Discussing with my fiancee after I observed some stubbornness on her part, I asked her if she would have accepted to date me if not that I came and proposed for marriage direct? And her response;

1) Please am not interested dating, infact I never would have dated u!

2) If u know u are not ready for this marriage you better let me know so I can.............

To be sincere I doubt her love for me, I feel like cancelling the trad which is so shot now!

Do u think I should go on with d plans of marring her?

Are u telling us u guys didnt dated before you proposed to her?

Didn't really date or do I say I went direct from the first day and made her know I wanted marriage and I was so serious.

You may need to slow down.

She might also be tired of your foot-dragging attitude, which she may be afraid is setting in.

She may also have plan b- Someone who is also promising her what you are promising.

Discuss this with her and tell her exactly what you have posted here. Of course, I don't expect her to give you a honest answer, but I am certain her body language will give you answers. This is also an opportunity to discuss individual and collective fears.

Marriage matter matter serious o.
All the best.

We met early this year and being a family I have known for I had no doubt about character
Just surprised d kinda attitude manifesting after I have gone to see the family.

deltalife:
Didn't really date or do I say I went direct from the first day and made her know I wanted marriage and I was so serious.

may i ask:" why you did that?" i dont understand why you couldnt wait to discover who she was, and what she was about, before making such a move? now you are sorry for yourself because she is solely focussing on what you offered and brought to the table (in order to entice her). marriage is the only thing that she had in mind from the get go, and you fully well knew it.... so what you wrote made no damn sense!

Ndo

MRBrownJ:


may i ask:" why you did that?" i dont understand why you couldnt wait to discover who she was, and what she was about, before making such a move? now you are sorry for yourself because she is solely focussing on what you offered and brought to the table (in order to entice her). marriage is the only thing that she had in mind from the get go, and you fully well knew it.... so what you wrote made no damn sense!

Tnx

sorry to say o
but na marriage she dey find

I no fit predict waiting go happen after marriage

Bro, why the haste?

Letting the chip out of every bag isn't gonna earn you any respect from the ladies.

You better put your gear on park or reverse, else face the consequences.

Bro pause the traditional tins o. Resolve this first. Don't commit to someone who is giving you unnecessary ultimatum.

Take time to know her person. You may think she has good character and all but that is the cosmetic version you are seeing. You need to see her real person before you decide to marry her.

After knowing her person, If she starts her wahala and you know you can handle it properly without violence and can live with her excesses, please go ahead and marry her.

2017 op go open thread. i married a stranger and it is hell

its really a. worrisome experience. I don't pray or wish any of youthis experience. Highlydeverstating. You do the utmost trying to please a lady and yet gain nothing for it, aweful!