once they hear she has a baby they pick race like those who don't have kids didn't do the same things they did.
I believe that could be the reason this poor girl is going to marry this batterer
Very sad indeed

Wedon:


Yes ooh, hypocrites of the highest order. Ask those same men how many girls have aborted for them and you will be shocked.

See the venom in her post. To think she went back to him and is even planning to marry him . . . She must be really desperate. People marry abusers out of error, this one is entering with her eyes wide open. I wonder what she hopes to achieve!!!

Too bad.

babyosisi:


There is this pretty 27 year old that was impregnated as a teenager by one nigerian boy whose parents sent here for college
Very beautiful girl and well mannered
Her sisters wey no fine reach her don marry finish
Men come o,but once they hear about the child,they rear race
The small mistake of her adolescence is her only crime

Wedon:


Imagine that!!!

And yet more girls and women are making the same mistake everyday.

Now this one is marrying an abuser just to find a way to answer 'mrs'. Just because she couldn't zip up or use protection.

We women never learn!

babyosisi:


My cousin own wey I dey talk
The most annoying part is that you need to see the man that is beating somebody
I don't even think be is up to 5 feet and very very very ugly
The day I saw him,I was in shock wondering what my beautiful cousin saw in this wicked looking man and lo and behold he was indeed mean spirited
I asked them biko how can a man that is reaching my chest area in height beat me up
Not once o
Not twice
Continuos beating for one thing or another and destroying her valuable belongings

Wedon:


So you mean she's even taller than him Why she no give am knock nah?

Abusive men irritate me to no end. I just can't stand them. Infact I will spit on them of I have the chance.

For someone who calls himself a man to raise his hands and beat a woman. Shame no catch am sef! Tufiakwa.

Please get your cuz to safety abeg, she is obviously under an influence. Get her to safety before story enter am!

Wedon:


Yes ooh, hypocrites of the highest order. Ask those same men how many girls have aborted for them and you will be shocked.

See the venom in her post. To think she went back to him and is even planning to marry him . . . She must be really desperate. People marry abusers out of error, this one is entering with her eyes wide open. I wonder what she hopes to achieve!!!

Too bad.

babyosisi:


It's obvious she is withholding the true story,I asked the same question
She may not be as innocent as she will want anyone to believe

babyosisi:



Short engine o joro njo n"ese okwu kwa
What a man lacked in looks,he didn't gain in character
Imagine being a witch and ridden with poverty too
The girl has no job sef
You see why I keep hammering on this housewife title
My husband is rich and can take care of me and a girl with a degree will sit at home and be answering madam
If you marry an abuser,you will suffer without end without a job
The girl packed her things to leave and he seized all her belongings including her phone
And is now begging her
Iwe di m na obi
He hasn't only disrespected her,he has disrespected and disregarded my family and he needs to be handled by the nigerian police force

LadyX:

Please give me the link to her thread. I'd like to read it. Thanks!

mcdokwe:
babyosisi, babyosisi, how many times did I call you? What do you benefit from destroying relationships homes?
Why do you completely write of completely salvageable situations if not making them worse?

If the man could laugh at her hitting him, that goes to show it wasn't as violent. Or is it that you are not happy she didn't cut out his manliness instead?

If she fires him verbally like you advice and he resorts to physical abuse, will she be able to match him? Would you be there to fight for her or simply advice her to pack and leave like you are will always do?

Biko daa nne, have a rethink o, unless broken homes in anyway adds something to you.

5minsmadness:
1. Insult him back. Use his exact words. Most people don't know how harmful their behavior is until it is thrown back at them.

Or

2. Next time he is verbally abusive, throw a hissy fit. Be dramatic about it. Break glass, tableware(but for the love of god, not the TV!) something that will shock the living daylights out of him. Then break down and cry and ask why he keeps insulting you. If this doesn't work then am sorry but your husband is possessed.


