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All of the above..........

To me the relationship will be so boring having the same life style...

We've got to have things in common nd the attraction to back it up..

The attraction is what matters most, having a lot in common can be bonus..

There is this statement that some people make that I really like and its
~ Marry your best friend.
Although not everyone would go along with this, but one can not rule off the advantages of trailing along this line.

Unlike someone who you just met, and fell in love with through mere attraction, a best friend is someone with which you already share a lot of things in common with.
You have the same highs and you have the same lows.
You understand each others weakness and you can easily avoid them.

Bringing this to your question, like I elaborated on through the "marry your best friend example", you would agree with me that attraction isn't enough to sustain a relationship.
It is essential that the couples share a thing or two in common.
It helps in better understanding and co-existence.
It promotes a stronger bond of friendship and togetherness.

It's always nice when you are with someone whom you can talk with about something that interests you.
You like this song and he likes it to. You love this sport and he loves it to. You loves going to this place and he loves going there too. You love watching this tv show and he loves it too.
All this would lead to a happier union and would be little need for compromise.

The attraction is not enough

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Orijin101:
I want us to debate about this guys.

Is it necessary for couples to have alot in common(e.g lifestyle, political views, religion beliefs etc) or only the attraction between them is enough for their relationships to be enjoyed ?

your opinions are highly welcome

am yet to marry, when I marry I will debate abt dt.

oya oppossers and proposers go on

Attraction won't help wen one spouse likes to watch Ellen degeneres show on dstv and d other one likes to watch E! Channel..


That's why am always particular abt askn d girls I date on their interests and likes... In all aspects of life

I dnt lik or watch soccer, buh he does n so addicted, then 'wahala dey o!'

One of the vital ways I communicate is through music. If he doesn't have my taste of music, how would we communicate? I am not saying we should have a lot in common but same kinda hobbies make the relationship bond better. For ladies, I would say u better learn to love what ur guy loves doing. Men bond by activities they share with ther spouse while women bond by talking to a man who will lend his ears out. Therefore it does have impact in some way to share commons but of course u cannot be with a Man U r not attracted to either.

I feel personally that when you have a lot in common like the ones you listed above it helps out in the relationship subsequently.. It is the biggest advantage to have in a relationship.. If you basically only attracted, mehn... No cum ask me 4 advice o, cos na OYO u go dey

Yup, we should Lots of thinz in common.....
What if I want to watch Madrid vs Juve and she's whining about the Last episode of Vampire diaries?? That's gonna be Disastrous cos I'm not leaving the TV

Orijin101:
@missclasssy, don't you think it will be extremely boring to be in relationship with someone who has the same interest with you.

1 Things you do will never surprises him anymore
2 You will have less privilege of learning new things from him
3 Your outcome sef (i.e children) won't be introduced to different things except what you and your partners know.

The fact that you have similar interests doesn't mean it's everything you share in common.

Of course adventure is needed for an exciting and interesting relationship, which includes learning new things from your spouse, getting exposed to a couple of stuff you never knew about and the likes but the fact that you share a thing or two with your partner doesn't mean you can't learn new stuff from each other.

I was once in a relationship with someone that could play the piano. Due to the reason that I could also play the piano, we bonded better and our friendship was sealed with a stronger lock. We also had ears for the same kind of music.
But all this didn't mean our relationship wasn't adventurous or exciting, no, it was really exciting.
I learned new stuff from him and became exposed to a couple of things, and all this helped in spicing up our relationship.

Nice contributions @Missclasssy and @TheSonofMark

Attraction would never sustain a relationship and that's not so hard to figure out. I wonder why so many people feel they can hinge the success of their relationship on attraction.

Most times attraction is just a mere facade and as humans we tend to change easily. Certain things that attracted us before don't seem have the same effect in the long run.

This is one of the major reasons most relationships hit the rocks. I believe strongly in the "My best friend" analogy classy gave. As a matter of fact I think one should consider that strongly.

When partners have things in common it bridges communication and helps them express themselves easily. You find that you both have something interesting to discuss or argue about. Having things in common doesn't necessarily mean you would always agree.

For example, you and your partner could be great lovers of football but yet analyse the match differently which brings so much excitement into the relationship. You find that you could argue on a singular topic for hours, automatically making the issue of less communication insignificant in that relationship.

While attraction isn't totally out of place, it shouldn't form our decision in going into a relationship with someone. Else you find yourself in a situation where both of you have very little to discuss about.

Agarawu23 weldone o.

i really dont think attraction is enough, if there are many differences btw u guys, there tends to be disharmony. (Sometimes anyways)

Attraction is not enough since you won't be spending the rest of your relationship on top of each other. Having things in common helps, outside the bedroom. You wanna have fun with the person in your life, in & outside the sheets hence you need a healthy combination of the two.

While attraction is not enough its a key element. Common interests does not necessarily mean people are compatible for the long haul i mean we can have different interests and still be very and truly compatible.

I fink communication is a key factor here.