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Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by Tallesty1(m): 7:10pm On May 05, 2015 |
Nneka123:Help me tell am. @poster. I think you need to be massaged thoroughly by Great Khali |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by 1one: 7:13pm On May 05, 2015 |
Tallesty1: LOOL!!! Broken bones cometh |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by vizkiz: 7:16pm On May 05, 2015 |
Nneka123: No Maybe when we fall inlove, we will practice both ways |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by MRBrownJ: 7:18pm On May 05, 2015 |
1one: yes you are right, but we do love/like each and every of these things "differently". would you say that the love for your pet is the same as the love for your parents? would you love your car as much as you love your wife? LOVE and RESPECT although the same have a different level of intensity, depending on whom it is for. whether it is your parents, your partner or your children, you will/should ultimately love them 10X more than your pet/car or any of these flimsy stuff you have purchased (which you can buy another whenever you feel like it). So you're suggesting that the love you have for something you bought shouldn't be compared to the love you have for something "for free"? The love is coming from the same heart isn't it? so why shouldn't it be compared yes, family/marital bond is free and should never be compared to the bond you create after purchasing an object/pet. sadly you are mistaking "like" with LOVE. you like your car and how it looks, you dont love it just like you love your family. just because the word "love" has been misused here shouldnt be a reason to believe that what you feel for your family is equal to how you feel for your dog/car or best food. |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by Nobody: 7:21pm On May 05, 2015 |
1one: What is respect? |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by ronald4lif(m): 7:22pm On May 05, 2015 |
Unless it's proven that when a lady loves someone then they eventually respect them that's when when I'll consider love over respect. But I think this is debatable. However, if that's not the case I'll prefer respect over love. Love is manipulative. I can easily spot a person who respect me than the one who loves me. Love is conditional and can change as one's life situations changes but I think a person who respect you will always do so regardless of the circumstance. Once there's some attraction I can live happily without love in my marriage. When there's respect we can make good decisions, understands each other, breeds and have a great deal of companionship so love isn't necessary. |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by 1one: 7:24pm On May 05, 2015 |
missclasssy: Answering a question with a question is a discussion killer |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by MRBrownJ: 7:26pm On May 05, 2015 |
ronald4lif: bro, are you saying that you would knowingly date/marry someone who loves you but does not respect you (or vice versa)? |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by 1one: 7:26pm On May 05, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: Well said. |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by Strongfaze(m): 7:28pm On May 05, 2015 |
Guys its better to be feared than to be loved by a lady. Be her God is all i'm saying. Gbam. 1 Like |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by MRBrownJ: 7:32pm On May 05, 2015 |
Strongfaze: but if you fear someone, you dont open up to them (therefore you will never discover her), you certainly dont respect them and, after a while, that person will despise you rather than care for you. who would want to be in such union, unless they were in this evil r/ship just for social or family pressure/pleasing? |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by ronald4lif(m): 7:37pm On May 05, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: No, that's not actually my insinuation. I will not knowingly date/marry anyone who's bereft of either of both. The question however is if one is to choose one above the other or one and completely negate the other. I will be fine with just that attraction and respect than love. Love is deceptive and one can't tell when someone truly loves them until they find themselves in the most harsh and unfavourable conditions of life. A condition that is adversely to what it was before they met each other. When she respects me, we can have good companionship, rapport, breeds and still enjoy the benefits of love couple. But when respect is lacking, the home will be in disarray. |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by 1one: 7:43pm On May 05, 2015 |
ronald4lif: Good word....People think that once a woman loves you, it automatically translates into her loving you- this is so far from the truth. We love for different self-centred reasons(many times), but respecting someone is hardly ever self centred or selfish. I will not deny and say love is not important to me, but if it came down to choosing...I will go with respect a million times over not because I'm narcissistic or because I want my wife to be my subservient slave- never, it's just that as a man( and I think I speak for most men)...There's just a way that respecting us makes us feel, that loving us will not even come close to. But if we can have the two- Ohh this is bliss!. |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by 1one: 7:48pm On May 05, 2015 |
Strongfaze: Now you've thrown in another element- fear.Fear is quite different from respect on many levels. Fear is toxic, it's limiting, it's patronising and it has a whole lot of other dark connotations. But if by fear you mean "to revere" then by that implication, we are talking about the same thing- respect |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by MRBrownJ: 7:56pm On May 05, 2015 |
ronald4lif: yeah, the question is still :" would you be with someone who loves you but does not respect you, or vice versa?" and whatever your answer may be, what would be the point of being with such person? as much as LOVE is not present at 1st when you meet someone, there is an expectation that it will grow. if such expectation is not present then it is not a r/ship but just a bootay call/FWB etc (to each their own). as for RESPECT, a man can only give respect to a woman when she gives him reasons to respect her (and vice versa). therefore respect will depend on your own actions and should come naturally from your partner. if it doesnt then look into yourself or RUN from that person. if any of these two above examples are not present then there is absolutely no reason to date/marry anyone and you might as well be single. |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by Nobody: 8:13pm On May 05, 2015 |
missclasssy:so logically,what's the difference between yours and nneka's point? |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by ronald4lif(m): 8:55pm On May 05, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: I will not be with someone who loves me but disrespect me, and vice versa. However, like I said earlier if I'm to forgo one for the other I'll go for the one who respect me than love me. And I think this is what the thread is all about. That, if one is to put markers, which would be rated above the other or the most relevant. Let's establish some possible facts between love and respect; there are a hundred and one reasons why people/partner choose to love who they love but in the case of respect there's mostly one (or very few) reason why a partner/someone needs to respect their lover and this is 'respect'. You give respect and you earn it. Love has many complications and set boundaries. There are a lot expectations when someone is in love with you. For some you've to always be caring, for some one have to be pleasing of their sexual desires, for others you have to meet their financial obligations. And for some is for trivial reasons which may include they expect one who will clean their homes, serve them meal and wash dishes whilst they cross legs and watch football (you can call it advance housemaid). Whereas respect isn't as complicated as love and is easily earned when you give it. I think when one considers the embroiling and complicated nature of love, which can be deceptive, respect should be an easy pick. Again, this is only in a situation where one must abjure one for the other. |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by ireneony(f): 9:15pm On May 05, 2015 |
1one:see ur weed face |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by Deejavuu(f): 9:42pm On May 05, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: @emboldened very true! Sums everything up |
Re: To Be Respected Or To Be Loved(Guys) by 1one: 9:46pm On May 05, 2015 |
ireneony:. You really need to tone down on your stupidiity, coming on a thread and totally ignoring the purpose of the thread but instead going on to talk trash says a whole lot about how much of an idiiot you are. It's acceptable to be stupiid every once in a while, but turning it into a habit would ultimately affect your grades in school. If you have nothing tangible or thought provoking to add to the thread, it would do you good to take your senseless self unto another thread. If boredom has made you make this useless comment, then please get busy, get busy reading self-help books that can improve your IQ. This is 2015 - It's not longer popular to be foolis:h Be well. 1 Like |
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