Most single men and women are seriously asking
for guidelines on finding a compatible mate.
These are guidelines for men who are looking for
wives. Mostly for the serious minded and my
fellow christian brothers, these are ladies to
avoid:

1. THE UNBELIEVER
Christians should not marry unbelievers. Second
Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be bound together
with unbelievers; for what partnership have
righteousness and lawlessness, or what
fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). Apart
from your decision to follow Christ, marriage is
the single most important decision you will ever
make. Don’t blow it by ignoring the obvious. You
need a wife who loves Jesus more than she loves
you. Put spiritual maturity at the top of your list
of qualities you want in a wife.

2. THE MATERIAL GIRL
One young man was engaged to a girl from a rich
family. He saved up money for months to buy a
ring, but when he proposed she told him he
needed to go back to the jewelry store to buy a
bigger diamond. She pushed her fiance to go into
debt for a ring that fit her expectations. She
wanted a Tiffany’s lifestyle on his Wal-Mart
budget. But the man was advised by friend that
he was stepping into serious trouble. Unless you
want to live in debt for the rest of your life, do not
marry a girl who has dollar signs in her eyes and
eight credit cards in her Gucci purse.

3. THE DIVA
Some macho guys like to throw their weight
around and pretend they are superior to women.
Divas are the female version of this nightmare.
They think the world revolves around them, and
they don’t think twice about hurting somebody
else to prove their point. Their words are harsh
and their finger-snapping demands are
unreasonable. Some of these women might end
up in leadership positions at church, but don’t be
fooled by their super-spiritual talk. Real leaders
are humble. If you don’t see Christlike humility in
the woman you are dating, back away from her
and keep looking.

4. THE DELILAH
Remember Samson? He was anointed by God
with superhuman strength, but he lost his power
when a seductive woman figured out his secret
and gave her man the world’s most famous
haircut. Like Delilah, a woman who hasn't yielded
her sexuality to God will blind you with her
charms, break your heart and snip your anointing
off. If the “Christian” woman you met at church
dresses provocatively, flirts with other guys,
posts sexually inappropriate comments on
Facebook or tells you she’s OK with sex before
marriage, get out of that relationship before she
traps you.

5. THE CONTENTIOUS WOMAN
A young man dated a girl who had serious
resentment in her heart because of past hurts.
“Before I would propose, I told my fiancee she
had to deal with this,” he explained. “It would
have been a deal-breaker, but there was a
powerful breakthrough and now we are engaged.”
This guy realized that unresolved bitterness can
ruin a marriage. Proverbs 21:9 says, “It is better
to live in a corner of a roof than in a house
shared with a contentious woman.” If the woman
you are dating is seething with anger and
unforgiveness, your life together will be ruined by
arguing, door-slamming and endless drama.
Insist that she get prayer and counseling.

6. THE CONTROLLER
Marriage is a 50/50 partnership, and the only way
it works is when both husband and wife practice
mutual submission according to Ephesians 5:21.
Just as some guys think they can run a marriage
like a dictatorship, some women try to manipulate
decisions to get their way. This is why premarital
counseling is so important! You don’t want to
wait until you've been married for two weeks to
find out that your wife doesn't trust you and
wants to call all the shots.

7. THE MAMA'S GIRL
It’s normal for a new wife to call her mom
regularly for advice and support. It is not normal
for her to talk to her mother five times a day
about every detail of her marriage, including her
sex life. That’s weird. Yet there are some guys
whose wives allowed their mothers (or fathers)
total control of their marriages. Genesis 2:24
says a man is to leave his parents and cleave to
his wife. Parents should stay in the background
of their children’s marriages. If your girlfriend
hasn't cut the apron strings, proceed with
caution.

8. THE ADDICT
So many people in the church today have not
been properly discipled. Many still struggle with
various types of addictions—to alcohol, illegal
drugs, prescription medicines or pornography—
either because we don’t confront these sins from
the pulpit or we don’t offer enough
compassionate support to strugglers. Jesus can
completely set a person free from these habits,
but you don’t want to wait until you’re married to
find out your wife isn't sober. You may still be
called to be married, but it is not wise to tie the
knot until your girlfriend faces her issues head-
on.
Your best rule to follow in choosing a wife is
found in Proverbs 31:30: “Charm is deceitful and
beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord,
she shall be praised.” Look past the outward
qualities that the world says are important, and
choose a woman who above all things fears the
Lord.

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