and this is so true

IGBO HUSBAND
Plus
1. He is very loyal
2. He maintains monogamy
3. Could be very yielding/gullible
4. Gives you access to all his assets
5. Follows your advice and directions to the letter
6. Spends money on you for comfort, good looks and happiness
7. Takes care of your kids
Minus
1. Could be very unromantic-Romance is limited to spending money, spending money and spending money
2. May be semi-literate or illiterate.
3. May marry you early and deny you of access to life/youth.
4. More likely to be crude and unrefined
5. Always has a large family to cater to and take care of plus apprentices etc
6. May not be presentable
7. May be horrible in bed and/or sexually illiterate/unwilling to explore.
8. Could be gullible/easy to deceive
YORUBA HUSBAND
Plus
1. Could be very romantic.
2. Could be caring
3. Tries to maintain leadership in the home.
4. Disciplines kids well
5. More white-collar career inclined
6. Literacy level is usually high
Minus
1. More likely to philander
2. More likely to eventually marry another wife
3. More likely to marry you for your money/connections.
4. Could be highly assertive.
5. Most times you would take care of yourself after a while.
6. You may eventually separate with nothing to show for it.
7. Family members may be given priority.
EDO HUSBAND
Plus
1. Believes in marriage
2. Takes care of you and your needs.
Minus
1. May end up not taking full care of the kids
2. Could be very harsh
3. Does not take any nonsense
4. You may end up taking care of him
5. You can’t cheat on him.


URHOBO MAN
Plus
1. Believes in marriage
2. Takes care of you and your needs.
Minus
1. You may end up taking care of him
2. You cant cheat on him.

EFIK MAN
Plus
1. Will effectively take care of the culinary activities in your absence.
2. Is usually very religious
3. Hardworking
4. Good in bed
5. Quite organised and clean.
Minus
1. Be prepared to have 12 kids
2. Your cooking may not be good enough
3. He will either be very ugly or very handsome. no line between. He will also either be very short or very tall. Same with your kids
4. Prepare to have a husband like 25 years older than you in his fifties.

HAUSA MAN
Plus
1. Hardly believes in premarital sex.
2. Very religious
3. Takes care of you
Minus
1. You may be wife number 4
2. You may be wife number 4 at 14
3. You have absolutely no say in anything, anywhere and anytime.
4. If he passes away, you may be transferred to another family.


Different kinds of Nigerian wives

URHOBO WIFE
Plus
1 always loyal/faithfully( cheating is outright abomination)
2 very hardworking and self reliant
3 very good cook(banga soup,owo,peppersoup ,sea food specials
4 can persevere even in poverty conditions
5 accommodating if a second wife shows up
6 what u see is what u get kind of attitude
7 would lay down their life for their children
MINUS
1 argumentative
2 stubborn
3 alcholic tendencies
4 some level of gra- gra
5 very very very vocal

YORUBA WIFE
Plus
1. Very respectful to husband
2. Very respectful to in-laws
3. Most times educated
4. Yielding and submissive
5. Likes sex.
Minus
1. Would most likely have had one kid for another man before you and after you.
2. Will most likely cheat at 65% with one Uncle or Oga at office.
3. Possibly give you another man's kid in between your kids
4. Tells her mother or sisters or friends everything.
5. May jazz you up.
6. Will fill you with pepper, palm oil, assorted and amala.
7. Probably will marry another man even if you split at 60 years of age.
8. If she makes more money than you, or you make less her, the uncles will finally start to drop her off in front of the house with a peck.

IGBO WIFE
Plus
1. Loyal to her husband
2. Gives kids good nourishing food with vegetables and many spices.
3. Is very clean.
4. Is ready to fight anybody alongside her husband and break their head or even fight while the husband watches.
5. Even if her husband leaves her at 30, she has only a 3% chance of remarrying after kids.
Minus
1. Very disrespectful to everyone including you.
2. After breaking the neighbours' head will one day break yours.
3. Only regards you as a man if you have money.
4. Views love as spending power.
5. May not really love you but will marry you because you are ready and her real lover isn't.
6. Will spend every dime of yours without touching hers
7. Does not tolerate your inlaws and disrespects them.
8. May stop shagging you after 35.
9. If she makes more money than you, or you make less her, she will become VERY insubmissive and her family will finally remember what a useless in-law you are.
10. When there is a fight, her brothers will come and join to break your head.

