olareed:
mother to son
Son: how do I find a right woman for myself
Mother: be a right man and the right woman finds you
Moral: be successful and you'd find your woman effortlessly.
On a deviant note,how would you know if it's true love or money love? Be the bad guy every girl likes and she would feel a thing for you if it was money love, and loves you more if it was true love...

GodMode:


Everyone is destined to be great not just rich..

Never forget that humans have a choice.

naijaboiy:
So how Long do wee need to keep "Hustling" and "struggling" before we start finding love?

Some people's success may meet them when they are 40 years or even older. Is that when they should begin to talk about settling down to love someone and marry?

Does Love wait for someone?

This write-up is flawed to me.

Rapmoney:
Be patient while you read this...

If you are a young and ambitious dude still struggling to get to the top, this write-up will save you the stress and pains of the so-called love we have been deceived about for long!

If you still think that there's what is called 'true love' or 'love without money or resources', then you must be living in a fool's paradise!!! (Quote me if you like!)

The truth of the matter is that what people in the past enjoyed as 'true love' no longer exist. Then it was possible for a man and a woman to fall in love based on personal qualities or characters without materialism attached to it! Those were the good old days! Our society has changed and any one who still lives in the past is not better than the village idiot!!!

I have heard people saying often times that love or relationship is not all about money! To me, that's the highest level of trash and rubbish! If you are a young man with ambition, still striving and toiling to make it, you better forget about love and concentrate full-time...I mean 100% on your dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes killing themselves over love issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!

ronald4lif:

Bro, wetin happen. Gist us na biko.

agarawu23:
nice one rapmoney.

I am in support of your write up But I want us to look it from another angle.

I am not in support of a young hustling guy spending lavishly on a Lady he is yet to marry[b] but that doesn't mean he should not fall in love.(he should apply sense)[/b]

If he finally forget about ladies, chase his dream and later succeed, how will he find true love ? (no be our girls of nowadays? Ferrari things )

What if the guy is not destined to be rich? I am sure he will still settle down with one (though she might not be his dream girl)

We have few ladies who don't care if a guy is rich or poor, all they want is true love (bros I still dey find them o )

ronald4lif:


Thanks man. For us it's about addressing issues and we're open to constructive counter points to fault ours. Simple.

ronald4lif:


Bro, any guy who believes a girl will love him without money and won't dump his ass if she sees someone who's well better off tomorrow is living in a cuckoo land. Most relationship nowadays is a game of the highest bidder and akin to business partnership.

centjamie:


Case studies are not even far,they are not hard to find, as our day to day activities are testament enough to prove the validity of points raised here in support of this thread.

There must be divergent views to issues,especially one of this nature.but in my humble opinion,i think the only people who will be against this thread are the ladies and guys who have always had enough money to throw around.

Of course,there are few exceptional cases where a lady sincerely sticks to a guy out of love irrespective of his poor financial condition.but the fact that people see such LADY as a rare being from a different PLANET is testament enough that the Op(this thread) and everybody who writes in support of this thread are actually correct?

omojoshy:
Wow!!!
Nice 1
No Money, no Honey
Good example: The newly wedded couples in Edo State...
**The Beauty and the Beast** lol

Adaobi12:


She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.

Rapmoney:
Na for only NL una dey fit struggle with a guy

2Blessed2stress:
You make a lot of sense in your post. But the last thing that can happen to a man is for a woman to marry him cause of his money or "comfortable lifestyle". Because , if she see's other wealthier family, she will be envious of them and may cheat on you with a far RICHER dude.

Work for your purpose and goal in life.

To quote an Author , "The worst thing is to succeed before you are prepared".hmmmm....dat wil b misplaced priority

Safari29:


money can't buy love. what if u lose all ur money, or do u think it is not possible? May God guides us into the right channel

Rapmoney:
Be patient while you read this...

If you are a young and ambitious dude still struggling to get to the top, this write-up will save you the stress and pains of the so-called love we have been deceived about for long!

If you still think that there's what is called 'true love' or 'love without money or resources', then you must be living in a fool's paradise!!! (Quote me if you like!)

The truth of the matter is that what people in the past enjoyed as 'true love' no longer exist. Then it was possible for a man and a woman to fall in love based on personal qualities or characters without materialism attached to it! Those were the good old days! Our society has changed and any one who still lives in the past is not better than the village idiot!!!

I have heard people saying often times that love or relationship is not all about money! To me, that's the highest level of trash and rubbish! If you are a young man with ambition, still striving and toiling to make it, you better forget about love and concentrate full-time...I mean 100% on your dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes killing themselves over love issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!

agarawu23:
nice one rapmoney.

