There are several trying periods in the life of a married man (my observations);
*6 months, wen d euphoria of 'being married' is settling down and d 'routine' of marriage is setting in, and* 4-6 yrs, wen he starts wondering 'do I still got it?'.
Not taking anything away from your sex life, but ppl are right wen dey say men luv variety. Not necessarily variety in the sense of multiple sexual partners, but variety in something new to the mix once in a while, cos let's face it , as a friend would say, it's still the normal up & down he'll get out dre, without d emotional factor I may add, while d fact is 'sex only gets beta d longer you're with the same individual'.

@post...I kinda agree wit babyosisi on this one but one tin tho...the focus here seems to be on d 3some chat but I understand there were several more chats than that one and of similar degree of gravity. If so, he's been remorseful doesn't really count. Remorse is remorse but the motivation behind d remorse is wats more important.
U need t make him understand that u Will Not stand f such anymore. advices given on the assumption of 'all men cheat' is unfair. He disrespected u by wat he did and that's fornication by Biblical standards.
Have a sincere and open talk with him, lay your boundaries again (which seems t have gotten blurred with time) and more importantly, let the process of forgiveness (both of yourself and him) begin in your heart by God's Grace

All the best.



sorry f d epistle. sleeplessness is t blame.

G

tearoses:
I dont beleive the possesed story
He was caught
Most people know that porn is just acting . . .he should know too.

The truth is that he is having an affair or at the very least inappropriate relationships with other women and he needs to come clean andhe needs to be honest with you so that you can both work through this.
Who are these women? are they workmates or just random women he met online/offline?

There are a lot of things going around these days, where people, thanks to social media are into all sorts of unheard of things. Marriages are under threat now than ever before.

please dear, its easy to say but please try and pull yourself together. I beleive you have kids. An accident may end up killing or maiming you. This is the time to find strenght from wherever you can. Please. Dont drive if you are not up to it.

It will be resolved and even though right Now there may seem like no light at the end of the tunnnel, but please be positive. You will overcome.

As regards hubby, he needs to realise that you will not accept this from him and you both need to discuss what happened indepth and how he will avoid this from ever happening again.

Chaircover , how u dey, welcome back, we missed you

KashyBaby:


If u have a great sex life, then how come this issue arises?Anyway, He is ur husband for sure he will listen to u if u will discuss it with him..goood luck.

Having a great sex life does not mean the guy don't desire some kinky styles....

Your husband is a good man. Love him, hold him and open up that man is dying of konji! You have not been performing, that is why. Another thing make sure your pussy is very neat. Dirty stinking pussy is one of the greatest turn offs for men. The fact that you just had a baby is no excuse. Be creative in your bedroom. Don't allow another woman to take over your home because you can't perform.

dinachi:
Your husband is a good man. Love him, hold him and open up that man is dying of konji! You have not been performing, that is why. Another thing make sure your pussy is very neat. Dirty stinking pussy is one of the greatest turn offs for men. The fact that you just had a baby is no excuse. Be creative in your bedroom. Don't allow another woman to take over your home because you can't perform.

Your case is beyond redemption. Kudos to your step-mother . She did a very good job on you

babyosisi:


And if he wants a three.some what does she do?
Did you read her post at all or just writing for writing sake

Of course you know i wasn't referring to the menage trois thingy. By the way have you noticed that three quarters of the people who post their marital issues on here especially issues bordering on infidelity are supposedly 'good Christians' who for all intents and puporses should be enjoying their married lives? Why is that the case? Methinks the church,pastors and religious fanatics are stifling the marriage institution with too many frivolous rules. Anyhoo,to each their own.

tearoses:
I dont beleive the possesed story
He was caught
Most people know that porn is just acting . . .he should know too.

The truth is that he is having an affair or at the very least inappropriate relationships with other women and he needs to come clean andhe needs to be honest with you so that you can both work through this.
Who are these women? are they workmates or just random women he met online/offline?

There are a lot of things going around these days, where people, thanks to social media are into all sorts of unheard of things. Marriages are under threat now than ever before.

please dear, its easy to say but please try and pull yourself together. I beleive you have kids. An accident may end up killing or maiming you. This is the time to find strenght from wherever you can. Please. Dont drive if you are not up to it.

It will be resolved and even though right Now there may seem like no light at the end of the tunnnel, but please be positive. You will overcome.

As regards hubby, he needs to realise that you will not accept this from him and you both need to discuss what happened indepth and how he will avoid this from ever happening again.

wow I didn't know u changed ur user name n av bin looking out for u.
Thanks a lot. I luv u

Op sorry ooooh, see as our men are saying you should up your bedroom game. No one is preaching leave his sorry ass. SMH

chibic:
The same way women cheats and find faults in their hubbies might have been at work here.

You may search within you and find out where you've gone wrong.

Personally, I call it boredorm. It is the same reason why women cheat but they will rather blame their husbands for lack of attention etc. Your hubby is bored and wanted excitement just like every men and women that foolishly think cheating is always the best way out.

If you were a man, I will advice you to DIVORCE the bitch because cheating wives are deadly. But since you are a woman, the ball is in your court. You can forgive him or divorce him only if you haven't cheated before or if you never dated a married man when you were single because, nigerian girls will date a married man but won't want another girl to ffuck their's. It may be karma working.

And cheating husbands are not deadly?

Mrs0J:
Op sorry ooooh, see as our men are saying you should up your bedroom game. No one is preaching leave his sorry ass. SMH

Lols!

I hope they get past This.

This is the first time.

OPEEEE!!!!
See ya life?

bukatyne:


Lols!

I hope they get past This.

This is the first time.

Lol, I weep for us(women). A man's infidelity is not enough for his wife to divorce him, but it's enough for the man to divorce her.

Hmnnn

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Mrs0J:


Lol, I weep for us(women). A man's infidelity is not enough for his wife to divorce him, but it's enough for the man to divorce her.

welcome to nigerian hypocrisy

SAMBARRY:
welcome to nigerian hypocrisy

Lol, Nice pic

Mrs0J:


Lol, I weep for us(women). A man's infidelity is not enough for his wife to divorce him, but it's enough for the man to divorce her.

Please don't weep

Everyone has the power of choice. What they choose to do with it is their prerogative and they should be ready to take full responsibility for it.

SAMBARRY:
welcome to nigerian hypocrisy

Short she-Cow

dinachi:
Short She-Cow!

troll you have been noticed now scram