EDO WIFE
Plus
1. Cannot cheat on you
2. Can also cook good food.
3. Looks after kids and you.
4. Very respectful
5. Most times well endowed.
6. Very thrifty
7. Always has one brother or sister in Europe to bail you out in hard times.
8. Does not leave you even if you are semi-dead, quarter dead or dead.
9. If she makes more money than you, or you make less her, she remains loyal but after building 10 houses you have no idea about.
Minus
1. May have signed your death day the day you were married.
2. You have a 98.75% chance of dying before her.
3. Eventually you die and she becomes the landlady.
4. Or she may have built her own house while you guys were still staying in a room and parlour without you knowing.
5. May have done runs before you got married.

HAUSA WIFE
Plus
1. Everything good.
Minus
1. If you are not a muslim, no chance.
2. You may eventually have to show her were the promised land is.
3. Even when you do, it must be in the dark.
EFIK WIFE
Plus
1. She will load you with so much good food that every other thing is poison
2. She will also f, your brains out.
3. Also loyal and respectful but will also break your head if you misbehave.
4. Very clean.
Minus
1. She will f, your brains out finally.
2. She will either be very slim, have an extremely large arse or be very short.
3. You will share shaving stick as she may have facial and chest hair.
4. Even if you wanna leave her, the f**king and feeding will keep you coming back for more.

URHOBO WIFE
Plus
1. If you like to drink, you'll never be short of a partner.
2. She does anything to take care of her kids.
3. She's used to her working while you get high at home.
4. Loyal and respectful.
5. Cannot cheat on you
6. Can also cook good food.
7. Tolerates in-laws
Minus
1. She'll short your booze ration.
2. She respects you with serious warning.
3. Very sharp and wise to take action.

initiate:

URHOBO WIFE

Minus
1. She'll short your booze ration.
2. She respects you with serious warning.
3. Very sharp and wise to take action.

And how da heck is this a "minus"?

initiate:

im a yoruba guy and i love ibo girls.

they are sweet, interesting to be with and they are sincere,

our girls are so fake, and they gossip too much. they are never what they initially appear to be.

ibo girls will show you upfront what they are all about and you can take it or leave it. but when you take it thet are with you tru thick and thin

yoruba girls are just lucky because family always insist on marrying them.

Look at this retard You think spitting fire against your own women would make "them" come flocking into your arms?

Yoruba guy my azz

I can understand the need for symbiosis in the Yoruba man/ Igbo woman relationship because Igbo man is busy marrying only Igbo women. Since there are more women than men in Igboland, the left over is naturally snatched up by Yoruba folks or whoever is interested. 

You can sense that I am not a blind supporter of inter-tribal marriages, because most people go in "uninformed" about what will inevitably happen. If you must do it, just beware, cos it could very well lead to your death. I lost a distant auntie this way to some "edoid" tribe. She died very young (at 32) from some non-descript sickness. The diagnosis kept changing until she gave up the ghost.

Intertribal marriages are often "exotic" and "sensational" at the beginning stages, but, by the time anyone learns the truth, it would be too late.

Let me throw in a little anecdote to illustrate my point. A Yoruba friend of mine whose father married 5 women told me how his dad did it, 'cos I was frankly baffled. Meanwhile his dad is a very educated man with a P.HD in science and a law degree

The father never argued with any of his wives. The day he decided to add a second wife, he simply went and impregnated another lady. When the wife found out, he simply said,"well, what can I do?". He rented a flat for her and she became his second wife. And so on and so on. . . until his libido reduced naturally due to age and he stopped at the 5th wife.

The other thing any Igbo lady marrying a Yoruba man should be prepared for is juju. The man may be a good man, but he still has his relations. And if you escaped his relation's juju, you will not likely escape his other wives (or baby mamas) juju. So, be prepared for that. And they don't understand that you were born in America or London and therefore don't understand juju. Well, tough luck with that!

So, have these points in mind as you enjoy "love and romance". Just know where to draw the line. But if you decide to cross that line, be well prepared.  I hope this helps someone make an informed decision.
A word is enough for the wise.