I am in support of your write up But I want us to look it from another angle.

I am not in support of a young hustling guy spending lavishly on a Lady he is yet to marry but that doesn't mean he should not fall in love.(he should apply sense)

If he finally forget about ladies, chase his dream and later succeed, how will he find true love ? (no be our girls of nowadays? Ferrari things )

What if the guy is not destined to be rich? I am sure he will still settle down with one (though she might not be his dream girl)

We have few ladies who don't care if a guy is rich or poor, all they want is true love (bros I still dey find them o )

upsonn:


You are among those who bliv someone pple re nt destiny to be rich! I laff in spanish.. What a bad imagination and bliv.

Acidosis:
Lol

I used to share the same reasoning with OP until I realise success has no definition.

Whether you earn 20k or 150k, you'll always see a woman who would love you and ready to settle with you. I've come to realise no amount of money is ever enough.

Set your target at N200k/monthly, by the time you reach your target, the trickle down effect will affect your entire life such that you'll start buying perfume worth N50k. At that stage, you'll realise N200k is no longer enough to settle down... and the trend continues. Its basic economics- human wants are insatiable.

Telling a level '08 NSCDC officer or level '08 F.G Teacher of N27 years old to forget love and face hustling is like telling him to delay his offspring. Even if you hustle and sweat, you can't rise above the stipulated years for promotion.

The aforementioned principle applies to our everyday life; you just cannot run faster than destiny - it can only be delayed.

Also I think your write-up should be directed at students. A guy of 24+ should never forget love. If LOVE is a distraction, what do you call CLUBBING, WOMANISING, CHAMPIONS LEAGUE, Play Station, Android Tweaks, BBM, FACEBOOK?

I think its better to settle down with a reasonable lady and remain faithful. Those who miss it are those who spend carelessly to impress a thousand and random girls in exchange for s e x. Spending on 'A' lover shouldn't distract anyone. I don't know where some of you meet your girls, but I know there are reasonable ones out there who hardly make demands. In fact some don't ask!

If a young man can't find love, remember the destiny of your offspring lies in your hands! You wouldn't want to settle down with an o l o s h o at old age. Imagine driving your kids to Montessori academy at age 50 when your mates' are already playing with grand children around the house - all in the name of hustling as if we can make all the money in the world.

In summary, hard work pays but it doesn't pay everyone equally; likewise, relationship pays, but not all survive the accompanying impediments.

kelvine:
Wish I made front page responce on this topic, but with your comment I feel my thoughts are already shared.
After work yesterday a lot of colleagues opined just what the OP just presented but my point was similar to yours on the part of the letters highlighted in bold. More so, marriage is a project, spend time to search out your mate or class. Saying love is dead is too much a hasty generalization, there are still modest, God fearing, virtuous and prudent ladies (though very scarce). They may not be super pretty, search them out, love-vendor them and marry them.

Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.

Acidosis:
Lol

I used to share the same reasoning with OP until I realise success has no definition.

Whether you earn 20k or 150k, you'll always see a woman who would love you and ready to settle with you. I've come to realise no amount of money is ever enough.

Set your target at N200k/monthly, by the time you reach your target, the trickle down effect will affect your entire life such that you'll start buying perfume worth N50k. At that stage, you'll realise N200k is no longer enough to settle down... and the trend continues. Its basic economics- human wants are insatiable.

Telling a level '08 NSCDC officer or level '08 F.G Teacher of N27 years old to forget love and face hustling is like telling him to delay his offspring. Even if you hustle and sweat, you can't rise above the stipulated years for promotion.

The aforementioned principle applies to our everyday life; you just cannot run faster than destiny - it can only be delayed.

Also I think your write-up should be directed at students. A guy of 24+ should never forget love. If LOVE is a distraction, what do you call CLUBBING, WOMANISING, CHAMPIONS LEAGUE, Play Station, Android Tweaks, BBM, FACEBOOK?

I think its better to settle down with a reasonable lady and remain faithful. Those who miss it are those who spend carelessly to impress a thousand and random girls in exchange for s e x. Spending on 'A' lover shouldn't distract anyone. I don't know where some of you meet your girls, but I know there are reasonable ones out there who hardly make demands. In fact some don't ask!

If a young man can't find love, remember the destiny of your offspring lies in your hands! You wouldn't want to settle down with an o l o s h o at old age. Imagine driving your kids to Montessori academy at age 50 when your mates' are already playing with grand children around the house - all in the name of hustling as if we can make all the money in the world.

In summary, hard work pays but it doesn't pay everyone equally; likewise, relationship pays, but not all survive the accompanying impediments.