Do not ignore. Ignoring, although easier to do, doesn't work, at least not on men.

Can you remember one heediot's thread where he was like, "I hit her, I regret it, She deserved it? Na me be the 'she'.

You see that beautiful woman, babyosisi, I don't know her from Adam neither did I run into her back in my days at Eden, God really imbued her with rare insight to see beyond the surface.

And those who think I need deliverance,I really do. Why don't I,when I allowed that sickled demented fellow into my beautiful life.

Ask him, he'ld tell you that a hundred cloned persons that are his exact lookalike no fit reach my feet!

That guy has got talent. He writes well, but Mba! No! He no go gree use am well. Na to dey flood NL with rubbish, dey look for who im go invite im pity party.

Ehen! Back to the matter on ground, I used to physically abuse you ehn? Anu! Do I have anything to tell you? Never! What do you even expect me to do with an expired entity? Bullshit am big time!
So you didn't tell the world that you took a two months plus baby to a neighbour's house about nine poles away and hurried to the market to buy milk and baby carrier because you didn't want her to suckle my 'silly' bosom. Okwa ya?

Why didn't you tell the world you were sexually harassing my friend in my presence when you thought I was deep asleep and it happened that she slept over?
Why didn't you? Why?

So you told a girl I was an ex while we were together because you were trying to chat her up on whatsapp?
My friends hate you to the end of the world! Yes! They couldn't imagine their friend (me of course) doomed for life all in the name of marriage nzuzu. I was too blind in foolish love to see what they were seeing.

And you thought you had totally gotten me especially with my having a child for you? Oh boy you lied big time!

Everyone calls me wicked! That I left this fellow because he is moneyless! That's their damning business! Do I owe them an explanation? Never! All those times I was hungry while heavily pregnant because of misplaced and ill-timed love, I was just being a fool,I was!

You know one thing about this type of fellows? They have a sweet deceptive tongue! So what do I do to protect myself from them? I use my brain, make more than enough money and learn to act like a mermaid.

Chai! I felt like poo poo... This guy would tell me to my face, "thanks, you taught me to explore sex". He would even call me an irresponsible girl whose parents abandoned because of her irresponsibility!

So you could call a girl you once dated to come sleep over and you had the effrontery to tell me?

He would tell me how I was vulnerable, and how he was the only person who could love me. You don love me finish na? I believed him. I believed I was responsible for all the problems we had.

Why would you talk to me anyhow in the presence of others in the name of being 'frank'?

I became a nervous wreck. Jesus! I was totally losing my self worth. A terrible part of me I never knew was there surfaced.

And to even think that this dude told me to write down everything about him I would love to have changed... In my mind I was like, "why would I when I would just waste my time, merely baring my mind for him to see, just as he had been using everything I call secret against me."

So as you can see, I no longer have any secret. I am as open as a newspaper, so you just seat tight, read and yes, enjoy, if there is anything enjoyable!

Then he insulted my father to his face! Chai! That was the last straw!

FINAL WARNING: If you send any other bastard sms to me again, Amadioha go reshuffle your fingers!

Life's more fulfilling and more promising without you! Oshi!

babyosisi:


So miraijj after all this you forgave and are going ahead to marry mcdokwe
In my heaviest Igbo accent buttu why?
Eh
Nne buttu why?

babyosisi:


So miraijj after all this you forgave and are going ahead to marry mcdokwe
In my heaviest Igbo accent buttu why?
Eh
Nne buttu why?

Wedon:


https://www.nairaland.com/2198308/he-hit-me-he-regrets

Ngokafor:





....Mr man,a woman batterer like you is not in any moral position to advice anyone on relationship issues..nor are you in any position to reprimand those who do either.


...so kindly zip it and learn from matured folks on this section how to be patient in the face of provocation.

Wendy80:
I'm beginning to understand why pple create a new moniker to share their problem. Imagine insulting someone with the problem he shared on NL. Hmmm na wa