Onlytruth:

I can understand the need for symbiosis in the Yoruba man/ Igbo woman relationship because the Igbo man is busy marrying only Igbo women. Since there are more women than men in Igboland, the left over is naturally snatched up by Yoruba folks or whoever is interested. 

You can sense that I am not a blind supporter of inter-tribal marriages, because most people go in "uninformed" about what would inevitably happen. If you must do it, just beware, cos it could very well lead to your death. I lost a distant auntie this way to some "edoid" tribe. She died very young (at 32) from some non-descript sickness. The diagnosis kept changing until she gave up the ghost.

Intertribal marriages are often "exotic" and "sensational" at the beginning stages, but, by the time anyone learns the truth, it would be too late.

Let me throw in a little anecdote to illustrate my point. A Yoruba friend of mine whose father married 5 women told me how his dad did it, 'cos I was frankly baffled. Meanwhile his dad is a very educated man with a P.HD in science and a law degree

The father never argued with any of his wives. The day he decided to add a second wife, he simply went and impregnated another lady. When the wife found out, he simply said,"well, what can I do?". He rented a flat for her and she became his second wife. And so on and so on. . . until his libido reduced naturally due to age and he stopped at the 5th wife.

The other thing any Igbo lady marrying a Yoruba man should be prepared for is juju. The man may be a good man, but he still has his relations. And if you escaped his relation's juju, you will not likely escape his other wives (or baby mamas) juju. So, be prepared for that. And they don't understand that you were born in America or London and therefore don't understand juju. Well, tough luck with that!

So, have these points in mind as you enjoy "love and romance". Just know where to draw the line. But if you decide to cross that line, be well prepared.  I hope this helps someone make an informed decision.
A word is enough for the wise.

Yea, I get what you're saying and I fully support the "be careful" warning.
My mom that has never been tribal before surprised me a few days ago. She advised me not to bring a non-yoruba man home [not that I intend to anywaz], esp Igbo men because of their hate for the Yoruba people. She said that nothing can separate an Igbo man from his mother, that even if the man loves his wife, the mother would control the marriage. At the end, the woman suffers the most.

In any inter-tribal marriage, the woman carries the burnt the most. The man has authority to protect his wife in their marriage [ell some men], and can let his family know that she's his closest kin.

My own lil advice, love aint even up to 10% of a marriage. If you can avoid it, plz avoid inter-tribal marriage. 

oh wow! what has tribe gotta do with true love, it happens when it happens and it doesnt matter if it is igbo, yoruba, itsekiri, hausa or whatever. What i noticed is that families that make a big deal out of tribe or race are those that have minimal exposure to how things work, they are closed minded even when they have the best of education. Education is not synonymous with exposure and open mindedness, close minded people and familes are never happy or satisfied with their situations, they always b i t c h

darkman200:

oh wow! what has tribe gotta do with true love, it happens when it happens and it doesnt matter if it is igbo, yoruba, itsekiri, hausa or whatever. What i noticed is that families that make a big deal out of tribe or race are those that have minimal exposure to how things work, they are closed minded even when they have the best of education. Education is not synonymous with exposure and open mindedness, close minded people and familes are never happy or satisfied with their situations, they always b i t c h

With Nigerians, tribe matters if you have not noticed.

Love bla bla, like seriously, love wont help you when the family is giving your marriage a hard time. what is love? carry that one go market jo.

The women feel the fire wayyyy more than the men. So I dont blame you men for thinking "it's not a big deal".

It's not only abt being close-minded, and close mindedness to what? explain. . . .

Ileke-IdI:

Yea, I get what you're saying and I fully support the "be careful" warning.
My mom that has never been tribal before surprised me a few days ago. She advised me not to bring a non-yoruba man home [not that I intend to anywaz], esp Igbo men because of their hate for the Yoruba people. She said that nothing can separate an Igbo man from his mother, that even if the man loves his wife, the mother would control the marriage. At the end, the woman suffers the most.

In any inter-tribal marriage, the woman carries the burnt the most. The man has authority to protect his wife in their marriage [ell some men], and can let his family know that she's his closest kin.

My own lil advice, love aint even up to 10% of a marriage. If you can avoid it, plz avoid inter-tribal marriage. 

Bottom line.

And I agree that women bear more of the brunt of an inter-tribal marriage. Love ain't all in marriage. There is so much more involved!

