It's been a month since we broke up (it was mutual). I don't have anymore feelings for him. Although, I've been wondering if he ever thinks about me sometimes..But anyways, I'm wondering if I could text him "hey" and then a few minutes later, say "oops, sorry that text was meant for my friend", just to see if we could start a conversation from there, like use this as an excuse to start talking to him again..? Would that be ok? Or just weird? Should I do it? And if not, what should I do?
Thanks

Stumbled upon this video. it helps, thanks everyone for your advice


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xOQG4JFdQmk

Should I text my ex that I miss him is a common question that many women who have had their hearts broken by a break up often ask. Before you send that I miss you text, there are a few things to consider. What exactly is it going to accomplish and what do you expect it to accomplish.
So, should I text my ex that I miss him?

If your ex has not been in contact with you or has or is in the process of moving on, it really puts him on the spot. I mean if he isn’t missing you, what would he say? My ex texted me this not very long ago, and really I did not know what to say. I wasn’t feeling the same and a reply could be taken as hope. I didn’t reply. There would be no reply to that unless I was feeling the same. All it did was remind me that I had hurt him. That doesn’t make me feel very good and really we want to be with people that make us feel good.

So be honest with yourself. What is it that you hope will happen with that I miss you text? Do you hope he will reply and tell you he misses you too? If so, how will you feel when you get no reply? Are you ready for how that feels? No reply means he most likely doesn’t feel the same and isn’t missing you. Oh, I have heard the argument that I just want him to know. Why is that? Do you understand you may feel a need to let him know but that doesn’t mean he has a need to hear it.

Texting your ex that you miss him is more about you than it is about him. It’s about what you want and not about what he wants. It could be about what you hope he wants, but if he has broken up with you, for now, respect his decision. Give it time for the emotions to settle, especially if the break up is new. Down the road after some time has passed, perhaps you can text him something to see where his head is at, but texting I miss you is not the text to send even then. There are better more effective texts to send that don’t put your heart out there bleeding. So next time you think should I text my ex that I miss him, think again.

NO!

you need to move forward for you

you are still emotionally attached and feel some need to connect which is not ok

it is just not healthy to maintain contact with the X

you'll just get hurt again..

don't be a doormat...move on..

for you...you deserve that much and believe in yourself..

Just text him and see what he says, if it turns out bad blame a friend saying it was him/her

I stumbled upon this video few days ago might help:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q_0ECPbo6c8

Come on

Nope.
If there's going to be a conservation between you too then he should start it.

After just a month, its too early.

Move ahead, let him remain an X. Comot your eye there...


Start a conversation, ahhn, which kind conversation. Why did you end it when you knew you won't be able to cope afterwards.



Move on with your life,...



This moi moi leave sef...

elantraceey:
Come on


Nope.

If there's going to be a conservation between you too then he should start it.


After just a month, its too early.

aww.. Girls are d ones dat miss dr exes more...

NextGuest:
NO!

you need to move forward for you

you are still emotionally attached and feel some need to connect which is not ok

it is just not healthy to maintain contact with the X

you'll just get hurt again..

don't be a doormat...move on..

for you...you deserve that much and believe in yourself..

Do u even know wat "mutual" means??

d guy is trying to move on, OBVIOUSLY!!!!!




so wetin be ur problem na?



LEAVE am alone





LEAVE AM ALONE!!!!!!





ABI SOMTIN DON DEY DO U FOR BRAIN??.





at least we now know ur "monica" is just a big ruse.

elantraceey:
Come on


Nope.

If there's going to be a conservation between you too then he should start it.


After just a month, its too early.

Why should he be the one that starts the conversation .
Op do you want him back ?
If yes then text his, and tell him you just want to know how he is doing.
If no then leave him the fu*k alone.

You might have removed your eyes from him but it is certain that your heart is still there else you won't feel any need to be connected to him in any way.


It takes time to forget break-ups and it is also good for both of you to still come together and discuss what really went wrong and if both of you still want to make it work again, good for you but if not, then, you could just remain as pals.


Don't see anything with you checking up on a friend!

mabelbrilliant:
It's been a month since we broke up (it was mutual). I don't have anymore feelings for him. Although, I've been wondering if he ever thinks about me sometimes..But anyways, I'm wondering if I could text him "hey" and then a few minutes later, say "oops, sorry that text was meant for my friend", just to see if we could start a conversation from there, like use this as an excuse to start talking to him again..? Would that be ok? Or just weird? Should I do it? And if not, what should I do?
Thanks

Story for the dogs!!!!

Wow why most people take there xx as a n enemy after breakup it isn't right...my dear there is nothing wrong trying to check on ur xx he is still ur friend even tho it didn't work out with both of you,as for me all my xx are still my friends and we do communicates well

mabelbrilliant:
It's been a month since we broke up (it was mutual). I don't have anymore feelings for him. Although, I've been wondering if he ever thinks about me sometimes..But anyways, I'm wondering if I could text him "hey" and then a few minutes later, say "oops, sorry that text was meant for my friend", just to see if we could start a conversation from there, like use this as an excuse to start talking to him again..? Would that be ok? Or just weird? Should I do it? And if not, what should I do?
Thanks

If you have feelings for him and you don't want to date him again, don't do it. Once you text him, he replies, the feelings starts flowing back again. I think you still have feelings for him and if he doesn't for you, then you are gonna waste your time if you text him.

