Being intelligent is definitely a quality to be proud of but it’s only useful in dating when applied correctly

Women, I feel, do the same thing.

Men don’t really like smart women, let me explain. No man goes out to a bar, to a nightclub, to a strip club for that matter to meet an intelligent woman. He isn’t searching for laundry list of degrees or accolades. If a man starts flirting with you in line at Starbucks, it isn’t because you look “intelligent”.

In dating it’s more important that you’re friendly, kind, funny, attentive and genuine .
Being intelligent when it comes to men isn’t the about your comprehensive knowledge of nuclear physics or finance; it’s about a complete understanding of one subject, him. If you’re smart about men, you’ll realize that there are better ways to display your intelligence than what I see some doing in the dating world today.



If you’re an intelligent woman and you have the documents to prove it, good for you but being smart about men isn’t the same as being book smart.

The mistake some “smart” women make is letting their book smarts get in the way of their social intelligence.

Intelligence can never take the place of charm. What every smart person should know is being charismatic is just as important as being intelligent. So I find that some intelligent women make the following mistakes when it comes to attracting and interacting with men.

1.) Thinking you shouldn't be beautiful.
The stigma in western culture is that beauty and brains don’t go together. Just because a lot of so-called beautiful women act dumb in pop culture doesn't mean being smart means being ugly. Caring about what you look like isn't the ultimate betrayal of feminism or an insult to female intelligence.

Feeling beautiful is an essential part of being a woman.



Any desire to want to inspire and appreciate beauty should be embraced not judged or demeaned. Intelligent women can sometimes minimize the importance of beauty but at the end of the day do you want a man who isn't attracted to all of you?

Don’t make the mistake of making your looks trivial or secondary. Be the complete package.

2.)Thinking you have to prove your point.
A big mistake so-called “intelligent” women make is constantly feeling the need to prove their point. Successful flirting is largely based on how you make a man feel. If you’re hammering your point home and drilling it into your date that you’re right and he’s wrong instead of seeming smart you’ll seem mean.

If your date makes a statement that you disagree with or you know for a fact isn't true don’t make it a big deal. You’re smart enough to know that you don’t need to see him again if he isn't a fit. When you are asked to share your opinion the abridged version, not the dissertation you wrote on the subject, keep in mind being right doesn't make you smarter. You may come across as smart but you won’t come across as fun.

Don’t make the mistake of getting into heated debates or having to be right with a man you don’t know that well. He probably isn't worth the energy and you’ll come across like the bully.

3.)Thinking your resume matters.
I didn't go to college. When I know something I don’t attribute it to the political science class I had freshman year or the environmental studies course I took in Italy while studying abroad. Women who are constantly reminding you, (or whoever will listen) of what degrees they have from what university don’t impress men.

Here’s a newsflash: men are easily impressed.

They’re yet to figure out that women are allowed into college. Men are more impressed by your ability to walk and chew gum at the same time. A man is impressed that you’re talking to him. What you do, who you know, and where you graduated from only impress men who are looking to use your credentials to make themselves seem important.

Leading with credentials are a quick way to come across as boring or self-important.

Don’t make the mistake of using your resume as an ego booster.

4.) Thinking more is less.
It’s a natural assumption that women talk alot. Smart women seem to talk exponentially more than that. When you meet a man you want him to want to get to know more about you. This is not interview time. If a topic arises that you know a lot about don’t share everything you know.

Give a quick preview, a sound bite, a hint of what you know.

If this man wants to know more, he’ll have to take you on a date or call you on the phone. He’ll have to know more about you before you go spilling the intellectual goods. Listening is far more attractive than talking and the most intelligent women know this.

Don’t make the mistake of being long winded. Saying less can lead to dating more.

5.) Thinking that smarter means better.
If you want to make a woman who is a six look like an eleven talk about her in front of a man.

Putting another woman down who seems less intelligent than you really only makes you look like the dumb one. It’s negative, it’s un-ladylike, it’s pretentious and it’s judgmental.

It doesn't matter if you come across a woman who doesn't have two brain cells to rub together, talking about it makes you seem intimidated by her.

Praise other women. Find something good to say even when the man is bating you to say something catty. Don’t play, that game.

Don’t make the mistake of judging other women based on what you think you know. – You’re too smart for that.

I hope this was helpful
Source:http://www.thedatingtruth.com/2011/03/mistakes-smart-women-make/
lala247
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dumb? ok


ladies dumb since 1200bc(no offence)

agarawu23:
dumb? ok


ladies dumb since 1200bc(no offence)

ohhhh i just feel some "smart" women are guilty of sm points stated above

Very very helpful.
Especially the fifth point... We NL ladies have a long way to go.

whoa! nice one op i really love ur write up
my major concern is on the last point. While men don't have that problem, we ladies are very guilty of that! I don't understand why some ladies derive pleasure in backstabbing and acting all sweet infront of each other it doesn't make sense now

Nice .

And the bad articles b hittin FP smh

jjk24:
And the bad articles b hittin FP smh

naso we see am ooo

Nice write. That's what makes the difference between a smart lady and a wise lady.

NOT ALL SMART WOMEN ARE WISE WOMEN.

eyeon:
NOT ALL SMART WOMEN ARE WISE WOMEN.

Really educative....learnt 7 things from this

octopusfreaky:

Don't you believe it?

It's deep. Nice one there