Assuming your guy is otherwise a good man, how do you cope with ending up in an unplanned polygamous home?

How do you defend against voodoo from your husband's relations and women?

Let me throw in a little anecdote to illustrate my point. A Yoruba friend of mine whose father married 5 women told me how his dad did it, 'cos I was frankly baffled.  Meanwhile his dad is a very educated man with a P.HD in science and a law degree

The father never argued with any of his wives. The day he decided to add a second wife, he simply went and impregnated another lady. When the wife found out, he simply said,"well, what can I do?". He rented a flat for her and she became his second wife. And so on and so on. . . until his libido reduced naturally due to age and he stopped at the 5th wife.

well, its true once a yoruba man makes up his mind to marry additional wives, its practically impossible to stop him,

Christian or no Christian, educated or non-educated: once they get that way, o pari (e don finish) and if the wife makes too much noise, she's either out or on her own, since she might find it difficult getting support.

though many nigerian women dont mind being additional wives and even see it as normal. Especially if the man is rich but even if he isnt. Its a cultural thing.

Ileke-IdI:

With Nigerians, tribe matters if you have not noticed.

Love bla bla, like seriously, love wont help you when the family is giving your marriage a hard time. what is love? carry that one go market jo.

The women feel the fire wayyyy more than the men. So I dont blame you men for thinking "it's not a big deal".

It's not only abt being close-minded, and close mindedness to what? explain. . . .

In the Nigerian context as you put it, i think it's all about how you present your woman to your family, if you make them feel that they can do and say whatever , then they will. But if you draw the line? No one is gonna mess with her , i mean no one even tells me who to date or marry despite the fact that i am the first child, and i have a large nosey family, be it white, black, yellow, fat, skinny,hausa, ijebu  , igbo, albino it doesn't matter, i won that independence by fire long time ago. So now- i can't do no wrong in their eyes because whenever i screw up, i don't run to no one. So marry whoever you want with the determination to shield him or her from extended family, you family is your spouse and your kids, the rest are loved and cherished but kept at arms length.

How do you defend against voodoo from your husband's relations and women?

as far as I know, voodoo is everywhere, not only in yorubaland.

so not marrying yoruba doesnt protect anyone from voodoo.

Onlytruth:

Bottom line.  

And I agree that women bear more of the brunt of an inter-tribal marriage. Love ain't all in marriage. There is so much more involved!

Assuming your guy is otherwise a good man, how do you cope with ending up in an unplanned polygamous home?

How do you defend against voodoo from your husband's relations and women?

And the women dont also do juju? Knowing how promiscuous Nigerian men [esp Yoruba men] are, she might go to her village to get juju on him.

You dont cope. . . . You move on. DIVORCE HIM.  Isnt divorce easy in Naija? Or simply move out of his house.

You defend yourself by staying close to God. With God as your savior, no evil shall come near you. I've been told to not fear juju because they cant affect me and that they're not real. but. . . . lol

tpiah:

as far as I know, voodoo is everywhere, not only in yorubaland.

so not marrying yoruba doesnt protect anyone from voodoo.

Yes I know, but your chance of dying from it reduces drastically if you are the only wife. Basically the family sees you as the man's other half.

Once another enters, all bets are off!

darkman200:

In the Nigerian context as you put it, i think it's all about how you present your woman to your family, if you make them feel that they can do and say whatever , then they will. But if you draw the line? No one is gonna mess with her , i mean no one even tells me who to date or marry despite the fact that i am the first child, and i have a large nosey family, be it white, black, yellow, fat, skinny,hausa, ijebu  , igbo, albino it doesn't matter, i won that independence by fire long time ago. So now- i can't do no wrong in their eyes because whenever i screw up, i don't run to no one. So marry whoever you want with the determination to shield him or her from extended family, you family is your spouse and your kids, the rest are loved and cherished but kept at arms length.

Very true post. But some men are controlled by their mother. I say, why not just marry your mother, plz.

I tell them, Grow some backbone, nitori Olorun.

But still, no matter how firm you are, some family members and relatives are relentless, very wicked.

I'm the first child also, if my brother brings home a woman I feel like is not "it", I'll chase her off. No jokes. Same with my sis.  