If I'm to advice you, i'd say, don't text him until you have no feelings for him again. If i have feelings for an ex i don't want back, i steer clear of her paths till I've moved on, then i can chat her up. So don't text him, move on first.

elantraceey:
Come on


Nope.

If there's going to be a conservation between you too then he should start it.


After just a month, its too early.

This is one thing that make some humans lose their happiness. Must it be the guy that must start up a convo? Some girls and their mentality though. Too much ego. SMH.

yeye yeye

You dont have feelings for him again, yet you wanna text him..why For what

Dis girl needs a hug

Cutehector:
aww.. Girls are d ones dat miss dr exes more...

Not all.

Its not him you miss,its the sex. You'll get over it.

IamLEGEND1:




Do u even know wat "mutual" means??

Mutual or not, one person initiated it. There's always a "dumper" n a "dumped" or on a lighter note, a "leaver" and the "left"...

It's either she doesn't want to sound like a jerk by saying she left or... you know the rest.

Maybe this is the reason why one of my ex gal called me on sunday morning, and she started sending me some of her pics on whatsapp while we chatted.

It was like old times and we talked abt almost everything. I had some small feelings for her but after dat day, I didn't go back chatting with her (yes it's unhealthy).

The best thing is always moving on and after a long time u can chat on neutral basis

Trust me, that would be weird. Most guys know that tactic already. It's not even original.

MizMyColi:
NO!

The relationship didn't last because He is/was a jerk or you were/are one.

Why complicate things for yourself further?

#SayNoToApexPredators

Miss Nkoli biko which one be apex predator?

mabelbrilliant:
It's been a month since we broke up (it was mutual). I don't have anymore feelings for him. Although, I've been wondering if he ever thinks about me sometimes..But anyways, I'm wondering if I could text him "hey" and then a few minutes later, say "oops, sorry that text was meant for my friend", just to see if we could start a conversation from there, like use this as an excuse to start talking to him again..? Would that be ok? Or just weird? Should I do it? And if not, what should I do?
Thanks

Your only problem is pride,and if care is not taken, it might cost u something bigger than life itself.

You could tell him how you feel.. I mean, what's the worst that could happen? You ll just keep hurting if you keep everything to yourself. And to me, I feel you will heal faster that way.
He must not be the one to initiate a conversation.. And since the breakup was "mutual" chatting him up or even calling him shouldn't be a problem or a bad idea. You will feel better when you do.

chigoizie7:





Your only problem is pride,and if care is not taken, it might cost u something bigger than life itself.

and what could be bigger than that

mabelbrilliant:
It's been a month since we broke up (it was mutual). I don't have anymore feelings for him. Although, I've been wondering if he ever thinks about me sometimes..But anyways, I'm wondering if I could text him "hey" and then a few minutes later, say "oops, sorry that text was meant for my friend", just to see if we could start a conversation from there, like use this as an excuse to start talking to him again..? Would that be ok? Or just weird? Should I do it? And if not, what should I do?
Thanks

Eyaa...

You're already missing him. Lovey lovey!

Personally, I can do that. Still send a 'hi' to me ex. And even the married ones remember me. Some just hate me sef. But who cares? I really can't keep malice with an ex. I still try to reach out. Because that's what politicians and businessmen do.

So you can try sending a 'hi' and claim that it was a mistake. If he responds and shows any interest in kwontinuing, then he misses you too.

If na me, I'll tell you say I miss you fa. Can't hide such a thing!

But watch for signs oh. Signs that the relationship could lead to somewhere at then end. Else, no waste your time. They say you don't know the value of what you have until you loose it.

amokeme:
You could tell him how you feel.. I mean, what's the worst that could happen? You ll just keep hurting if you keep everything to yourself. And to me, I feel you will heal faster that way.
He must not be the one to initiate a conversation.. And since the breakup was "mutual" chatting him up or even calling him shouldn't be a problem or a bad idea. You will feel better when you do.

Already liking you

12month:
Maybe this is the reason why one of my ex gal called me on sunday morning, and she started sending me some of her pics on whatsapp while we chatted.

It was like old times and we talked abt almost everything. I had some small feelings for her but after dat day, I didn't go back chatting with her (yes it's unhealthy).

The best thing is always moving on and after a long time u can chat on neutral basis

Is it that bad to go back to your ex?

Adaeze003:


Mutual or not, one person initiated it. There's always a "dumper" n a "dumped" or on a lighter note, a "leaver" and the "left"...

It's either she doesn't want to sound like a jerk by saying she left or... you know the rest.

You mean the dumper who dumps the dumpee who gets dumped?