bestestgirl:
It will be so easy to say "Op forgive him, OP think of your children, OP Men are not worth the stress" but the truth is that, when you are hurting and in such deep pain, those cliches actually mean nothing. Don't take any concrete decisions now OP, you need to just concentrate on getting thru this period of deep emotional distress, first of all you have to surround yourself with your friends so that you don't overthink. finally, pray for your husband, just call out his name and say things like "you are blessed, you are favoured, you will live and not die", it really helps to pray for the person you are trying to forgive.

Floodgater:
The last time you could swear with your life that he wasn't cheating on you.
You have parents that can help you from the looming danger but you prefare steps to enduring a cheating husband so that you can continue worshipping a man and his family that dont care whether you or your family exist. Infact you have began googling some and hoping/advicing he uses condom.
You prefare to manage a situation that will take you without your children to an abroad of no return instead of seeking ways to salvage them even if it means absconding with them to the abroad you came from. Keep decieving yourself you are staying for your kids and not of your steadily eroding esteem.
This is your second near death experience because of that man, obviously you are capable of bracing a third.
The only reason you are catching the next breath is for your man to live, when you find a more important one, you will know what to do.

SAMBARRY:
I hate hearing stories of abokokus.its as if when these abokokus marry they leave their brains in their fathers house. Doesn't she have brain to think or does the beating turn her on

gbengus17:
I DONT LISTEN TO ONE SIDE OF A STORY. UR HUSBAND WILL HAVE HIS OWN STORY AND REASONS, BUT IF YOU WANT TO KILL YOURSELF, PLS GO AHEAD. NIGERIA HAS A POPULATION OF OVER 120M PEOPLE. NO BODY WILL EVEN KNOW YOU ARE IN YOUR GRAVE.

Prettydiamond:
Its a pity;touching story... Pls dnt die o, sucide itself is a sin just pray that he changes o nne. Its well. As fragile as I am,may I never experience such,AMEN!

MaziOmenuko:


I don't sell viagra, I have a life.

Can you repeat the statement above^^ for yourself?

SAMBARRY:
Ruth abokoku die with him na. Shebi na your cross, carry am on your head like cross of calvary till you start depending on drugs to suppress your hiv.



Some of your mates wey tow your line dey Victoria garden cemetery. After 2 years remembrance they're history

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

SAMBARRY:
At the expense of your family and future. It's alright. Jim Cryer in the movie haves and haves not is an example, David's son that r@ped his sister is another example, samson to and so on and so forth that I'm beginning to think whether the dheek is more powerful than the brain

ishiamu:



Den marry me and u will never experience it is a promise

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

bellong:

In all, please do not commit suicide. Committing suicide doesn't solve any problem, it only creates more for others.


I am sorry, I have no idea how to manage a cheating husband. My concern is that you shouldn't commit suicide.

Those kids are too young. I empathize with you and I hope you get peace and succour again from the union.


Although I don't know what you want us to do but believe that we can offer you counsel if need be.

Prettydiamond:
only ur name have sent me flying

MaziOmenuko:


You're the one going around nairaland advertising drugs for penn!s enlargement and prolonged sex baa? No wonder, are all your clients cheating husbands?

Your comment is pathetic, VERY PATHETIC!

okirewaju:
OP, you want to kill yourself and leave your kids for who? Try and talk to him if he can ever change but with his involvement in politics, its hard to find faithful politicians(Some are faithful though) as girls throw themselves at them.

Focus on your kids, learn a skill before you resume working and don't give yourself headache about what you cannot change. You have to learn to deal with it or consider divorce Never forget prayer- He listens


Zi,

Once a cheat always a cheat unless he decideds to change. If you can't handle it in a relationship then it's better the relationship is called off as marriage is a different ball game all together. Easier to break a relationship than divorce!

Happy new month sweety
#YouKnowYourSelf

ishiamu:


4 get the name na attitude wey matter na wetin dey make gals make mistake tthey judge d outside and 4get d inside

nickibarb:
Please help me. I'm drowning.