Yes I know, but your chance of dying from it reduces drastically if you are the only wife. Basically the family sees you as the man's other half.

not necessarily. Besides, voodoo isnt always about killing off your rival/s (because that might throw unwanted suspicion on you) but can be about destroying their lives in other ways.

Once another enters, all bets are off!

so how do you explain the polygamous marriages of yesteryears with 90% of the wives living to old age?

If all the wives engaged in killing each other off all the time, they'd simply get a reputation as witches.

most people used other ways to bell the cat, so to speak.

Ileke-IdI:

And the women dont also do juju? Knowing how promiscuous Nigerian men [esp Yoruba men] are, she might go to her village to get juju on him.

You dont cope. . . . You move on. DIVORCE HIM.  Isnt divorce easy in Naija? Or simply move out of his house.

You defend yourself by staying close to God. With God as your savior, no evil shall come near you. I've been told to not fear juju because they cant affect me and that they're not real. but. . . . lol

You see what I meant by "being prepared before you cross the line" to cope? How many of these ajebotas know this fact? Na only society ladies for naija know dis kain tin o.

All these American and British born kids have no clue.  

Onlytruth:

You see what I meant by "being prepared before you cross the line" to cope? How many of these ajebotas know this fact? Na only society ladies for naija know dis kain tin o.

All these American and British born kids have no clue.  

Onlytruth, are insulting me?

I am hurt, no jokes.

tpiah:




not necessarily. Besides, voodoo isnt always about killing off your rival/s (because that might throw unwanted suspicion on you) but can be about destroying their lives in other ways.




s[b]o how do you explain the polygamous marriages of yesteryears with 90% of the wives living to old age[/b]?

If all the wives engaged in killing each other off all the time, they'd simply get a reputation as witches.

most people used other ways to bell the cat, so to speak.

Once another tribe woman enters the marriages, it is a different ball game. It becomes "dis Omo Ibo" woman, I go show am pepper!

Ileke-IdI:

Onlytruth, are insulting me?

I am hurt, no jokes.

Calm down ileke. You know say me and you dey cool.

But frankly, were you born in the states? How did you know about woman going to village to collect juju?
Na only proper naija babe dey sabi dat kain tin.

Once another tribe woman enters the marriages, it is a different ball game. It becomes "dis Omo Ibo" woman, I go show am pepper!

hmm, well, regardless which tribe the woman is from, once you enter a polygamous marriage as an extra wife, na so so wahala.

even if everyone in the marriage is from the same tribe.

tpiah:

hmm, well, regardless which tribe the woman is from, once you enter a polygamous marriage as an extra wife, na so so wahala.

even if everyone is the marriage is from the same tribe.

Exactly my point.

Being from a different tribe creates one big problem; add polygamy, the problem becomes exponential.

Onlytruth:



Calm down ileke. You know say me and you dey cool.

But frankly, were you born in the states? How did you know about woman going to village to collect juju?
Na only proper naija babe dey sabi dat kain tin.

Naw, I was born in Ekiti state lol.
Thanks to Nollywood, I know some.

Onlytruth:

Exactly my point.

Being from a different tribe creates one big problem; add polygamy, the problem becomes exponential.

Exactly. I fear, seriously. I wont take such from any "were" who wants to humiliate and disrespect me by bringing home a hooligan he impregnated.

Ileke-IdI:

Naw, I was born in Ekiti state lol.
Thanks to Nollywood, I know some.

Exactly. I fear, seriously. I wont take such from any "were" who wants to humiliate and disrespect me by bringing home a hooligan baby mama he impregnated.

Can perfectly understand that.

lol @ babymama

I guess what I'm really saying is this: Do it if you can secure these conditions:

(1) If you are sure of the man's family, e.g, they are ALL staunched Christians (pentecostal) , up to extended families -uncles, aunties etc.


(2) If you are sure that you can tie the man down to marry only you.
Now, I don't care how you do that!  

If you are not sure of both conditions, run for cover!

Ileke-IdI:

Yea, I get what you're saying and I fully support the "be careful" warning.
My mom that has never been tribal before surprised me a few days ago. She advised me not to bring a non-yoruba man home [not that I intend to anywaz],esp Igbo men because of their hate for the Yoruba people. She said that nothing can separate an Igbo man from his mother, that even if the man loves his wife, the mother would control the marriage. At the end, the woman suffers the most.

In any inter-tribal marriage, the woman carries the burnt the most. The man has authority to protect his wife in their marriage [ell some men], and can let his family know that she's his closest kin.

My own lil advice, love aint even up to 10% of a marriage. If you can avoid it, plz avoid inter-tribal marriage. 

Ileke, this is not true. Igbos dont hate Yorubas. Forget the nairaland stuff. In the real world, it's more of the other way round. I'm telling you this based on actual experience as an Igbo kid who grew up in Yorubaland. If igbos hate the Yorubas that much, how then is it that they are more likely to give out their daughters in marriages to Yorubas? I remembered one of my Yoruba girlfriend i had in the past. The day i met with her family was the day i got a shock of my life on how Yorubas hate igbos. They scolded their daughter for falling in love with an omo ibo. I believe why it's like that is because an Igbo man/ Yoruba lady combination is rare, and people are not yet used to it and see it as wierd.

As a kid, i never remembered my parents telling me to stay away from people who are non-Igbo, but believe me, i've seen this many times, Yoruba parents teach their children to stay away from 'omo ibo'. 

That is why i dont encourage Igbo women to marry Yorubas. The guy may be good, but you cant escape the 'omo ibo' subhuman treatment from his people and his likelihood of bringing in more wives in the future.

Ileke-IdI:


Exactly. I fear, seriously. I wont take such from any "were" who wants to humiliate and disrespect me by[b] bringing home a hooligan he impregnated[/b]

.

This is an 80% unavoidable fate in a Yoruba man's marriage. It's just the norm, except you are lucky.

LOL Sometimes marrying outside your tribe is good.
There's always that factor of "You should know" When you marry from your own tribe
They all expect you to Lord over them and all that. If you marry someone outside
your own tribe then sometimes they kinda treat you better than they would their own
Not the case in most but certainly that should be considered.

Ileke-IdI:

Naw, I was born in Ekiti state lol.
Thanks to Nollywood, I know some.

Exactly. I fear, seriously. I wont take such from any "were" who wants to humiliate and disrespect me by bringing home a hooligan he impregnated.

So u are from my state, In o ra li be oh.gbogbo ira ule siko? Se ala ni

excanny:

Ileke, this is not true. Igbos dont hate Yorubas. Forget the nairaland stuff. In the real world, it's more of the other way round. I'm telling you this based on actual experience as an Igbo kid who grew up in Yorubaland. If igbos hate the Yorubas that much, how then is it that they are more likely to give out their daughters in marriages to Yorubas? I remembered one of my Yoruba girlfriend i had in the past. The day i met with her family was the day i got a shock of my life on how Yorubas hate igbos. They scolded their daughter for falling in love with 'omo aja'(son of a dog), alluding to my igbos as dogs. They called me that in Yoruba, not minding that i understood them. I believe why it's like that is because an Igbo man/ Yoruba lady combination is rare, and people are not yet used to it and see it as wierd.

As a kid, i never remembered my parents telling me to stay away from people who are non-Igbo, but believe me, i've seen this many times, Yoruba parents teach their children to stay away from 'omo ibo'. 

That is why i dont encourage Igbo women to marry Yorubas. The guy may be good, but you cant escape the 'omo ibo' subhuman treatment from his people and his likelihood of bringing in more wives future.

Wow' that was harsh. Maybe they had a personal problem or have encountered an Igbo that ended up doing them bad.
I doubt Yorubas hate Igbos o. They usually admit that you guys are "hardworking" etc.

excanny:

This is an 60 80% unavoidable fate in a Yoruba man's marriage. It's just the norm, except you are lucky.

Fixed.

manoy:

So u are from my state,  In o ra li be oh.gbogbo ira ule siko? Se ala ni

No oh, YOU are from MY state lol.
In un ara ule a, ala ni gbogbo won. In seun  [hope I spoke it right, mines is kinda rusty]

I despise Yoruba men with Igbo women.

Yoruba families are so dammn tribalistic when it comes to those type of marriages. I'll rather see an Igbo woman with an Oyimbo man than with some Yoruba man.

I also speak from experience with the Yoruba women I have dated. Yoruba mothers can be so cruel. I remember Yoruba woman told her daughter she would disown her if she ever did anything with me.