I am feeling very depressed right now. My marriage has been mainly peaceful and chaos free. I did my part, cared for my husband, cooked for him, was available to satisfy his sexual needs 24/7, prayed for him, dressed like I did when we were dating, kept my body in tiptop shape even after 2 babies via c/s, everyone around me testifies to that both men and women.

In the wee hours of sunday morning, I was playing around with his phone cause i couldn't sleep. I realised he had WHATSAPP and BBM apps, it was surprising cause I had tried to get him to download them repeatedly so we can send pics to each other but he refused. He said he wasn't interested in them, so I deleted mine. Like every curious cat, I wanted to see what he was up to on it since he didn't tell me that he had finally downloaded it.

I saw that he had been flirting with almost 10 different girls, had met up with some, given money to a lot of them (even though our finances have not been in tiptop shape, but i've been persevering cause I know it is temporary - I have a great job offer with a N200k salary post-nysc but they are not ready for me to resume work yet, so I have no income for now). Before I digress too much, the chat that hurt me the most was a girl who asked my husband to be sending her N30k a month or week, i'm not sure again (my eyes were blurred with tears), and then whenever he needs her, he should just tell her which hotel to check into. Funny enough, they all know he is married with kids, they even ask him about his baby in the course of their chat. Another one that broke my heart was a girl he asked to arrange 15 girls for a political event being hosted by his older politician friend and the girls should be ready to provide TLC for them afterwards. From the messages, it was clear that he slept with this particular girl after that event because she reminded him that the money she received is not a replacement for the one he is supposed to give her (i'm guessing after a previous sexcapade).

I am so heartbroken, I don't know what to do. I feel like I gave my marriage my all, I followed all the rules of a good wife, I read books, i don't know what I could have done differently. My husband told me everyday how much he was in love with me for the 2 years we dated prior to marriage (we've been married 2 years and 6 months). I saw no trait of promiscuity in him. I trusted him 100% so I never policed him concerning his whereabouts (it's not really in my nature to be like that). I never saw this betrayal coming so it has been very difficult for me to deal with this. I had an emotional breakdown on sunday night when he went for a meeting with the new governor of our state (he is related to him). He came home at midnight to see me unconscious. I woke up in a hospital, apparently I had overdosed on pills. At that time, I wanted to die to get away from my life, but now I didn't die, i'm happy he came home in time to rescue me. I mean he could have easily stayed out all night because it was a special day (post-inauguration celebration). I don't know how I could have thought of leaving my two little kids less that 2 years old. This man has made me CRAZY. If my family hears about this suicidal attempt, they will make me leave him immediately. My fear is, what happens to my little kids, I don't want another woman to come and maltreat them. We were legally married but not in Nigeria. I don't know if Nigerian courts would recognise our marriage certificate. I don't want to lose my kids. I feel like God has allowed a trial too great for me to handle to come my way. I feel like he over-rated my strength. I am just 27. Isn't it too soon for me to face this kind of life challenge? God knows I married this man out of love, not for money, my parents tried their best for me. They sent me abroad, that's where I met my husband, I didn't even know his family in Nigeria was relatively well-to-do. Some people say if your husband cheats on you, it's nemesis for what you did to other women's husbands. God knows I am innocent. I have tried to find out why my husband who says he loves me everyday, will go out of his way to flirt with girls and sleep with them, (it's not like it's all of them that are coming on to him, he is actually doing most of the chasing). He cannot give me a reason for it, he is just begging me to let it go. I have tried but I'm still hurting, i'm still obsessing about it. How can I heal? I don't want to die and leave my children. How can I stop this pain that is eating me up?

I have read all the articles I can find online about how to get past a cheating husband, it doesn't seem to help. I asked my husband if he used a condom and if I need to go and check for STDs. He is not able to answer me directly but says we can both go and get checked out. I feel like God has forsaken me and I don't deserve it. I have tried to be a good girl all my life. I need this pain in my heart to stop. I need to be sane again.

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

Prettydiamond:
only ur name have sent me flying